I have a male friend that cries at sad movies...and he thinks I'm cold hearted because I don't

Pretty much sums it up for me. I've always had a pretty high tolerance for physical pain. Although I cry for emotional reasons, I prefer to do it in private.

I'll agree with the pain=no tears thing... Swearing is better for pain anyways.

But I cried when a friend of mine committed suicide, but I didn't so much when my grandmother passed away.

I guess it was a different set of circumstances there.

When I was younger I cried when I watched "My Dog Skip"

Oh and when I broke my favorite girls heart by not being there for her when she needed me... I still cry about that when we talk about it.

Sometimes I really want to cry, just to purge the bad feelings, but I can't. The tears start welling up and then somehow it turns into a laugh instead.

I Concur with above, pain=no tears, emotions=tears ok, and I don't see anything wrong with that.

Agreed. I had all the skin shredded off my left arm in a skateboarding accident back in '96, didn't even dream of crying.

I cry. If something upsets me enough to make me cry, sure as hell I'm gonna cry.

I can't cry anymore. I know it'd make me feel better sometimes, but I have this weird inability to cry. I was...probably nine years old when I last cried.

Well crying from physical is plain silly. I don't do it and I don't get the urge either. When I get hurt physically I get scared or I get mad. Those are useful reactions to being hurt.
Crying is a useless reaction to getting hurt.

Now... crying over emotional distress? Hells yeah I do that. It's how I communicate the severity with which something is bothering me to others.

PS I am a guy

Was goint to write that, but you said it perfectly. Nicely done.

I only cry when I'm depressed or sad. Sure I'll get a little teary-eyed sometimes but hardly ever real tears.

I'm a girl.

I almost never ever cry in public (not counting boyfriends who get to see everytihng) for a lot of reasons. For starters, there is a difference between feeling pain (both physical and emotional) and suffering for it. I will clearly acknowledge (spelling?) that something has hurt me, because that is useful, but I'm not going to feel all sorry for myself and get all worked up.

Also, I don't want to make whoever hurt me feel bad (if they are a friend) or good (if they are an enemy). If, for example, my father runs over my foot with a truck, he's going to feel horrible enough already without my falling all to peices and making him feel worse. If, also for example, some creep deliberately gives me wrong directions and gets me lost, there's no way I'm going to let him win by getting upset over it!

Finally, I often want to cry when a friend is crying, just because I feel their pain almost as much as I feel my own, but I can't imagine anything worse (at least, for me it would be horrible) than to know that my tears were making my best friend cry. Plus, I think it's important to be a steady, solid, supportive person in bad situations.

But when alone, all bets are off, including the one about not wallowing in my own misery. I figure, what's life if you can't wallow once in a while? ;-)

I cry, and i cry a lot, but i never cry because i got phisically hurt.

i cry when i start hating myself...thankfully hasnt happened more then a few times
and when my dog died :(

All that fits me good. I cried three times in high school, and I think they were the only times I've cried since puberty...

1) My Junior year, I started my first full football game at Free Safety...I gave it everything I had and we still lost, which killed me inside.

2) My great-grandmother died last January, which is the closest death I've ever experienced. She had also been sick since about the October before that, so it was expected. It still tore me up though.

3) Our football team got to the play-offs for the first time in about six or seven years this past November, and we were facing the favorite for the State Championship in the first round. We lost and we lost hard, but we gave some hellacious effort. It wasn't just the effort, but the fact that it was our last football game. Outside of my great-grandma dying, that's the most pain I've ever ever experienced.

I still hurt when I think about #2 and #3, though I haven't cried about them since the event happened.

Here i thought i would be the only guy saying that pain just makes me curse and scream *and half the time hurting myself worse in the process of being angry with myself for getting hurt to begin with* but loved ones dying tragically will usually drop me to my knees for a while.

I cry a lot.

Sometimes it's the tears-welling-in-my-eyes cry, other rarer times it's the chest-heaving-sobbing cry. In fact, just today I was so overwhelmed with sheer happiness, joy and beauty that I cried, and even sobbed a couple of times.

I cried when my children were born. If God grants me more, I'll cry then too.

I cried when my son died. A lot. For years. Occasionally it will still overwhelm me.

I cried when I saw my son's prom pictures.

So, for me it's a normal emotional response.

There's something very attractive about a man that's not afraid to cry....

*shrugs* or maybe I'm just an odd duck...

the only times i can remember crying are these

-when my dad and stepmom got divorced(my mom and dad got divorced when i was less than a year old so i didnt have to deal w/ that)
--didnt care about my stepmom, didnt really like her, but i knew after that i would never see my stepbrother again, and we had a great bond.

-when my dog died
--i was playing w/ it out in the yard, and a car drove by and she chased it, ran under the wheel, and the car sped away

-at the end of the movie "the green mile"
--not sure if i was just really stressed out, or if i related the movie to something that had happened to me, or what.

physical pain - i dont cry, i mostly just get pissed off and yell

emotional pain - has to be pretty serious for me to cry

I don't cry at a lot of things, but i never cry in the moment. I'm too self-conditioned to take care of everything else first, and then me. I pride myself on that... I can be strong for others when they need it (sure i show emotion but i don't cry) and then later, after all is said and done, I cry like a damn baby. I like taking care of the situation i'm in and setting aside my emotions.

Example: in my journal, i wrote about being told something horrible over the phone, and I thought someone very dear to me (like a sister) was dead, and then learned that she had only broken a leg. It took a good 30 minutes to regain normalcy from the shock, and then after i'd calmed down, I had a real good cry over the shock and the thought of loss.

Some emotional things make me cry almost right away, when there's no urgency: the loss of a loved SO. The movie "what dreams may come".... quiet tears through damn near half of it.

Crying is something humans do. Tell your friend not to be so superficial.

I have cried only once in the last half of my life (I'm 22) and it was just after an intense breakup. I came close to crying during the green mile but I managed to keep it in. I don't like it. :|

Personally, I have never cried since I was like 11 because of physical pain. I just feel no impulse to.

As far as emotional pain goes, yes I have cried, but in private or with my GF.

Most guys are brought up in a "Boys Don't Cry" society, and the damage this has caused to men is terrible.

Nothing helps or pain better than a hi volume of swearing, :P

I cry over emotional pain. I don't cry over physical pain.