Loki

i dunno. I am neither the nice guy, nor the asshole. On the one hand i try to be nice to people around me, but on the other hand, if i disagree with anything, i'll say so straight away. Im not afraid of an argument, but i do not intentionally provoke one.

I rarely get approached by a woman, but im not usually turned down either.But then again, i dont approach anything that moves.. just someone that i feel some sort of spark with.

*shrug* the only thing i can suggest is that some women like assholes more because they are more interesting to be with.


PS: You can tell if a woman is interested in you by her eyes and tone. If you ignore the words you should be right =).

XenuHubbard

I realized quite early that I didn't have bad luck with women, even though I first thought so; it was just that the women that I'd been dating were the type that were attracted to bad guys. Apparently they saw me as one.

I stepped back, took a look at relationships past, and never made the same mistake again. I don't have much respect for that type of women. They're bound to get you into trouble. Recently, this view has become stronger. My cousin had to flee the country, he had a 20000 US$ price tag on his head. Just because his girlfriend was complaining about him trying to go straight, and people not "respecting" him anymore. She said she'd break up with him if he didn't do something about it. He really loved her, and went to talk to some of the back-stabbers. Violence ensued.
I told him what I thought about it. His girlfriend better keep her mouth shut in the future if she loves him.

So, if you're a guy getting frustrated over being overlooked for being "nice", just ride it out. You're not missing anything.

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rogue49

That says it all right there,
Nuff said.

Bill O'Rights

Or...I dunno...stop being an asshole. Just a thought.

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ganon

I have found that if you treat women like you like them, but don't need them, they have a tendancy to be a little more intrigued. I'm not a bad boy, but I am not gonna have some cunt run me around. I have been nice before, and got shit on, and just looked at her and said, "well, fuck you, I can get better all around somewhere else, I don't need your ass. I was doing you the favor by hanging around". That kind of indifference can go along way if you play it right.

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Cynthetiq

as a social experiment when I was younger I was always a nice guy. It's part of me.

But when I moved to NYC I became the bad boy. Rode a motorcycle, had long hair (still do), drank outrageously. And DAMMIT... there was pussy just undressing for me everywheree I went. I didn't get it. BUT I was celibate during that time of my life because I didn't want to catch anything. So I think it was a wash.

I'm a nice man to my wife.... she deserves it all the time.

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4thTimeLucky

To Cynthetiq and all you bad boys out there......

How do you do bad boy?

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Chytrak

That makes two of us, Bill...
Women usually end up waiting for a guy to walk up to them and break the ice. Understandably so because they have no idea what the guy is like and if the woman was to walk up to the guy and talk, she's afraid it might give the wrong impression that she is more interested than she really is. In other words, she's afraid the guy will think she wants to sleep with him, when all she may want is to simply have a few drinks and leave it at that.
For me, I think it boils down to being afraid of rejection and that's why it's safer to sit back and admire the girl from afar. It's a human trait to want to be in your comfort zone and walking up to a gorgeous woman and introducing yourself is stepping way outside that zone for some guys, myself included.
I'm going to try and keep this thread in mind when I am out with my friends this weekend... Maybe it will help me step outside the comfort zone.

HiThereDear

It's obviously just playful banter, don't overreact.

Captain Canada

Wow, this is so true. One of my best friends hates how her boyfriend treats her. but she always goes out with people who treat her exactly the same way.

mtsgsd

This reminds me of my ex-wife. She had been in abusive relationships before meeting me, and told me many stories of these jerks and how she couldn't believe how different I was.

2 years later we divorced, and she went back to another abusive relationship. In fact, she later told me that I was just TOO nice.
Go figure. Glad to be out of that one. Interesting note: Every guy she dated before, including, and after me is named Mike. Should have been a clue I guess.

troit

For all you newer TFPers or for that fact younger TFPers listen to our sage. Art always knows how to make a concise point thats a straight shot.

Art -- Your comment here hit a bit to painfully close to home for me. But as you are implying -- Life is a learning curve, a curve I try to stay ahead of...

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