If you could go back...
 

And change certain events in your life, would you?

I was once asked if there was anything I could change, what would it be? My answer was to grow up in a home without a violent alcoholic father, without the anger and resentments that filled our home.
I also said I would change the fact that I was molested by my sister’s ex-husband.

Then upon my answer, the same person asked me what I wouldn't I change? Ironically enough, I said I wouldn’t change that I grew up in a home with a violent alcoholic father, that was full of anger and resentments and the fact that I was molested.

I know this sounds odd. But what it boils down to is I would have preferred not to experience the pain, but in reality, a big part of who I am and the drive I have for a better life for me and my loved ones and my strong adoration of children and desire to help the troubled ones, is a direct result of those very behaviors I was exposed to.

So, yes, I would change the pain and the experience. No, I wouldn’t change the growth I have achieved from them.

The only thing that I would change would be more sex. I would take all the opportunities for sex that I turned down.

Regrets... so so many of them....

Mostly, I was pretty much the guy who always decided to go home, and because of that, I missed out on a LOT of the best adventures that my friends had.

Biggest things I would change though, wouldn't have screwed up with the ladies so much, and definately would have stopped myself from packing on the pounds.

That's a pretty good one. I usually ended up being the person who turned it down out of politeness. I actually wanted each and every opportunity, but didnt want to look like a typical male. *sigh* Wow, was that stupid.

Seriously though....I think this subject requires more thought. I guess I would change...the times that I've argued with my wife, and forced my opinion. That's so unfair, and she's such a wonderful woman.

Oh.. and to answer the first question... yes... if I had the chance, I would DEFINATELY make all the changes... (and smack myself around a bit to hopefully give myself a clue)..

I would be more outgoing in grade school. This would lead to more dating and better communication with the opposite sex. I was such a dweeb in grade school. Also, I'd try to save my father's life. He died during my senior year of H.S. I'd also be nicer to my first girlfriend. She didn't deserve the treatment I gave her.

That's a tough question. I am really happy with my life. Of course there are things I regret and things I wish were different, but I would not be who I am today without those things. I do know that if I had made some different choices, I would most likely be making ALOT more money and have many more things, but it probably would have meant losing my then girlfriend/now wife and therefore my son. I might have been happier, but I don't think so. I would probably keep things the same.

I wouldn't change anything.


Maybe the drug addiction thing? But then I wouldn't have never learned that lesson and that was a very good lesson to learn.

i would go back to when i was in high school and not take my girl friend forgranted....i miss her lol.....

I would have gotten over my fear of standardized tests and taken the ACT's so that I could have gotten into a better college. I never would have dated Kyle for two and a half years, I never would have gone on Depo so the pounds would not have been packed on, and I never would have stopped being friends with some of the people that I miss now.

I would have gotten myself involved in sports sometime in early grade school and I would have made myself more outgoing for the rest of the school years

I wouldnt change a thing.
I am who I am because of the good and bad things I have gone through.

Angel, I understand exactly what you are saying! I would say the thing I would change is having ever married my mentally abusive first husband. That I would have followed my instinct and not walked down the isle. But I did walk down it and I did it for the sake of the children. I felt giving my son the father he deserved and his children a mother was going to make everything turn out fine.

Well, our relationship sucked! But, my son did get to know his father -- as painful as that may have been. And I gained relationships with two more wonderful young men (whom I raised). In addition, I have my two awesome daughters to show for it. I also learned a lot about myself, what I value, and how I relate to other people.

So, trade the pain from the relationship -- absolutely!
Give away the good -- no way!

my life has been so fucking weird i can' give a simple yes or no answer.

there are one or two small changes i'd be happy to make. however, i am me and i like what i am every now and then, if i mean to or not.

.. really, though, i look at everybody and i see uniqueness in almost everyone. i see me and i see almost another species..... my life has built an odd duck of a personality and i'm thrilled with that.

normal people suck

i'm with ya there, homer...

i reget nothing and would change nothing

I regret nothing. I am content where I'm at, and I'm happy where I'm being led.

I wouldn't pick up that first smoke.

I would not change anything in my life.

"There are no mistakes in life some people say, and it's true sometimes, you can see it that way." - Bob Dylan

Of course, there is stuff I might like to change, but I'd miss out on a ton of worth while stuff that might not happen again if I chose a different route.

sorry Louisa, that little bit of my life wouldn´t have happened.

sorry Lauren, given my time again i wouldn´t have gotten involved.

besides that, well, i woudn´t change a single thing.

i would have gone back and made three changes.

first off, i would have met myself near the end of high school and given myself a brochure for the conservatory of recording arts and sciences. my student loans would've been paid by now and i would've been doing something i loved by now. fucking guidance councillors were useless. they just told everyone to go to college. what a fucking crock.

secondly, i would have slapped myself silly before signing up for those fucking credit cards. nothing i got with them was truly necessary and they'll end up costing me more over the long run then they were ever worth.

third, i would've told myself to drop the damn purse. the purse i found lying in a parking lot that belonged to the whore who became my ex who made my life misery. i should've just left it and kept going. i could've had so much more if i had never met the bitch.

beyond that, there are minor, insignifigant things that would be nice to change, but those three are the only ones that i truly wish had happened differently.

Je regret rien.



Mr Mephisto

I wouldn't change a thing. I like where i'm at and where i'm going right now. Even when i don't like where i am or where i'm going i still like the odds that i will someday again like where i am and like where i'm going.

comedy option: no i wouldn't change a thing

I actually thought about this before the thread. It would be nice to go back and just re-live a few parts of my life while i was younger like some of 5th 6th 7th 8th and 9th grade heheh. As long as I could keep everything I know now, damn I would be the shit.

a great thing in life is learning from ones mistakes, thus I would not change a thing, because even though bad things happen, I have learnt from them and have become a better person.