Mr. Moe

I'm just wondering, how many of you kept your highschool friends after you graduated? Did you keep them for only a short period, only kept in touch with the closest, that kind of stuff. Any input greatly appreciated.

absorbentishe

For about the first 5 years, I was still in touch with a group of friends, since we all were going to the same university, still did things together etc. then after that, it sort of weeded out to about 3-5 that hung out. Now I'm mainly in touch with 2, one that I still consider my best friend, and one that I was just friends with before. I also e-mail a few others, but not with any frequency.

thejoker130

After school I didnt keep in touch with anybody form my graduating class at all (even though some of them came to the same college as me.) But there were some under classman that I got along with really well and kept in touch with, but now that they're off at college I dont really talk to them much anymore either.

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santafe5000

After I graduated, i went into the service, my family moved to another town, so i totally lost contact with everyone i attended school with. I saw an ad in the local newspaper detailing a 10 yr reunion for our class and ended up going to it. Not having kept in close contact with my classmates, I found i didn't have much in common with them. It was enjoyable to see them again, but that is about all i could say. Didn't try to keep in touch with any of them after the reunion, either. I guess having moved on and having relocated to a different part of the country changed it all for me.

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Oopsfix

I didnt have any real friends in high school, just people i'd occasinally hang out with and after high school i pretty much stopped talking to them

bparker805

I've only kept in regular contact with one person from high school and thats because she has big boobs. (joking) . But I never really cared for a lot of people in high school and didnt see the importance of maintain fake relationships with those people. There are a number of people I do miss but time has its way of pulling people apart...

Jim Kata

I graduated high school in 1994. All my close friends are the people I went to high school with. And a lot of them still live around here. As for the ones that moved away, I still keep in contact with them (at least once every couple of months). And we get together anytime they are in town (for the most part).

shileno

i graduated 2 years ago and i still keep in touch with those who live in the same city..i think is hard to keep in touch with friends that have gone to different cities and countries

VitaminH

I graduated 4 years ago...I stay in touch with i think 4 people from high school. They are about the only 4 i like. some others contact me occasionally, but i've gone down a very different path in life than they have and we dont really have anything in common anymore. So when I do go to see these other people, I find myself out of place and not enjoying it. So i stick with the 4...strange because we 4 didnt hang out all that much in high school. One was an old childhood friend whom i lost touch with in high school, and then rekindled the friendship post graduation, one i never hung out with in HS but became a friend after, the other two were a year ahead of me in school and graduated when i really befriended them, but we all worked at the local Pizza Hut so we became friends.

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dragon2fire

graudted 3 years ago only had a few friends the good news is we are still in touch

Bill O'Rights

I graduated 23 years ago. Yeesh...that looks worse in print than it even sounds. Anyway, there is only one guy that I keep in semi-contact with. (i.e the occasional Christmas card) And he wasn't even one of my "best" friends...so, I'd have to say no.

People grow, and move on to other parts of thier lives. It's sad, but true, that the childhood gets left behind in the dust, and childhood friends are left standing on the side of your road in life.

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I didn't have any real friends in high school, and the only time I have even seen somebody I went to high school with since graduation was about 5 years ago waiting in line to vote. Even then we didn't say anything to each other. I could care less really. High school wasn't a good time for me.

spived2

I've only been out of high school for about 3 years now, but I've held on to a lot of friends that I had back in the day. I had very high standards for who I associated with in high school, so it's a lot easier to keep that friendship alive, knowing they aren't just those fake teenage high school 'im popular your popular let's hang out' friendships.

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bundy

i´ve been out of school for 5 years now.
i kept in contact with my close friends.
a lot of the people in my year went to the same university straight after, which was interesting since it became a real catalyst for a lot of friendship break-downs.

keep the good ones, see the rest at reunions.

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spectre

Two that were friends before I started high school. One joined the Air Force recently and the other is at college. I don't see either of them as much any more, but I still consider both good friends.

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Sledge

I don't talk with them regularly, but the social net I was privy to continued on for me after I came to college. Over breaks I go home and hang out with the same old crew. It's not as awkward as I was afraid it would be.

Anyway, thank the good Lord for AIM and LiveJournal.

Jam

ive kept in touch with one in person and others via msn... tho I havent gone anywhere and niether have they (it only eneded last year :P) i just work so much

bernadette

400 yrs later, i remain in contact with several of my high school classmates even tho they live far away. of course, some more than others. the last few yrs with the interwebs, email & such has made it easier to stay quasi in touch.

what's pisses me off is that there is one person from college days that i really want to contact & i cannot find anyone who knows his whereabouts.

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tikki

I graduated with 22 other people.
The day after graduation, I only talked to 2 people.
6 months after that, 0 people.

Kinda depressing that I was dropped like a bad habit, but I guess that's the way life goes.

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jay-g

I had six friends during my high school years. They also were my good friends during elementary and middle school too. I basically grew up with them since I was a wee tike. I thought they were all my good true friends. Gradually throughout the years, things changed. The "good" friends were evolving and starting showing their true personalities. Personally I was loyal to all of them. To me, it was sad how all of the history between us didnt really mean anything by the end of high school. I know people go their own ways and do their own things, but damn at least alittle effort to keep in touch. I tried for a bit to keep in contact but gave up realizing they didnt really care. Overall, I still keep in touch and talk to two of my high school friends. One of them being my best and truest friend I will ever have. What up Chris!

Chingal0

I talk to most of my highschool friends on a regular basis. I was the first to move out of my shitty town, so I dont hang with them as much as I'd like, but then again, moving on with life is always a good thing. Gives me time to concentrate on work and getting my bills paid off in time heh.

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Reese

Wow, Reading all these posts makes me feel better that I'm not the only one that doesn't(until recently) have any friends left from highschool.

Actually, I am just starting to get back together my HS friends. It's hard though because everyone's getting married and having kids... My closest friends in school and the "friends by association" have reversed, I'm really getting to know people I didn't really have much in common with in school.

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JadziaDax

After graduation, I went away to college, so I lost touch with all the friends I graduated high school with.

The one friend I had since 6th grade dropped me the day I got married to my ex-husband. I tried to make amends, she wouldn't have it.

A few years before I got divorced, I ran into one of my high school friends. She saw me in a store and screamed my name from clear across the building. We've basically picked up where we left off all those years ago, except she's married with two children now.

When I was a teenager, my father told me things like this would happen. And of course I didn't believe him. I thought the friends I had then would be my friends forever. Forever is a very short time in the scheme of things.

Macheath

I keep in close contact with two very good friends and a handful of other friends through them; to all the others I generally prefer to remain a mystery.

fuzzix

I've kept in touch with all of my close friends from highschool, but lost touch with casual aquaintences.

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skysooner

I stayed in touch with some friends for a couple of years but as life has gone on, we have separated a bunch in terms of our education, goals, values, etc. My best friend from high school had kids right out of the gate, and they are now graduating from high school. Mine are in pre-K and 1st. We just don't have anything in common anymore. I saw most of them at the 10 year high school reunion and not since then (coming up on 20 next year).

Psivage

I have 4 people who I graduated high school with that I consider great friends, 6 people who I when to the same high school with that I consider great friends, my sister told me once how lucky I was that I still have my high school friends, she hasn't talked to any of her high school friends for a long while.

Tirian

I still hung out with my highschool friends through college, but then I moved away (2,200km) after college grad. I kept in touch with some for a while, whenever I'd visit home etc. (HS Grad '85 for context)

Then I just kind of had a different circle after a while, and lost contact with most of my HS friends.

Partly due to distance, and partly due to changes in lifestyle. I think that was the biggest thing. Some people move into different styles of living, and tend to have less and less in common over the years. For example, friends that I used to go hiking with in the fresh air of the Canadian rockies take up smoking and bar-hopping as a lifestyle, so our paths diverge. Things like that.

Now I have moved back to my home town, and bump into some classmates from time to time. It is interesting. One guy seemed really pissed at me when I last saw him, like something I had done really pissed him off. We used to be really good buds, but... Anyways I wondered if it was because of lack of contact that he was pissed ?

Some classmates that I did not know so well are becoming new aquantences and friends now. Life is just moving along.

My only long term highschool friend relationship is my wife ! I still see her every day :-)

Semi-Normal

Kept in touch with a few for a few months, and flatted with a couple for a summer a couple of years after finishing school, but I'm not in regular contact with any of them any more.

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quadro2000

(I feel like I've written this before...)

I graduated in 1995. We had a very big, but tight, bunch of friends during senior year. I would say there were about 20 of us, and we would hang out every weekend, sometimes in different incarnations, but we were always together.

Because we were so close in high school, a bunch of us were relatively miserable when we got to college. (I was among the most miserable of the miserable.) We used e-mail to keep in touch daily, just chatting back and forth, and it wasn't out of the ordinary to have between 50-80 e-mails a day going back and forth.

During that first year of college, we all managed to stay "together-" the 20 or so of us. And like Jadzia said...we really believed we would stay that way forever. Of course, it didn't happen. People dropped off here and there. Interests changed, people relocated. It was sad while it was happening, but it felt natural.

However, the ones I was closest with - and there were about 10 or so - are still my best friends. The only person from college that I really keep in touch with is Quadrette. But most weekends and all parties - my high school friends are the ones I'm with. Our friendships just stayed solid. And they, in turn, have become friends with my other friends, and created new friendships, expanding the "group" and creating some fun hangout situations. I'm very happy with how it all turned out.

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j03th3j3w

i only keep in contact with a few of my old high school friends.. ya know the occasional phone call.. and email spam... its kinda difficult to keep in touch with all of them.. i moved a year after graduation and dont see any of them

denim

I graduated from high school in 1982.

I don't even remember anyone from my class except one girl I should have forgotten. I forgot them so fast that it was a bit embarrassing when I ran into one of the few people who treated me well a few years later. Now I know I have no memory for names OR faces.

I remember a few people I was friendly with from the next class back, but that's all. I maintained no friendships from anyone at that place for more than about 1 year.

Unfortunately, they all remembered me when I went to an informal reunion last year. (sigh) I'm darned if I know why.

irseg

I graduated almost 5 years ago. I still talk to one friend about twice a week and we get together every few months (harder now that I moved 1200 miles away!). Beyond that I barely remember anyone from back then.

taliendo

The friends that I had in highschool were great, the truest of buds. But in the end, we mostly went to different universities, had different interests. Occasionally one of us will ramble into town at the same time, get a cup of coffee or a beer and shoot the shit, but its nothing like in high school.

The funny thing is, I didn't really make many 'replacement' friends at college -- I simply shortened my circle, made a lot of good aquaintences.

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dy156

I started to say that I keep up with three of my High School friends, but then I remembered that I see one every day. My wife. Guess I considered her more than a High School friend, but she was a friend in High School. Same goes for her sister.
One of my three High school friends I still keep in touch with is married to someone from High School, so now we're up to six.

Interestingly, I got to know two people that I went to High School with again in law school, and email them occasionally. Actually, we're just on someone else's email list, so eight so far.

My wife keeps up with some of her friends, and so I sometimes see them too. So we're up to about 14. Only three of those I classify as "high school friends" though.

sub zero

My old highschool friends are still my best friends today. I see them almost every day. We go on roadtrips and random vacations together, and we keep in touch with each other very well. I don't think I'd enjoy life if my highschool buds weren't there. Some of my college friends have told me "you and your friends are connected at the hip." And, of course, I always reply with, "that's a good thing!"

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wubbawubba

I'm 25. I still see a couple of my close friends. But for the most part, I rarely see anyofthem

woody3rd

i talk to very few classmates after 14 years. i did go to my ten year reunion and here is the kicker....there were some female classmates who approached me about having a crush on me during highschool and wanted to drop me right there and get it on. i admit that two of these ladies got there wish at a later date.

brandon11983

I'm not very tight with any friends from HS. I haven't seen my HS best friend Stan in over 6 months. I see my friends from my IT classes that I took for 2 years at a different school more than I do my friends from my HS.

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SabrinaFair

I come from a relatively small town, and the friendships I made in high school were relatively tight just because there was nothing to do other than talk. My best friend from high school and I still hang out whenever I'm in town (once or twice a month) and I AIM or e-mail a couple of them. My high school boyfriend/other best friend actually goes to the same university I do and we hang out once or twice a week. I'm still social with other acquaintances whenever I happen to run into them back home.

It's kind of sad seeing my new friends take the place of the old ones. I mean, its only natural to be closer to the people I see every day, but I've known my home group since elementary school. (although we weren't always real "friends") The photographs are being replaced...I don't call every time something happens to me...it's life, but it kind of sucks.

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