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Boomslang 04-23-2003 01:05 PM

Do you get along with your parents?
 
Assuming your parents are still alive (if they aren't, my apologies for bringing this up), do you think you are in a good relationship with them? Do you get along?

Everyone has arguments with their parents, but overall, I think I get along with mine pretty well. I am an only child, and I occasionally will "get loud" with my mom, much the way my friends get loud with their brothers or sisters. I am thinking she may be like a sister to me sometimes, since I don't have a "real" one.

My parents are great though, and they are always there to help me out. Arguments aside, we get along really well, and I really do love them.

What do you think of your relationship with your parent(s)?

The_Dude 04-23-2003 01:44 PM

i have an OK relationship.

not a big fan of my dad, but get along w/ my mom all right.

although they can piss me off really really bad.

sad thing is i'm 18 and i'm dependant on 'em for everything (still in high school)

cheezhead 04-23-2003 01:47 PM

Mom, Yes!
Dad, Hell no!

Scipio 04-23-2003 01:51 PM

I get along with my parents rather well. They put up with drinking, occasional bad grades, and whatnot. I suppose it helps to be polite and honest.

Cynthetiq 04-23-2003 01:58 PM

I get along great with the folks. One day when I was younger I decided that it was working the dad/son mom/son relationship and I determined to gain equal respect.

Now we all get along very well. We have differing opinions and we respect them. As stated... politeness and honesty were very important.

SecretMethod70 04-23-2003 02:01 PM

Yeah I'd say I get along with them pretty well. Granted, I can't stand half the things they do, but compared to some other people's parents, I certainly don't mind mine :p

zf0enix 04-23-2003 02:04 PM

My mother and I have a seriously strained relationship. I don't know my father, and mom had a series of men/husbands during my youth, so I kind of lost respect for her early on. Not to mention that I was a serious dick in h/s and she was like Margot Kidder nutz.

Long story short: We get along and are civil, but it's uncomfortable and takes a lot of effort.

ARTelevision 04-23-2003 02:23 PM

minimally

Atropos4 04-23-2003 02:24 PM

As long as I don't talk to them everyday or for long periods of time we get along really well..
My dad is the reason I moved out of the house before I even graduated. He's actually my stepdad but I consider him my dad cuz he's been my dad since I was a year old. Growing up , he treated me like crap. He thought I was the rebel bad kid and that my little sis was his perfect little princess. He now admits he had it all wrong. Now that I don't have to live with him we get along really well
My mom---hmmm we used to be really close..in a lot of ways we still are..but it's strained pretty bad now....She said some really hatelful things about alpha phi and talks shit about him to extended family...she spreads complete lies about him also.....Some days she calls like 10-12 times a day just to ask stupid questions...she even calls at 4 in the morning....she doesn't even care that alpha phi works 3rd shift.....she actually laughed at him once when he told her that she woke him up for the 3rd time that day....

World's King 04-23-2003 02:44 PM

My mother and I get along fairly well. I live in her basement for Christ sake. We have had our problems in the past and I'm sure there will be more in the future but all in all it's cool.

rekinom 04-23-2003 03:11 PM

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yournamehere 04-23-2003 03:26 PM

I think my relationship is typical:

Younger years (up until age 13) - Great.
Age 14-19 - Thought I knew it all and they were stupid.
Somewhere around age 20 - Realized that in addition to being parents, they are also people, with dreams and aspirations of their own, and that all their efforts were driven by what was best for me.
Since then - Great again, although Dad's been gone for 12 years now.

duckduck 04-23-2003 03:28 PM

Yup. Dad and I are at the stage where he's just one of the buds who's "advice" I need to take a bit more seriously than my other friends. Mum, while we don't share many interests, and I get along fine, too. We have our bad moments, but we always get through 'em.

Boner 04-23-2003 03:30 PM

I love my parents to death. In fact, I also love my wife's parents as well. I think I was pretty lucky to get the parents that I got.

While all of my friends were ready to run off from home, I wasn't in any hurry and my mom and dad weren't pushing me out. (I did move out my 20 for school though)

phoenix1002 04-23-2003 03:46 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by yournamehere
I think my relationship is typical:

Younger years (up until age 13) - Great.
Age 14-19 - Thought I knew it all and they were stupid.
Somewhere around age 20 - Realized that in addition to being parents, they are also people, with dreams and aspirations of their own, and that all their efforts were driven by what was best for me.
Since then - Great again, although Dad's been gone for 12 years now.

Sorry to hear your dad passed away, though it sounds like you got to know him pretty well, and you had a good relationship, which is awesome.

That basically describes my relationship with my parents, though I got out of the "thinking I knew everything" stage a bit earlier, maybe when I was 17-18.

Now we get along really well, though it can be difficult when I go back from school. We just have very different sleep patterns (her, bed at 11; me, bed at 2 or 3 am) which occasionally causes problems. Bottom line is, I love my parents, and I know they love me too. That's what really matters.

sierra2774 04-23-2003 03:57 PM

My Mother passed away 10 years ago but we were very close. My Dad is my Best Friend and always will be!

greytone 04-23-2003 04:01 PM

I have a great relationship with my parents and spend a fair amount of time with them. They are actually fun people. Hell, I don't drink as much or stay up as late, or go out as often as they do.

phredgreen 04-23-2003 04:54 PM

my dad has been off and on in my life... we're in an off period atm. i might hear from him again in another year or two and we'll be in contact for a while before it drops off again... and so continues the cycle.

my mom and i usta be at eachother's throats when i was younger. there was a massive amount of tension between my brother and myself, and since my mom normally had to be the one to cool it off, we had alot of tension bewteen us as well. since i've moved out and started to grow up it's improved considerably... she and i get along fantastically and she's supported me the best she can with what she's got... it may not be alot to anyone else, but it means the world to me.

blkdmnd 04-23-2003 05:26 PM

Mom's been gone for a while now. Dad and I get along good and actually better since Mom died. He's getting on up there in years, 74, but still gets around really well.

Last summer he was really having problems getting around. Changed doctors and found out he had a brain tumor the size of a small fist. They took it out and all is well. Getting around much better and does whatever he wants. I'd be totally bummed if we had a bad relationship and he kicked.

spectre 04-23-2003 06:10 PM

I get along great with my parents. Wasn't always that way, but they've always been good to me and I appreciate everything they've done for me.

krwlz 04-23-2003 06:35 PM

get along great with my parents, except for that affixiation thing, read the spanking thread...you will get the idea

Jesus Pimp 04-23-2003 06:41 PM

I get along ok with my parents. They think I'm a lazy fuck because I'm in my room all the time working on my computer doing homework and multimedia work. I get in arguments with them periodically over religion. They're born again christians so they're always asking me to convert. I always refuse of course because I'm agnostic and don't believe in any religion. So that can be a pain sometimes.

LordEden 04-24-2003 12:35 AM

I get along ok with the parents, I get along great with my stepdad because he is on the same level as me, now my mother and I fight battles everytime we try to talk, different personalities and the conflict. Mom hates I don't go to church and smoke cigs (and weed), but doesn't bring it up alot cause she has figured out she isn't going to change me, besides that fine.

Dorian_S 04-24-2003 12:56 AM

My mom and dad split up when I was 10. It was a huge shock to me; my father had recently "renewed his faith" in a disgusting brand of Christianity (if you know anything about it, he's a Reformed Presbyterian. And a Calvinist, no less.)

During the divorce, my father manipulated me and my sister into thinking that my mother, the infidel, couldn't take care of us kids without his help, and that we should come with him to Colorado where we'd start a new life. And I believed him.

A few years later, when I finally realized that I'd made the wrong choice, I hated him. Like really, seriously. I'd even hit the guy.

But now, at 19, I live in his house again, by my own choice (long story...) and we actually get along. My dad did a lot of horrible things to our family, sure, but... he's still my dad. And he only wanted the best for me.

I feel sorry for those who have good reasons to hate their parents. For anyone, child or otherwise... that's not the way it was meant to be, you know?

ratbastid 04-24-2003 04:41 AM

I adore my parents. It wasn't always this way, of course--back in High School I was pretty prickly toward them.

Some time after I graduated college, got married, got a job, I realized all they'd given me and all they'd sacrificed for me. I called them up one night and let them know how great everything is going for me, and thanked them for my life. We all cried and told each other how much we love each other. It was an amazing conversation.

They came out to visit Lurkette and me a few weeks ago. We didn't really DO anything, which is a total departure of how our family vacations usually go. We just sat around and spent time with each other. It was really, really wonderful.

Spidey 04-24-2003 04:49 AM

I Love my parents, although they gave me yellings when i was young i love them to bits. They paid for everything and bought me up the way that i want my kids to turn out. They are the best parents a guy like me can ask for.

troit 04-24-2003 04:56 AM

I've always had a decent relationship with my folks but believe its funny how much more you appreiciate them as you grow older and experience some of the same things they did as adults. In another forum someone talked about the best advice you could ever receive was to learn from others experieces -- and that's take I have on my parents. They have been through what I am going through or will go through -- so rather than be to proud to ask for help or advise I tap into this great resource and take advantage. Not only do I not have to make some of the same mistakes they did, but the communication with them had brought us closers as well....

Ratman 04-24-2003 05:02 AM

I love my folks, steps-included. I don't live near them now, but we talk alot.

Reese 04-24-2003 05:29 AM

I have great parents. My dad and I are great friends. We're both Gamers and Love tv/movies so we always spend time together.

My mom and I get along very well also. She used to be the tech guru of the family so she 'kinda' introduced me to computers. Thats probally the only thing we have in common :)

My Parents Let me do what I wanted and make my own mistakes. I think I turned out better for that. I did make a few mistakes that I'll probally regret in 10 or so years but I would have turned out alot worse if they had forced me to do some things that they would have wanted me to.

Binder 04-24-2003 06:05 AM

i have a great relationship with my parents. when i was in my mid twenties, and started seeing the world as a responsible adult, our relationship grew in a new direction and we became better friends. i even have a decent relationship with my in-laws

onodrim 04-24-2003 09:03 AM

Its kinda off / on for me. I'd say most of the time we get along fairly decently, but other times not at all. They are unfortunately very controlling, and that leads to a lot of tension and clashing. They also tend to be very hard on me about even the littelest things, and some days its just more than I can handle. I'll just keep hoping that one day they'll get better :)

Troublebot 04-24-2003 11:20 AM

Mom and I get along pretty well. Hell, she's my boss. We get into fights now and then, but everything's ok at the end of the day.

Get along well with Dad, but damn is he controling. He's constantly telling me how I should do things. Lately, it's been about finding a nice girl and having some kids. Why? Well, 'cause he'd like grandkids.

He's the most rigid, controling, tempermental guy I know, and it was tough to be around him till I realized how much I was like him. :)

BubblegumTeflon 04-24-2003 03:36 PM

It's all gone very well so far and I hope it stays that way. I've loved them for this long and nothing could ever change it. For now I relate more to mom since we're both pursuing careers in the arts, but dad is so thoughtful, he always has the perfect advice for whatever stage in life I'm going through (girl matters aside).

Ransom342 04-24-2003 05:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by rekinom
I get along great with my parents.

Of course, this mostly improved once I moved out of the house and got a real job.

My situation exactly, me and my dad fought CONSTANTLY when I lived with him. Soon as I moved away, we get along great we talk on the phone once a week. I usually go home on vacations and we go drink and play golf.

Life is strange sometimes

Somenosuke 04-24-2003 05:24 PM

My relationship with my parents is strained. Once I get out of their house, I honestly will make it a point to see them as seldomly as possible.

Lebell 04-24-2003 05:52 PM

Perhaps some of you think you have great mothers, and I suppose you might very well, but I must sadly tell you that I have the best mother in the entire world.

I appologize for hogging her.

(yeah, we get along ;) )

Now my dad (deceased) is another thing. There was a journal entry in 3.0 that I wrote that gave a good idea of how that was, but let us just say it was bad.

oane 04-24-2003 08:11 PM

No. And tell you what, I haven't talked to them in over a month.

That might sound unimpressive until you consider the fact that we live in the same house.

Damn, I suck. Must make the effort...

John_Gault 04-24-2003 08:57 PM

I can't imagine better parents than mine exist anywhere on this earth (sorry to all of you who think you have good parents).

I can't believe that people who were such shitheads when I was in high school turned out to be such wonderful people. Yesiree, they have sure done a lot of growing and maturing over the years and I am very proud of them.;)

sivo 04-24-2003 09:44 PM

Not that well, I love them both, but me and my dad just can't help but rub each other up the wrong way. We get along lot better when we're not in the same house. Get along alright with mum, and I'm very grateful for what they have both done for me, especially so now that I've lived away from home.

I'm not going to model my own parenting after theirs, but at the same time I'm not going to moan about the job they did. I could have turned out a lot worse. :)

sapiens 04-27-2003 07:55 AM

I got along a lot better with my parents after I became financially independent. My dad always had the opinion that if he was giving you money, he was in charge of you. That applied to my mom as well. Now I get along with him fine. Every once in a while he offers me money, but I know better. I went on a 10 day vacation with my dad a few months ago. I had never been alone with him for that long before. It was interesting. He is incapable of having a conversation. He can't introspect and he won't give his opinion on anything. When I got back, I told my mom that I couldn't get him to talk about anything. My mom said, "I have been trying to get your dad to have a conversation for the last 35 years. I haven't had any luck yet." I get along fine with my mom. I can't remember a time when I didn't.


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