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Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:08 PM

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Originally posted by Manic_Skafe
This sounds far too much like an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm.

This wouldn't have happened to me just because I don't have a high enough tolerance for annoyance. But if it ever did I'd be sure to stake my claim on everything the second he got there: both armrests would be mine and I'd probably take up so much leg room that he'd have to sit with his legs closed and moved to the side to accomodate for all of my leg room. And I'm even more of an asshole on the bus/train.

Just be glad he didn't offer free tix to the show in his pants.

Okay...first off.......HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!

Secondly, I couldn't be a dick to him but I DID stake my claim on both armrests and didn't move my arms once!!

Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:10 PM

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Originally posted by Arc101
Perhaps he had a weird sense of humour – he might have thought it funny to sit next to you just to make you feel uncomfortable, or maybe if the film got too scary he might have wanted to hold your hand – you never know your luck.

By the way, was the film any good ?

I don't think it was a sense of humor because during some of the funny moments of the film when I laughed out loud....he was stoic. Or at least I didn't hear him laugh. I didn't want to look at him cause it was weird enough that he was next to me.

And if he tried to hold my hand...trust me...he DEFINITELY wouldn't been moving over to another seat. Either on his own or with my help.

Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:11 PM

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Originally posted by Gustoferson
Interesting thought, guess it would make a nice mild 'candid camera' type prank. Just see how people react when as some of the only people in a movie you sit down right next to them for no reason. In fact, kind of makes me want to try that sometime if i'm bored enough. Or you could start out on the end of the row then every few minutes get up and move one seat over for no reason, till eventually you're right next to the person.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! Yeah...I could see where that would be kinda funny!

Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:12 PM

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Originally posted by bermuDa
it would have bugged me mostly because I like to make full use of the arm rests. For many guys there is a comfort zone... and that's "as far away from the next guy as possible"

Exactly. And that's how I feel.

Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:15 PM

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Originally posted by crow_daw
One note, you said that you and your friends didn't even sit together at the movies. My friends and I always sit together, so we can make very low comments on the movie. Heightens the experience, IMO. So I guess your personal space issues are more extreme than mine, but what you described would even bother me, yes.

Well...we sit together if the theatre is kinda crowded and it's no big deal. But if the place is practically empty...we leave one seat open between us. And it's not a homophobe thing it's just so that we can have more space to spread out.

Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:20 PM

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Originally posted by degrawj
oh man, this reminds me of a class i took in college a while ago! it was a sociology class on social deviance and abnormal behavior. one of the first things we talked about in the class were "social norms." social norms are sometimes hard to define, but one of the examples that the instructor used was exactly like what you just went through Gjefflin. he talked about how it would not be normal if you were sitting in a completely empty movie theatre, and then somebody comes in and sits right next to you. that's not normal! but if it was really full, and someone came and sat next to you, it's not such a big deal. it all depends on the circumstances. in your case though, i definitely think he was hitting on you. that sucks if it bothers you. if a girl usually hits on me, even if she's not that attractive or anything, i usually take it as a compliment. but then again, a movie isn't a very good place to hit on a girl. you go to watch a movie, not a person.

Well....not for nothin'...if it was a woman then it would've been a different story. I would've just thought she was coming on to me. Or...if I was gay it would've been a different story because I would think it was the same deal. But this wasn't the case so it was just annoying.

Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:21 PM

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Originally posted by Polyphobic
It is my belief that if you go to the movies with someone (friends, family, SO, etc) you sit next to each other. Why sit apart from each other? Is everyone that homophobic?

As I said in a later response, it's not homophobia...it's just a personal space issue between men. If you can have more room why not have it?

Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:23 PM

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Originally posted by mrsandman
I'd be wondering: "Does this dick have a clue that I am armed?"

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!

Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:25 PM

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Originally posted by thadon
gjefflin, that is definitely strange, I would have moved .. don't fock w/ my movie watching experience. Also do not fock w/ mt ber as I am drink now. Viva Carona

Y the hell should I move?! I was there first!!!! NO WAY IN HELL! I PLANTED MY DAMN FLAG (ie: soda) in the CUP HOLDER OF LIFE!! I WILL NOT BE MOVED!!! I WILL NOT BE PERSUADED! I WILL NOT BE IGNORED DAN!!! (whoops....ignore that last one)

whocarz · 07-17-2004, 08:36 PM

Dude, can't you combine all your posts into one? It gets kind of annoying when you have nine (NINE!) replies back to back to back.

Anyway, maybe he was lonely and wanted to make a friend? Definately strange, and that shit wouldn't fly with me. Of course I don't go to movies alone, I go with friends, and we always sit next to each other. That way we can talk about/ridicule the movie without pissing others off (unless the movie really blows ass).

Gjefflin · 07-17-2004, 08:42 PM

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Originally posted by whocarz
Dude, can't you combine all your posts into one? It gets kind of annoying when you have nine (NINE!) replies back to back to back.

Anyway, maybe he was lonely and wanted to make a friend? Definately strange, and that shit wouldn't fly with me. Of course I don't go to movies alone, I go with friends, and we always sit next to each other. That way we can talk about/ridicule the movie without pissing others off (unless the movie really blows ass).

Sorry about the annoyance. But I like to answer each one individually. If I post to someone I'd rather see a direct response then have to wade through a long post trying to find the response to just my post.

SecretMethod70 · 07-18-2004, 12:41 AM

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Originally posted by flamingdog
Cinema seats are a bit different, though, it's not like you're using that space right next to you, and it's his right to sit there if he wants. Your attention is focused forward, so who gives a fuck who's sitting next to you? I mean, maybe he could have asked if you minded him sitting there to give you the right of refusal, but really, it's not your space to defend, so what so you care?

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Originally posted by Polyphobic
It is my belief that if you go to the movies with someone (friends, family, SO, etc) you sit next to each other. Why sit apart from each other? Is everyone that homophobic?

Both said very well. Why wouldn't you sit next to your friends? I mean....sheesh.

Personally, the center is the best part to sit in for obvious reasons. Now, perhaps he should have sat in the center of a different row (if there were many seats available) but I really don't see this as THAT odd.

warrrreagl · 07-18-2004, 03:41 AM

In Southern culture, "free space" is a neccessity. If there are two cars parked on a row, a Southerner will instinctively park in the space that is the geometric center between the two cars (giving maximum room on each side). That's why Southerners are appalled at the idea of going to the Jersey shore, where people are packed on top of each other. If you go to a Florida panhandle beach, you'll see Southerners pick spots that are as far away from each other as possible.

Yankees, on the other hand, tend to cluster together for some reason. They walk in packs, drive in packs, and sit together in packs.

Therefore, my observation on your movie seat situation is that the guy was a Yankee.

SecretMethod70 · 07-18-2004, 05:10 AM

ROFL. That must be way I don't see what the big deal is. I'm a damn Yankee

Gjefflin · 07-18-2004, 08:26 AM

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Originally posted by warrrreagl
In Southern culture, "free space" is a neccessity. If there are two cars parked on a row, a Southerner will instinctively park in the space that is the geometric center between the two cars (giving maximum room on each side). That's why Southerners are appalled at the idea of going to the Jersey shore, where people are packed on top of each other. If you go to a Florida panhandle beach, you'll see Southerners pick spots that are as far away from each other as possible.

Yankees, on the other hand, tend to cluster together for some reason. They walk in packs, drive in packs, and sit together in packs.

Therefore, my observation on your movie seat situation is that the guy was a Yankee.

Well actually i'm a yankee and so are all of my friends. I'm from and live in New York. So I don't think it's a North and South thing. What "I" see is that people from other countries don't have the space issues while we Americans do. I went to Amsterdam awhile back and people were jammed in together on the bus while pushing and shoving and stepping on my feet and not one person said "Sorry". They just don't have the "personal space" issues that we have.

Fenton-J-Cool · 07-18-2004, 01:35 PM

This is one thing that continually enrages me about buses and movies. No one ever sits right beside a stranger in a crowded movie theatre, so even when the theatre is 'full', in reality, there's about 50 unused seats acting as comfort spacers.

Xell101 · 07-18-2004, 03:04 PM

Sounds like he wanted to wierd you out of the seat. I'm eye for an eye when it comes to trivial stuff like this, so I would've wierded him right back.

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Originally posted by Fenton-J-Cool
This is one thing that continually enrages me about buses and movies. No one ever sits right beside a stranger in a crowded movie theatre, so even when the theatre is 'full', in reality, there's about 50 unused seats acting as comfort spacers.

Indeed, breaks up groups and looks damn foolish. Makes em look like many would have an "Ahh, people!" reaction in an unexpected social encounter.

Gjefflin · 07-18-2004, 03:08 PM

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Originally posted by Fenton-J-Cool
This is one thing that continually enrages me about buses and movies. No one ever sits right beside a stranger in a crowded movie theatre, so even when the theatre is 'full', in reality, there's about 50 unused seats acting as comfort spacers.

Hmm...actually...you're right. You always see spotty available seats in a full theatre and they're all usually 1's.

Prince · 07-18-2004, 04:35 PM

I always sat right next to my brother when we went to the movies. I would feel like an idiot sitting a seat apart... My ego isn't big enough to need THAT much personal space.

As for what that guy was thinking... he probably wanted to make a move on you. You should be delighted that someone potentially found you that attractive/interesting/whatever.

Gjefflin · 07-18-2004, 08:15 PM

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Originally posted by Prince
I always sat right next to my brother when we went to the movies. I would feel like an idiot sitting a seat apart... My ego isn't big enough to need THAT much personal space.

As for what that guy was thinking... he probably wanted to make a move on you. You should be delighted that someone potentially found you that attractive/interesting/whatever.

I don't think he wanted to make a move because I know a few gay people and they're not shy. If he wanted to try and hook up he would've tried to chat at me at least at some point and he didn't. So everything was copacetic. Nah....I just think that he wanted to be as close to the center of the screen as possible.

Willy · 07-18-2004, 11:07 PM

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Originally posted by bermuDa
it would have bugged me mostly because I like to make full use of the arm rests. For many guys there is a comfort zone... and that's "as far away from the next guy as possible"

Hehe, same here. It's all about having full control of both armrests. If we're at the movies and you're not my girlfriend don't sit next to me unless there's not enough space.

I also don't get why people are embarassed about going to a movie by themselves. Of all the leisure activities, movies are the best thing to do alone. Hell you're sitting in a dark theatre looking forward, does having someone you know in the seat next to you add anything to the experience? I hate having someone talking during the movie, even if they're talking to me, so if my friends can't keep their mouth shut through a movie, I'd rather they weren't there at all

lurkette · 07-19-2004, 07:12 AM

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Originally posted by Gjefflin
I don't think he wanted to make a move because I know a few gay people and they're not shy.

And of course all gay people are alike....

/tweak

Sargeman · 07-19-2004, 07:34 AM

When I read the original post the first thing that came up was that EuroTrip movie. The part where that French guy sits right next to and in between those guys.....

"Oh Escusa" as he puts his hand on that one guys leg...

blindawg · 07-19-2004, 11:54 AM

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Originally posted by Sargeman
When I read the original post the first thing that came up was that EuroTrip movie. The part where that French guy sits right next to and in between those guys.....

"Oh Escusa" as he puts his hand on that one guys leg...

That was hilarious...

But yeah the whole situtation is very stange.. I always sit a seat apart frommy friends as long as there is room at the theater... i'm not freaked out by being next to them, its more of a comfor thing..

Polyphobic · 07-19-2004, 01:03 PM

At least he didn't sit on your lap. That is what I would qualify as strange.
Also, gay men/women are just like the rest of us. Some are shy, some are outgoing, etc. No need to generalize that all would immediately hit on you.

Gjefflin · 07-19-2004, 07:08 PM

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Originally posted by Willy
Hehe, same here. It's all about having full control of both armrests. If we're at the movies and you're not my girlfriend don't sit next to me unless there's not enough space.

I also don't get why people are embarassed about going to a movie by themselves. Of all the leisure activities, movies are the best thing to do alone. Hell you're sitting in a dark theatre looking forward, does having someone you know in the seat next to you add anything to the experience? I hate having someone talking during the movie, even if they're talking to me, so if my friends can't keep their mouth shut through a movie, I'd rather they weren't there at all

I'm SO with you!!! I enjoy going to the movies alone!!! Most of my friends though would never do it. Don't understand why.

Gjefflin · 07-19-2004, 07:10 PM

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Originally posted by lurkette
And of course all gay people are alike....

/tweak

Hey hey hey! Don't twist my words! What I was saying is that if he WAS gay and he had the balls enough to sit next to me he wouldn't be too shy to try and strike up a conversation after that bold move.

Gjefflin · 07-19-2004, 07:11 PM

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Originally posted by Polyphobic
At least he didn't sit on your lap. That is what I would qualify as strange.
Also, gay men/women are just like the rest of us. Some are shy, some are outgoing, etc. No need to generalize that all would immediately hit on you.

Again...NOT generalizing. I was basically stating what I said in my previous post. Please read up one.

sonofsamedi · 07-19-2004, 08:22 PM

You could have just said "Sure you can sit next to me, but popcorn gives me some horrendous chair melting farts."

Gjefflin · 07-19-2004, 09:18 PM

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Originally posted by sonofsamedi
You could have just said "Sure you can sit next to me, but popcorn gives me some horrendous chair melting farts."

hahahahahahahah!!!! Well...either that or I should've started farting. But then I would've felt bad about the people behind me. LOL!!!!

analog · 07-19-2004, 10:45 PM

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Originally posted by Gjefflin
...he leans over and asks if anyone is sitting in the seat next to me.

See, this whole story is why I tell people "yes" if they ask. I enjoy my alone movie time. I get there very early to be sure I get the seat I want. I like being away from other people in the theater.

Once i'm seated in the theater, I do not move. I don't care who you are. Get there early next time.

Also: I have been hit on a few times by gay men (not in a theater). Although they are peddling their wares at the wrong bake sale, I am flattered that I am attractive enough to them to make them want to try.

TopRamen66 · 07-19-2004, 11:31 PM

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Originally posted by Gjefflin

It's like when you go to the bathroom and you're using the urinals. You wouldn't choose one directly next to a dude if there are other empty ones to use. It's just not right.

I've never thought about this. Whats wrong with using a urnal next to another dude? As long as you're not checking out his wang or something, I dont see a problem. I just go to the nearest one to the sinks and door.

mrsandman · 07-20-2004, 12:54 AM

If there's six unirals and 3 dudes pissing, they're equally spaced so nobody is next to each other. If a 4th one walks in, he's looking for the toilets.

Polyphobic · 07-20-2004, 05:04 AM

*bangs head into desk*

greytone · 07-20-2004, 05:44 AM

My immediate reaction would have been to get up and move back several rows (so I could keep an I on him) because I have a really big "personal space." But he was probably trying to weird you out. There is no way anyone would do this just to get a better seat. Thinking about it a little more, the best response might have been to work up a couple of really good farts.

Gjefflin · 07-20-2004, 08:21 AM

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Originally posted by greytone
My immediate reaction would have been to get up and move back several rows (so I could keep an I on him) because I have a really big "personal space." But he was probably trying to weird you out. There is no way anyone would do this just to get a better seat. Thinking about it a little more, the best response might have been to work up a couple of really good farts.

Well about 20 minutes into the movie, a kinda cute woman sat on the other side of me so...farting was out.

Nazggul · 07-20-2004, 03:48 PM

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Originally posted by Gjefflin
B) He was planning on hitting on me...

Did he? If not then it was likely just positioning.

Fearless_Hyena · 07-20-2004, 05:04 PM

he just wanted to give you a big smooch

Gjefflin · 07-20-2004, 06:05 PM

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Originally posted by Nazggul
Did he? If not then it was likely just positioning.

Nah. He didn't. That's why I came to the conclusion that he was just anal and wanted to be near the center of the screen.

Prince · 07-22-2004, 04:59 AM

So if it had been a woman, you'd have been okay with it?

A really hot one?

What if the woman was 5'6" and 250 lbs?

Just trying to figure out where the 'comfort zone' begins and ends.

07-17-2004, 08:36 PM	#50 (permalink)
whocarz Jarhead Location: Colorado	Dude, can't you combine all your posts into one? It gets kind of annoying when you have nine (NINE!) replies back to back to back. Anyway, maybe he was lonely and wanted to make a friend? Definately strange, and that shit wouldn't fly with me. Of course I don't go to movies alone, I go with friends, and we always sit next to each other. That way we can talk about/ridicule the movie without pissing others off (unless the movie really blows ass). __________________ If there exists anything mightier than destiny, then it is the courage to face destiny unflinchingly. -Geibel Despise not death, but welcome it, for nature wills it like all else. -Marcus Aurelius Come on, you sons of bitches! Do you want to live forever? -GySgt. Daniel J. "Dan" Daly

07-18-2004, 03:41 AM	#53 (permalink)
warrrreagl pinche vato Location: backwater, Third World, land of cotton	In Southern culture, "free space" is a neccessity. If there are two cars parked on a row, a Southerner will instinctively park in the space that is the geometric center between the two cars (giving maximum room on each side). That's why Southerners are appalled at the idea of going to the Jersey shore, where people are packed on top of each other. If you go to a Florida panhandle beach, you'll see Southerners pick spots that are as far away from each other as possible. Yankees, on the other hand, tend to cluster together for some reason. They walk in packs, drive in packs, and sit together in packs. Therefore, my observation on your movie seat situation is that the guy was a Yankee. __________________ Living is easy with eyes closed.

07-18-2004, 05:10 AM	#54 (permalink)
SecretMethod70 Human Administrator Location: Chicago	ROFL. That must be way I don't see what the big deal is. I'm a damn Yankee __________________ Le temps détruit tout "Musicians are the carriers and communicators of spirit in the most immediate sense." - Kurt Elling

07-18-2004, 01:35 PM	#56 (permalink)
Fenton-J-Cool Insane Location: Toronto	This is one thing that continually enrages me about buses and movies. No one ever sits right beside a stranger in a crowded movie theatre, so even when the theatre is 'full', in reality, there's about 50 unused seats acting as comfort spacers. __________________ wra

07-18-2004, 04:35 PM	#59 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	I always sat right next to my brother when we went to the movies. I would feel like an idiot sitting a seat apart... My ego isn't big enough to need THAT much personal space. As for what that guy was thinking... he probably wanted to make a move on you. You should be delighted that someone potentially found you that attractive/interesting/whatever. __________________ Who is John Galt?

07-19-2004, 07:34 AM	#63 (permalink)
Sargeman Insane Location: Texas	When I read the original post the first thing that came up was that EuroTrip movie. The part where that French guy sits right next to and in between those guys..... "Oh Escusa" as he puts his hand on that one guys leg... __________________ ...because there are no facts, there is no truth, just data to be manipulated. I can get you any results you like, what's it worth to you.....

07-19-2004, 01:03 PM	#65 (permalink)
Polyphobic Runt Location: Denver	At least he didn't sit on your lap. That is what I would qualify as strange. Also, gay men/women are just like the rest of us. Some are shy, some are outgoing, etc. No need to generalize that all would immediately hit on you. __________________ <--The great infidel-->

07-19-2004, 08:22 PM	#69 (permalink)
sonofsamedi Upright Location: SW MO	You could have just said "Sure you can sit next to me, but popcorn gives me some horrendous chair melting farts." __________________ *I'm not dead... Just rotting.*

07-20-2004, 12:54 AM	#73 (permalink)
mrsandman Addict Location: 3rd coast area	If there's six unirals and 3 dudes pissing, they're equally spaced so nobody is next to each other. If a 4th one walks in, he's looking for the toilets. __________________ Hail to ALL the troops and shadow warriors.

07-20-2004, 05:04 AM	#74 (permalink)
Polyphobic Runt Location: Denver	bangs head into desk __________________ <--The great infidel-->

07-20-2004, 05:44 AM	#75 (permalink)
greytone Junkie	My immediate reaction would have been to get up and move back several rows (so I could keep an I on him) because I have a really big "personal space." But he was probably trying to weird you out. There is no way anyone would do this just to get a better seat. Thinking about it a little more, the best response might have been to work up a couple of really good farts. __________________ I was there to see beautiful naked women. So was everybody else. It's a common failing. Robert A Heinlein in "They Do It With Mirrors"

07-20-2004, 05:04 PM	#78 (permalink)
Fearless_Hyena Hello, good evening, and bollocks. Location: near DC	he just wanted to give you a big smooch

07-22-2004, 04:59 AM	#80 (permalink)
Prince /nɑndəsˈkrɪpt/ Location: LV-426	So if it had been a woman, you'd have been okay with it? A really hot one? What if the woman was 5'6" and 250 lbs? Just trying to figure out where the 'comfort zone' begins and ends. __________________ Who is John Galt?