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Old 02-15-2004, 08:00 PM   #1 (permalink)
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How to die

I've spent a lot of time on the road lately, and I've had time to think A LOT.

When it comes to dying, Grandpa did it right. About a year before he kicked off, (before he knew that he had cancer) he threw a party. He knew that he wouldn't be around forever, and he basically told everyone "goodbye." He told us all how he wanted his wake to be.

Then, when the cancer came, he died. He died at home. No hospital beds and chemicals giving him a few more days of suffering. He went quick. He went with dignity. He went with me by his side.

He died with the absolute, unshakable faith that he was going to heaven to be with his beloved wife. He knew it as sure as you know the sky is blue. I wish I had that kind of faith.

Fuckin' A, man. It's been years, and I still miss him. He knew how to do everything well, including die. And he knew how to throw a pretty damn good wake.
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Old 02-15-2004, 08:05 PM   #2 (permalink)
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yea i hope i can go out with that kind of faith, sounds like the way to go right there
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Old 02-15-2004, 08:12 PM   #3 (permalink)
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ya know

knowing how to die is just as important as knowing how to live.

ya know?
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Old 02-15-2004, 08:57 PM   #4 (permalink)
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That's awesome.

When my Grandpa passed away, he had all his children home to say goodbye too...however he wasn't very "with it" and was pretty old...it was a blessing that all his 5 kids could come say goodbye (most of them live out of state), along with several grandchildren.
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Old 02-15-2004, 10:34 PM   #5 (permalink)
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The way I see it you got two ways to die

1) Quiet
2) Loud


It all depends on your personality.
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Old 02-15-2004, 11:13 PM   #6 (permalink)
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My grandma was the quiet kind. She went for her usual 2 mile walk. When she got home she told her husband that she was tired and layed down to nap. She never woke up. Personally, I would love to go that way -- no pain or suffering!
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Old 02-16-2004, 02:04 AM   #7 (permalink)
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When I turn 85 I'm going to have my grandchildren hire a team of assassins to fight me to the death.

With swords.
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Old 02-16-2004, 02:10 AM   #8 (permalink)
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being at peace with yourself and your life is one of the best prerations that I think you can have.

it is sad if your farewell has to be through a durg - illness haze, but we are finite and anything can happen.


But in my sleep after saying goodbye to everyone seems to be the way I would like to leave .

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When I turn 85 I'm going to have my grandchildren hire a team of assassins to fight me to the death.
WHy wait till 85
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Old 02-16-2004, 02:42 AM   #9 (permalink)
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I've just decided that I want the assassins to be ninjas as well.
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Old 02-16-2004, 02:53 AM   #10 (permalink)
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I've just decided that I want the assassins to be ninjas as well.
Bit like Inspector Clouseau? Have them attack you when you come back from walking the dog. Always on guard.
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Old 02-16-2004, 03:35 AM   #11 (permalink)
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can not remeber the title, but I wet myself when Kato attacks Clouseau, when he is trying to get it on with a lady and they all end up in a lake.


It would stop life getting dull.
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Old 02-16-2004, 03:37 AM   #12 (permalink)
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When I turn 85 I'm going to have my grandchildren hire a team of assassins to fight me to the death.

With swords.
I'm quoting this to as many people as I know. Hope you dont mind.
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Old 02-16-2004, 04:03 AM   #13 (permalink)
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When I turn 85 I'm going to have my grandchildren hire a team of assassins to fight me to the death.

With swords.
That is class.
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Old 02-16-2004, 06:12 AM   #14 (permalink)
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When I turn 85 I'm going to have my grandchildren hire a team of assassins to fight me to the death.

With swords.
lol, so much for not dying a painful death...
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Old 02-16-2004, 06:31 AM   #15 (permalink)
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After being there when both my grandmas died, I decided that I do not want to live as long or be in the same situation as they were. They both lived long wonderfull lives, both had a number of children and grandchildren, and both had the faith that they were going to a better place..

BUT. Our need to prolong and try to heal, forced them in this world for much longer then they should have been. With chemicals, and respirators, and white stale hospitals..

Give me a house in the country, a dog, and a chair looking out on the lake. The strongest chemicals you can put in me is aged single malt scotch, then when I die, bury me out there..

It would give me more peace of mind to know that my relations didnt spend hours pacing in a hospital, or fretted over my drugged up maddening outbursts..

Just my thoughts
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Old 02-16-2004, 07:36 AM   #16 (permalink)
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After being there when both my grandmas died, I decided that I do not want to live as long or be in the same situation as they were. They both lived long wonderfull lives, both had a number of children and grandchildren, and both had the faith that they were going to a better place..

BUT. Our need to prolong and try to heal, forced them in this world for much longer then they should have been. With chemicals, and respirators, and white stale hospitals..

Give me a house in the country, a dog, and a chair looking out on the lake. The strongest chemicals you can put in me is aged single malt scotch, then when I die, bury me out there..

It would give me more peace of mind to know that my relations didnt spend hours pacing in a hospital, or fretted over my drugged up maddening outbursts..

Just my thoughts

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Old 02-16-2004, 07:51 AM   #17 (permalink)
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No, the way to die is to be part of a large commercial accident that in no way can be your fault. -That way your relatives will have a nice lawsuit to ponder over.
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Old 02-16-2004, 08:06 AM   #18 (permalink)
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No, the way to die is to be part of a large commercial accident that in no way can be your fault. -That way your relatives will have a nice lawsuit to ponder over.

Are we talkin nuclear or alien?
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Old 02-16-2004, 08:13 AM   #19 (permalink)
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my genetics on both sides dictate that if I live long enough I'm going to die with alzheimers at around 80-90. Personally I hope I die of a heart attack or freeze to death(seems to be the easiest way to go) in my mid 70s.
Just want to go quick and painless.Don't want to die painful like drowning in molasses or feces or burning to death. Don't care what happens to the body after that.Hell I'll go with Conan o'brians idea of wanting to be the body that some kid finds in a field.

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Old 02-16-2004, 08:40 AM   #20 (permalink)
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Old 02-16-2004, 08:47 AM   #21 (permalink)
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For me, as long as my death doesn't come with an unbearable amount of pain, and if I don't have to spend it in a hospital (for too long at least), then I'd happy to die along family in my home.

*When I'm old (80+); no sense rushing it*
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Old 02-16-2004, 09:06 AM   #22 (permalink)
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All I know is I don't want a wake, I want a freakin' going away party. I want people to celebrate my life and the impacts I made on them (which there are hopefully some), not sit and mourn over what they are losing.

Oh, and painless would be nice. This arises another question that I think fits in with the topic...given the choice, Parkinsons or Alzheimers? The body or the mind (respectivly)? Personally I don't know. Alzheimers would be horrible, especially to those around me who have to take care of me, but I myself, would have no idea it was happening. Parkinsons, I would at least have my mind, but I'd have to watch my body deteriorate. Which would you choose?
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Old 02-16-2004, 10:21 AM   #23 (permalink)
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CLAVUS, it's good to know how much you honor your grandfather.

i think that 'certainty' is the only thing that people really want out of life. if all alse fails, they are certain that they are going where they want to be. that's cool, to say the least.
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Old 02-16-2004, 10:29 AM   #24 (permalink)
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Old 02-16-2004, 01:25 PM   #25 (permalink)
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Old 02-16-2004, 01:38 PM   #26 (permalink)
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When I die, I want to die peacefully in my sleep like my Granfather...... Not like the other five screaming idiots in his car...just kidding, that one still makes me laugh. I'm with the majority on this one, I really don't want to be kept alive with machines and drugs and stuff, I think I would really like to say goodbye to my family and friends first though. I guess we never really know when it'ss our time, I guess there is no time like the present to tell our loved ones we love them. I think I will start now.
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Old 02-16-2004, 01:42 PM   #27 (permalink)
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when I die, I wanna die like my grandfather, peacefully in his sleep, not like the 3 other people in the car screaming
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Old 02-16-2004, 01:47 PM   #28 (permalink)
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well it's just as Plato said it.. to philosophize is to learn how to die. your grandfather was a wise man.
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Old 02-16-2004, 05:46 PM   #29 (permalink)
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I've always wanted to die at war doing something courageous. I dont wanna live until Im too old to wipe my own ass.
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Old 02-16-2004, 05:51 PM   #30 (permalink)
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if i ever find out that i am terminally ill i will run up as much debt as i can.. and if i find out im not goin to die i will run up some more debt , then rob a bank and move to mexico...
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Old 02-16-2004, 07:31 PM   #31 (permalink)
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I'm gonna go out stoned off my ass...or fighting assasins with swords, both are appealing.
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Old 02-17-2004, 04:41 PM   #32 (permalink)
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I've watched several grandparents die- one in his sleep, very peacefully, after a day on the ski slopes. One died in a drug induced haze that had been keeping her painfully alive for at least a month longer than was merciful. One in an alcohol-induced dementia that rendered him useless, ugly, and with a huge mean streak.

I'd want to go in my sleep. From what I've seen, the other two just prolong misery in those that love you. I'd want my surviving family to miss me for the right reasons- not just be glad my "suffering was over".
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Old 02-17-2004, 04:43 PM   #33 (permalink)
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Old 02-18-2004, 11:43 AM   #34 (permalink)
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I don't plan on dying, the thought of it just isn't appealing to me... I will live forever! Or death will come as a stalking ninja in the night, I haven't really decided yet...
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Old 02-18-2004, 01:14 PM   #35 (permalink)
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That does sounds like a good way to go. To feel like you have finished everything here would make me not as afraid of going. My grandma was scared to death in the end that when they buried her she would somehow be cognizant of it. She had her work finished. She had said her goodbyes in October and passed in Sept.

My Uncle on the other hand has alzheimers. I pity anyone dealing with that disease. It is the most degraiding and emotionally painful that I have yet to see. His former self would be ashamed of what he's become and how he's hurt his wife. I pray I never have to deal with that personally.

How I go doesn't matter to me except I don't want to go with alzheimers and I want to know I have settled with my loved ones.
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Old 02-18-2004, 03:51 PM   #36 (permalink)
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When I turn 85 I'm going to have my grandchildren hire a team of assassins to fight me to the death.

With swords.
Spoken like a true Samurai.

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Old 02-18-2004, 05:19 PM   #37 (permalink)
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The way I see it you got two ways to die

1) Quiet
2) Loud


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What about with Ska Music and a Bright Neon Green Suit?
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Old 02-18-2004, 05:59 PM   #38 (permalink)
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I'm gonna cry like no other when my momma dies someday... but she's allready told all of us... to throw a MASSIVE party at her funeral... literally in the church if we can.. and to invite all our friends... she wants us to celebrate her going to heaven and not to sit around all sad and mourn for leaving us... pretty good attitude if you ask me.. I know I'll drink a Jimbeam and Coke for her that day
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Old 02-18-2004, 06:10 PM   #39 (permalink)
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and speaking of how I wanna go out.. I want to die where I know my children and grandchildren will be well taken care of after I die... If i can't give them enough money to live on, I want them to take it outta me even if it means me dieing from food poisioning from a fast food resturant and spending the last dieing weeks of my life fighting in a hospital bed... or falling out of a burning airplane, or shot or whatever, if they can settle a lawsuit and make enough money off of me that they will never have a worry in their life.. I'll die happy...
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Old 02-18-2004, 10:16 PM   #40 (permalink)
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I dont WANNA DIe!!!! lol but umm ya peacefully I guess but then again i wouldnt know how i died anyways cause im dead thats the thing, i wouldnt really remember..
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