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Nazggul · 10-18-2004, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Psivage

I don't know how to take that part, being gay doesn't mean something is wrong with him. If you can't accept him for who he is, perhap there is something wrong with you.

Right on. He is probably having a real hard time right now coming to terms with his own sexuality internally. What he doesn't need is to be judged and separated from his family. Accept him for who he is and make sure he knows it, otherwise you may lose him for good.

My brother didn't "officially" come out to the family until his late 20's early 30's. We all knew it, but we never spoke to him about it. It would have been much easier on him if someone approached him earlier on and promoted an accepting environment, or at least tried to let him know that it was OK. His relationship with my Mother today would certainly be on better terms. Think about him and support him.

iceburn · 10-19-2004, 10:39 AM

ugh. this is like that mr. show skit after "indominable spirit" plays.

no one is saying it's WRONG to be gay. haven't you people ever seen zoolander or simple life. don't you get that farm-life and metrosexual folk living in the same house is going to create tension? Neither one is wrong, the parents love the kid, it's just like clash of civilizations. These are like the fundamental polar differences our modern society has to offer, it's like Bush's heartland values vs. west hollywood flamboyancy. Both sides don't understand each other and it's like Cold War relations. Understand the family dynamics yall! If you grew up in a happy utopia suburb where your parents were moderates or whatever, you're missing the point.

iceburn · 10-19-2004, 10:43 AM

nazggul, that was a good post... I was addressing the "there's nothing wrong with being gay" posts. and I think I over-reacted. But, perhaps they're trying to make the same point you just did. The parents are the adults and should promote an environment where the kid does not feel like there's something wrong. I am also just trying to get the point across that the kid should be expected to meet them halfway and participate in the same kind of stuff to a reasonable degree, that the rest of the family does. sort of. I hope that makes sense.

StormBerlin · 10-19-2004, 10:52 AM

Wow, the kids only twelve and he already has a ton of pressure to decide what his sexuality is? He shouldn't be thinking like that at all yet. Just because he does the arm wavy thing doesn't mean he's gay, and just because he doesn't like to bale hay doesn't mean he's gay either.
Does he have sexual feeling towards other males? Then he might be gay. But he also might not. My point is, he's twelve. Let him do his thing and stop pressuring some sort of gender role on him. Tell your step parents to do the same thing and he'll turn out the way he's supposed to turn out.

sky_driver · 10-22-2004, 12:30 PM

I think Suave said it best. I won't even try to get inside your step-brother's head, but the best thing you can offer him now, and in the future, is your support no matter what the future holds. He might be very confused and having an older brother he can talk to will mean a lot to him.

feelgood · 10-22-2004, 02:43 PM

Wow, I posted this thread like 9 months ago and I'm surprised it's hasn't been deleted in maintenance.

Right now, quite frankly, I don't really give a crap about whether or not he's gay. The only way I'm gonna give a crap is when he decides to put some moves on me. I'm not saying that I don't have a problem with gay/lesbian people, I just have a problem with them pulling moves on me.

canuckguy · 10-22-2004, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by feelgood

Wow, I posted this thread like 9 months ago and I'm surprised it's hasn't been deleted in maintenance.

Right now, quite frankly, I don't really give a crap about whether or not he's gay. The only way I'm gonna give a crap is when he decides to put some moves on me. I'm not saying that I don't have a problem with gay/lesbian people, I just have a problem with them pulling moves on me.

just asking, why would it bother you if a gay person asked you out? do you feel threatened or tempted? just wondering. you should be grateful and take it as a compliment imo. I remember once i was having dinner at the olive garden with my wife, and the waiter handed me the bill and his phone number. made me laugh my ass off and was a nice ego boost. all you have to do is say, "no i am not interested".

edit- sorry i have not changed my post just wanted to add that i am sorry did not want to come across as looking for a fight, was just "frustrated". i will leave the post as is, but want to say i am sorry and wrote it out of anger not love. my apologies.

Lasereth · 10-22-2004, 04:28 PM

I wear Man-Capris.

I think they're cool...

*edit* And Potter for Life!

-Lasereth

optik_nerve · 10-22-2004, 07:12 PM

Maybe he is a "metrosexual?"

feelgood · 10-22-2004, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by brian1975

just asking, why would it bother you if a gay person asked you out? do you feel threatened or tempted? just wondering. you should be grateful and take it as a compliment imo. I remember once i was having dinner at the olive garden with my wife, and the waiter handed me the bill and his phone number. made me laugh my ass off and was a nice ego boost. all you have to do is say, "no i am not interested".

edit- sorry i have not changed my post just wanted to add that i am sorry did not want to come across as looking for a fight, was just "frustrated". i will leave the post as is, but want to say i am sorry and wrote it out of anger not love. my apologies.

No, I wouldn't mind being asked out but when I make my sexual orientation clear, I just dont want to be bothered anymore.

go-bots · 10-22-2004, 07:21 PM

my friend wore dresses and has a sewing machine but he aint gay. hes got a man thong, tried on womens underwear and bras but hes just one of those freaks.

Anomaly_ · 10-22-2004, 07:23 PM

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Originally Posted by feelgood

I'm not saying that I don't have a problem with gay/lesbian people, I just have a problem with them pulling moves on me.

If you had a sister, would you even give any thought to her putting some moves on you? I suppose in a horribly screwed up, incestous family this might be a reality, but I'm guessing that is not the case with your family. The fact that he might be gay doesn't automatically mean he has unhealthy familial boundaries.

soloist124 · 10-26-2004, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by feelgood

Ok, my 12 years old step-brother is gay. I know it, streak_56 (My brother) knows it, and cheesebreath (My sister) knows it too, even my mom knows it too. The biggest problem is whether my step-mother, my dad and my step-sister just can't seem to accept it. I mentioned this to some of my cousins and some of them acknowledged that he's gay.

You know how like if you do waves with your hand or arm when you're dancing and it's all so choppy and you can't do it perfectly? Well, this little dude has mastered it. I don't know how but he does.

When I was his age or when my brother was his age, we would be cutting the grass, do shitload of farm work, get our ass kicked by cows and lifting bales of hay around the ranch. But, my step-brother just either sits around and read his harry potter book, doing some sewing, squeals like a girl whenever Beckham or whatever the soccer player name is mentioned in this particular movie just...scares me. He got a sewing machine for xmas! I remember asking for toys and cool shits but sewing machine?

What made me want to post this is that I found him walking around in this pant.

Capri Pant!

I mean comon! How many *Straight* guys do you usually find wearing those kind of pants? Practically none. I sure hell wouldn't wear it unless they pay me to.

The damn kid just...scares me. Seriously does. I mean, he does absolutely nothing that an average 12 years old would do. The biggest problem is that my family just won't admit that there's a possiblity that there's something wrong with him.

Is it me or...?

Comment peeps!

wow, it must be hard for you guys to accept this but you have to. He cannot change the way he is. Good luck with everything.

10-19-2004, 10:39 AM	#42 (permalink)
iceburn Tilted Location: CT	ugh. this is like that mr. show skit after "indominable spirit" plays. no one is saying it's WRONG to be gay. haven't you people ever seen zoolander or simple life. don't you get that farm-life and metrosexual folk living in the same house is going to create tension? Neither one is wrong, the parents love the kid, it's just like clash of civilizations. These are like the fundamental polar differences our modern society has to offer, it's like Bush's heartland values vs. west hollywood flamboyancy. Both sides don't understand each other and it's like Cold War relations. Understand the family dynamics yall! If you grew up in a happy utopia suburb where your parents were moderates or whatever, you're missing the point. __________________ ... and shit.

10-19-2004, 10:43 AM	#43 (permalink)
iceburn Tilted Location: CT	nazggul, that was a good post... I was addressing the "there's nothing wrong with being gay" posts. and I think I over-reacted. But, perhaps they're trying to make the same point you just did. The parents are the adults and should promote an environment where the kid does not feel like there's something wrong. I am also just trying to get the point across that the kid should be expected to meet them halfway and participate in the same kind of stuff to a reasonable degree, that the rest of the family does. sort of. I hope that makes sense. __________________ ... and shit.

10-19-2004, 10:52 AM	#44 (permalink)
StormBerlin Happy as a hippo Location: Southern California	Wow, the kids only twelve and he already has a ton of pressure to decide what his sexuality is? He shouldn't be thinking like that at all yet. Just because he does the arm wavy thing doesn't mean he's gay, and just because he doesn't like to bale hay doesn't mean he's gay either. Does he have sexual feeling towards other males? Then he might be gay. But he also might not. My point is, he's twelve. Let him do his thing and stop pressuring some sort of gender role on him. Tell your step parents to do the same thing and he'll turn out the way he's supposed to turn out. __________________ "if anal sex could get a girl pregnant i'd be tits deep in child support" Arcane

10-22-2004, 02:43 PM	#46 (permalink)
feelgood Free Mars! Location: I dunno, there's white people around me saying "eh" all the time	Wow, I posted this thread like 9 months ago and I'm surprised it's hasn't been deleted in maintenance. Right now, quite frankly, I don't really give a crap about whether or not he's gay. The only way I'm gonna give a crap is when he decides to put some moves on me. I'm not saying that I don't have a problem with gay/lesbian people, I just have a problem with them pulling moves on me. __________________ Looking out the window, that's an act of war. Staring at my shoes, that's an act of war. Committing an act of war? Oh you better believe that's an act of war

10-22-2004, 04:28 PM	#48 (permalink)
Lasereth Knight of the Old Republic Location: Winston-Salem, NC	I wear Man-Capris. I think they're cool... edit And Potter for Life! -Lasereth __________________ "A Darwinian attacks his theory, seeking to find flaws. An ID believer defends his theory, seeking to conceal flaws." -Roger Ebert Last edited by Lasereth; 10-22-2004 at 04:37 PM..

10-22-2004, 12:30 PM	#45 (permalink)
sky_driver Insane	I think Suave said it best. I won't even try to get inside your step-brother's head, but the best thing you can offer him now, and in the future, is your support no matter what the future holds. He might be very confused and having an older brother he can talk to will mean a lot to him.

10-22-2004, 07:12 PM	#49 (permalink)
optik_nerve Psycho Location: Florida	Maybe he is a "metrosexual?"

10-22-2004, 07:21 PM	#51 (permalink)
go-bots Upright	my friend wore dresses and has a sewing machine but he aint gay. hes got a man thong, tried on womens underwear and bras but hes just one of those freaks.