Proper topics of conversation
 

From the advice column in Slate:So, what do people here think? Is this a vastly inappropriate subject for conversation? (Of course if the word is already out, might not make a difference, right Halx? :lol:)

This would not bother me. Hah!

Ask her if she's cool with you telling new male acquaintances that your wife's cooze is really tight. (or something equally inappropriate)


edit * sorry, I guess that's pretty much what the columnist said.......I didn't read it until now. live & learn.

Boobs. Everyone likes boobs.

Sharing private information can cause harm, whether it's positive or not. I think it's inappropriate to talk about anything private that your partner has indicated they don't want you to share.

Yeah, I'd be uncomfortable with that. It's lewd. Sexual harassment'd.

It'd be like me telling all my buddies that my girlfriend loves the "alternative love canal" and them calling her a tight ass and wink-wink-nudge-nudge in public. 'Tis bad form, old bean.

Granted, I only say this because I don't have genitals and I'm jealous of men with them.

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And... I don't give a shit if you're a crotch narwhal. I'm a guy.

Its sharing information that otherwise would not be known without intimacy. And thats wrong. Very disrespectful. Its a form of boasting, albeit by proxy.

If it bothers him, she shouldn't talk about it.

Personally, it wouldn't bother me; I'd find it flattering and exciting that my wife thought enough about my equipment or skills to tell her friends about about it. Women talk about stuff just as much as men do. But every guy is unique.

What she might or might not like (i.e., him talking about her nipples in the locker room) doesn't really matter; she's doing something that bothers him and she should respect and love him enough to listen to his feelings about it.

If the topic is right or wrong depends on those involved. I'm calling bullshit on the letter to the advice column. It sounds like something a teenager would write. There may be guys who are in that situation, but I would highly doubt they would be so offended to write to an advice column about it.

Personally, nothing's sacred. I talk shit constantly. About everything.

That's me, though. If a girl did this and it bothered me, I'd fully expect her to stop, and vice versa.

It's really like anything else in a relationship. If one half is bothered, both halves need to find a way to fix it.

Disregard the commentary on proper social etiquette as issued by the individual with the foot-high mohawk and Duyba t-shirt.

It is. Especially when it's told to someone she met for the first time.

It's understandable that her close of closest girlfriends would know, that kind of information just has a way of leaking.

It sounds to me like she is trying to use her husband's "assets" to make herself look like a better woman than the one she is talking to or someone who other people should envy.

Her behavior implies that she is immature and not very bright.
He's lucky if that is their greatest problem...so far.
He does not say how old his wife is.

sounds to me like she has a latent fantasy to involve her husband in a threesome.

I'd be fine with a girly friend of mine discussing it for the intent of trying to hook me up with one of her friends if that was a dealbreaker or something, but beyond that I can't see why it would be an appropriate topic,

i wouldn't want everyone lusting after my sausage dinner.

It's disrespectful to him and it could cause more problems than she realizes.

"She should realize it's actually contrary to her self-interest to advertise your asset so widely, since she's going to tantalize some women to want to join this members-only club."

Immature boasting. His wife needs to grow-up and realize that she's no longer in middle school.

I would wonder what's lacking in her life that makes her feel compelled to brag about the size of her husband's penis to relative strangers, or even close friends.

Assuming the letter is real, they have a bigger problem than the size of his equipment. She was totally oblivious to how he might feel about her revelations, and she reacted totally improperly when told it bothered him. That to me is the bigger issue.

She was saying something positive about him? Possibly, although some women might disagree (I hope, for my sake). But there are positive things that people just don't want to discuss in public, even with friends. Ask your friends how much money they gave to charity last year. It's definitely a positive thing, regardless of the amount. Bet they won't want to say. This is somewhat analogous... no matter how positive she feels she's being, since it's about him, it's how HE feels about the topic that makes it appropriate or not.