What don't you like about yourself?
 

I don't mean to be so depressing, but I think it's a legitimate question to ask. Everyone has something that they don't like about themselves, whether it be some physical characteristic, a personality trait, a illegitmate fear or idiosyncrasy, or a something that you're ignorant about. I'll share a few of mine, and i'm interested to see what you guys have to say.


**I hate that i'm hyper-sensitive. My feelings get easily hurt because I read way too much into things.

**I hate that i'm not more of a critical thinker. I feel like a lot of time I don't really think for myself...instead of coming to my own conclusion about something, i'll find out what other people think, try to understand different points of view, THEN make my own decision based on the info that i've gathered. I wish that I felt confident enough to just take a stance from the get-to.

**I hate my small ears. Apparently they're not proportionate to the size of my head and people seem to think that it's crucial that they point out this fact to me...just in case I had no idea that I have teeny-weeny baby ears.

Weight, height.

^^ Y'know, napoleon complex is now neither complex nor unique anymore. Me too though, hate my height and weight. But I'm working on it.

I wish the bones in my hands were larger.

I've got crappy teeth. They're too soft.

I have a hard time investing myself emotionally.

I'm so practical sometimes that it hurts.

I don't like anything about myself, but then, I've got issues.

When you say this, do you mean that you have a hard time investing in things (tasks) emotionally..or do you mean have a hard time investing in people emotionally.

I ask because sometimes i feel like I should give more of a shit about something...but i just can bring myself to do it. People, work, life in general...i feel like i should be more invested and more passionate, but usually i'm more apathetic.

(Does any of that make sense...maybe i'm just rambling at this point.)

Too often for my own satisfaction, I too easily put off doing things I should just get done....I guess procrastinate is the right word. Other than that, I'll think of what else is wrong later.

Due to my extremely fast metabolism, I have never in my life weighted over 145 pounds. Working out 5 days a week didn't help either. Not a fan of my weight.

I cannot suspend realism and be romantic. It hurts people.

I assume the worst first, then I think about alternative and most likely outcomes.

I don't care enough.

I worry too much. I spend a lot of my day agonizing over tiny details that really do not matter, that no one else cares about. This sometimes leads to panic attacks; sometimes I am able to talk myself down/out of it.

I lack both motivation and direction.

I fear both failure and success.

My boobs are too big, I've got more money than I know what to do with, I own a Brewery, my butt is too firm, I'd rather watch football and eat buffalo wings, and I'm too easy....I mean what's there for a guy to like?

ok...serious now...making myself do things I don't want to do, like paperwork...grrr

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I currently lack all motivation.

I tend toward taking people seriously, and taking phrases personally, rather than recognizing jokes or sarcasm.

I'm locked up in my brain too much.

I'm sorry, I should have been more specific. I was referring to people. Between being solo for most of my later childhood, spending a few years in the military and getting my hand slapped by the relationship ruler a zillion times... I don't really want to put myself out there for people because I feel like if we don't have a "working" (as in a job) relationship, it's often just a waste of my time because I'll either never see the person again after a set period or they'll do something to hurt me after I take off the body armor and expose my soft pink torso to their targeting computer.

So much of life has become a cost/benefit analysis.

I compensate for this by telling morbid jokes. Nothing like some "dead baby" humor to make up for my lack of tact and empathy.

Good way of putting it. I've been accused of the same thing a few times.

Yeah, control is really important for Type A people. I don't want to do group projects because my group consists of dumbass college kids that don't care about proper APA citations, how to do a killer exposition, or the importance of not clashing colors in a PPT. Just let me do it myself.

hmm...

I'm pretty fucking awesome so this is a difficult question..

I think my biggest issue is I tend to over-argue things. Whether I win or lose, I'll keep arguing my point just to make sure the point got across.

Amen.

I worry about coasting.

I've gotten so used to just getting by on my wit and intuition. If something comes along that I really need to apply myself to I don't know if I'll be able to do it.

Sometimes I'm an asshole. Okay, actually it's pretty frequent. Most of the time I'm okay with that, but occasionally I know that I've really hurt someone and that I can't do a thing about it. It's hard to feel good about myself when that happens.

height
don't trust anyone
paranoid
prefer being alone instead of social situations (this has gotten much worse over the past 5 years) - my social life is booming online, but irl, I got nothin anymore. I could, but I just choose not to.
just coasting through life with zero ambition - makes for an unhappy person overall
drug and cigarette dependence

I'm way too good looking.

I'm the best at everything I do. It's almost unfair for people around me.

http://i31.photobucket.com/albums/c3...oarctation.jpg

Also, ego, biases, and the like. I prefer objectivity and humility.

Tendency towards procrastination, emphasis on sarcasm at inopportune times, habit of living more in my head and not communicating, weight/fitness, spectacular ability to make excuses.

What do I like?
I'm really intelligent, able to grasp abstract concepts, doing well in school, losing weight despite the MRSA toe and inability to work out, I have pretty great hair some days and my eyes are nice. I'm also pretty damn good at giving advice, offering comfort and relating to people when the situation calls for it and when it's appropriate. My emotional, rational, and concrete intelligence are pretty good.

This (let it run):



and my inability to take most things seriously.

I don't like the fact I can't grow facial hair, other than spotty whiskers that make me look like a hormonal teenage boy.

The avatar's a lie!!

i dislike that i am so sensitive. its just so hard for me to care.

i dislike that i am a procrastinator. i can have a list of things to do at the beginning of the day, and fritter away a week on the computer before i attempt to complete the list again.

My world just crumbled.

I don't like this thread anymore ... can someone please close it and we have to have a serious conversation about breaking reality, it's not fair to the rest of us ...

Ditto Xerxys.
 

Agreed. I wanted to have a serious discussion, but all the joke-sters are just having too much fun with this.

Since I'm single, I don't like my relationship abilities. If I'm in a relationship I won't admit it for some reason, dump her, then realize I'm an idiot. If it's the beginning, I go too fast or too slow. If I'm single, I use lines and create awkward situations.

And everybody with motivation problems.. I have that too, and have no idea why..

This just seems to happen on this forum - in a lot of serious threads. I'm guilty of it too. Don't get upset over it. Maybe the moderators will do something - maybe not. But there are several serious replies in here - not all jokes. So that says something.

I exercise a lot. And I consume a lot. So for ten days I went on a strict diet, but with no exercise. I lost ten pounds in ten days.

So what do I do after this experiment? I go back to the a lot practices.

I also hate that I can't get my shit together over stressful situations this holiday period. I've tired, I've done a few things that haven't panned out, but I lie in bed and fret about it more than anything.

On the off-chance you guys were serious about me not being serious, let me assure you, in point of fact, I was being very serious. Seriously.

I have many flaws, lack of facial hair being the one I was willing to talk about.

We could talk about my ball hair and its lack of curl, I suppose.

ohh wow, actually I wasn't being serious ... lol

You guys are way too serious. LOL

I am not happy with my weight. I'm not really overweight at 6'1 215lbs, but I would like to lose that little bit of pudge. After today though (thanksgiving) I'll be around 218. Sigh....

I hate my sexual urges. I really hate them, in that self-destructive way. They really fuck with my mind and my marriage. I've even contemplated chemical castration because I'm such a freak and she is not.

I hate that I procrastinate. Working nights makes it much worse.

Morbid, volatile, gloomy, disloyal, shallow, inarticulate, coarse, insular, negative, fat, careless, apathetic, greedy, hypocritical, physically aggressive, needy, loveless, unloved, unassertive, drink too much, perverted, attention seeking, selfish, bad tempered, cunt

This is not healthy at all ... I'm in the same boat as you vigilante when it comes to the little head messing with the big head department

Oh I know. It's one of those things that should never be an issue, but it is what it is. It is literally a raging battle in my head, especially when I'm stressed and I want more release, something other than longer showers and lube.

I feel like a trapped animal, biting at the bars, looking for some escape. It's horrible to say that because it's only in this one aspect of my life that I feel this way. My hormone-driven brain tries to find ways to justify cheating, then I realize this girl worships the ground I walk on (and I do the same for her) and I know what I am thinking is wrong. No amount of talking has ever helped, she just likes plain vanilla sex, generally in one position, for the rest of her life, and once a week or less is fine.