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Grasshopper Green · 12-17-2010, 08:12 AM

About a month ago I found an email sitting in my inbox - a time capsule I'd written to myself five years prior. In it, I had listed goals I wanted to accomplish and hopes I had for the future. One of the goals/hopes I had was home ownership. Five years later, we do own a home...but only because hubby's mother passed away and we inherited it. When I wrote this particular goal down, I don't think I had inheritance in mind as the means to the end.

On a lighter note, I always wanted curly hair when I was little. Enter: puberty. My hair took on a mind of its own when I turned 14 and after years of fighting with it, finally embraced my new texture a couple of years ago. Every once in awhile, when I'm having a particularly bad hair day, I think back with envy to when I could wash it, let it dry, and not look like I'd stuck my finger in a lightsocket.

Have you ever had goals/hopes/desires that you attained, but were surprised by the results? Does the grass look a little greener where you you used to be standing?

bagatelle · 12-27-2010, 07:59 AM

We built and moved to our own home 16 years ago. Something we together planned and created from the scratch on an empty lot. Ten years after the yard finally started looking nice - then we swapped houses with spouse's parents. We got a bigger house, but it was built 30 years ago, so I planned we could renovate and rearrange the garden, and it would be fine.

The swapping was something my husband wanted, because we took over the little farm his parents owned and he rather wanted us living in the same yard where the farming buildings are.

However the renovations are still on-going, after 6 years. Delayed due to hubby having too much to do, daughter being born, money... My enthusiasm for decorating has died, it has taken so long and I'm getting regrets over some choices we've made.

Besides the in-laws made some changes on the house and lot, which I wouldn't have done, so this makes me also unhappy.

This "goal" to own the land never really was mine, I've just been following the path my husband was destined to take since childhood - I merely accepted the thought - so this probably doesn't quite reply to the topic.

12-17-2010, 08:12 AM	#1 (permalink)
Grasshopper Green ...is a comical chap Location: Where morons reign supreme	Careful what you wish for About a month ago I found an email sitting in my inbox - a time capsule I'd written to myself five years prior. In it, I had listed goals I wanted to accomplish and hopes I had for the future. One of the goals/hopes I had was home ownership. Five years later, we do own a home...but only because hubby's mother passed away and we inherited it. When I wrote this particular goal down, I don't think I had inheritance in mind as the means to the end. On a lighter note, I always wanted curly hair when I was little. Enter: puberty. My hair took on a mind of its own when I turned 14 and after years of fighting with it, finally embraced my new texture a couple of years ago. Every once in awhile, when I'm having a particularly bad hair day, I think back with envy to when I could wash it, let it dry, and not look like I'd stuck my finger in a lightsocket. Have you ever had goals/hopes/desires that you attained, but were surprised by the results? Does the grass look a little greener where you you used to be standing? __________________ "They say that patriotism is the last refuge to which a scoundrel clings; steal a little and they throw you in jail, steal a lot and they make you king" Formerly Medusa

12-27-2010, 07:59 AM	#2 (permalink)
bagatelle Psycho Location: Europe	We built and moved to our own home 16 years ago. Something we together planned and created from the scratch on an empty lot. Ten years after the yard finally started looking nice - then we swapped houses with spouse's parents. We got a bigger house, but it was built 30 years ago, so I planned we could renovate and rearrange the garden, and it would be fine. The swapping was something my husband wanted, because we took over the little farm his parents owned and he rather wanted us living in the same yard where the farming buildings are. However the renovations are still on-going, after 6 years. Delayed due to hubby having too much to do, daughter being born, money... My enthusiasm for decorating has died, it has taken so long and I'm getting regrets over some choices we've made. Besides the in-laws made some changes on the house and lot, which I wouldn't have done, so this makes me also unhappy. This "goal" to own the land never really was mine, I've just been following the path my husband was destined to take since childhood - I merely accepted the thought - so this probably doesn't quite reply to the topic. __________________ Life is...