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View Poll Results: Why don't you share the TFP with your friends?
Because of the porn 12 24.00%
Because of the sexuality pages, I've posted personal stuff 12 24.00%
Exhibition, they don't need to see me naked. 5 10.00%
Life, it's personal, and there are just some things I don't tell those friends. 17 34.00%
I just like my own space 19 38.00%
Other 8 16.00%
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Old 02-17-2009, 06:07 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Why don't you share TFP with more people?

I was discussing this site with some friends and admins, and I was wondering why do you or don't you share the TFP with your friends?

Does it have to do with the porn? The sexuality posts? The exhibition posts? Your real point of view????

What about TFP is why you don't want to share this place with your other friends?

I thought I didn't want my personal intimate thoughts out there to be discussed and hammered out with friends, but then I realized the good friends I have already have those types of discussions, so I invited them.

Otherwise, the rest of the world TFP is space for me.
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Old 02-17-2009, 06:10 PM   #2 (permalink)
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OMG, I hope no one ever finds my stuff on here. I'm supposed to be "upright!!!!"
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Old 02-17-2009, 06:39 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I was just gonna post the same thing^^^.

My friends think I'm sweet and I sure as hell don't want to ruin the illusion


Truthfully, a friend brought me here and, while they don't visit much anymore if at all, we're still friends. I, in turn, brought a friend here and that didn't go too well here....I currently have one friend who wanders in and out-that's all I can handle.
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Old 02-17-2009, 06:43 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I've shared TFP with select friends. If I think they might enjoy it, I suggest they join. I've had four friends join TFP...unfortunately none of them have really stuck around. They come back by every now and again, but they don't post. I tried, though!

My roommate has joked about joining. That's just a little too close to home for me...maybe once he moves out it would be okay!
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Old 02-17-2009, 06:46 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I feel like most of my life is subject to public scrutiny--it's nice to have a corner of the world where I can just be myself, uncensored. There is only one person on the TFP who knows who I really am--I'm very happy to keep it that way.
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Old 02-17-2009, 06:50 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I selected "Other".

I have shown the board to several friends. Most have poked around a bit, but were not interested in a message board-based community.

There are a couple that I will not share it with because of the presence of porn.

I was shunned for a time by a group of friends because I showed them to the TFP. They did not appreciate the open discussion about sexuality here. They did not understand why I would spend my time in an environment that was so far from my every-day existence.
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Old 02-17-2009, 07:31 PM   #7 (permalink)
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I've referred a few posts to other people.
It's up to them to decide if the forum is to their taste.
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Old 02-17-2009, 07:34 PM   #8 (permalink)
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I've shown it to a few people, but for the most part my friends don't need to know any more about my penis than they already do.
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Old 02-17-2009, 07:43 PM   #9 (permalink)
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I don't show this place to friends because of:

a) the porn
b) some personal posts
c) the relationship it's linked to.

I don't want to be linked to him for eternity, and since he's a big presence on the board and sorta/kinda asked me to leave, I'm considering it. I like reading posts here and it's hard to find another spot on the internet quite like it, but I could make do.
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Old 02-17-2009, 07:43 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I've shown/talked about TFP to what friends I have, but I ran out of friends a while back...

Only one made an account. He doesn't visit much at all, though.
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Old 02-17-2009, 07:49 PM   #11 (permalink)
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Are you kidding...


I have so many ex-girlfriends on this place I'm surprised we don't have more traffic.
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Old 02-17-2009, 10:30 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Some of the things I've posted are things I wouldn't like to share with people IRL. Worlds cannot be allowed to collide.
If I were to become more open with them, I might make a few referrals, but I'd always be worried about some old forgotten post coming back to haunt me.
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Old 02-17-2009, 11:30 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I didn't vote, because I have shared it.
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Old 02-17-2009, 11:31 PM   #14 (permalink)
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Definitely because I like having my own space. I've referred a few people here over the years (only one of which actually joined, I think, and didn't stay long), but this is a place I've been coming for a long time, and I think of it somewhat protectively, for better or worse. It's an escape for me from people I "normally" know, and I'd like to keep it that way.
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Old 02-18-2009, 03:08 AM   #15 (permalink)
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Some of the things I've posted are things I wouldn't like to share with people IRL. Worlds cannot be allowed to collide.
If I were to become more open with them, I might make a few referrals, but I'd always be worried about some old forgotten post coming back to haunt me.
I can say what's on my mind, ask questions that I wouldn't want to ask IRL, and generally be able to keep things to myself that other people don't need to know.
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Old 02-18-2009, 04:32 AM   #16 (permalink)
 
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IMO, if you want to attract more people to TFP who will be substantive contributors, promote the social interaction, not the porn that probably brings most new visitors here:
dump the Erogenous Zone...where there are more threads yet probably less discussion than other sections combined (24,000+ in the titty board alone), with comments (discussion?) generally appearing to be limited to "nice tits" or "I would do her"

give visitors greater access than the 3-4 posts they can presently read before being locked out.
Perhaps its time for TFP to decide what it wants to be.

What value does the titty board (erogenous zone) bring to TFP other than raw numbers of threads/posts? Does it contribute at all to substantive discussions or just lurkers with one liners?

If you want to be a titty board, thats fine. IMO, it reflects on the maturity of the site as a whole and is the primary reason why I dont bring new folks here, most of whom would probably be older than the TFP demographic and have seen enough tits in their life, but might enjoy the more stimulative discussions about sexuality, politics, the arts, etc.
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Old 02-18-2009, 06:07 AM   #17 (permalink)
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My wife calls this place my "internet girlfriend" and doesn't give too much credence to online existence and I think most of my friends are the same way.

Also, I'm a bit selfish.
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Old 02-18-2009, 06:22 AM   #18 (permalink)
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I don't have any friends.
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Old 02-18-2009, 07:21 AM   #19 (permalink)
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I also had one friend chased away by the hostile environment in Politics. He was an active, contributing member for over a year.

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... he's a big presence on the board and sort of asked me to leave, I'm considering it...
Your presence is valued. You contribute to this community more than you realize. You are one of the few active women on this board.
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Old 02-18-2009, 07:40 AM   #20 (permalink)
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I'm currently a lurker and I'd be sad to see you go as well.
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Old 02-18-2009, 11:27 AM   #21 (permalink)
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I came to TFP to find my self, to be myself. I find that I cannot be myself with some of my friends IRL (I actually don't have many friends IRL to begin with). I don't know. I just wanted a space to call my own. TFP fits that space.
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Old 02-18-2009, 11:30 AM   #22 (permalink)
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Old 02-18-2009, 11:49 AM   #23 (permalink)
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I occasionally share TFP with others but I am hesitant to do so because of the sexuality. I am actually somewhat afraid of even opening TFP at work because the word "sexuality" is displayed in the title bar. Where I live, TFP doesn't work. It just doesn't work. Also there are a lot of things on this site that I've said that would alienate most of the people I know (which is admittedly sad).
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Old 02-18-2009, 12:02 PM   #24 (permalink)
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I occasionally share TFP with others but I am hesitant to do so because of the sexuality. I am actually somewhat afraid of even opening TFP at work because the word "sexuality" is displayed in the title bar. Where I live, TFP doesn't work. It just doesn't work. Also there are a lot of things on this site that I've said that would alienate most of the people I know (which is admittedly sad).
that's what we get for living in the buckle of the bible belt
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Old 02-18-2009, 12:10 PM   #25 (permalink)
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Ive never tried to check this site from work, Im pretty sure it would hit the "bad stuff" filter.

The two reasons I havent ever told anyone I know in the real world about this site is 1 - the porno, 2 - I wouldnt be so honest about myself in front of people I really know.
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Old 02-18-2009, 12:17 PM   #26 (permalink)
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I've recommended TFP to two relatively active members, but I have issues with recommending, say, college colleagues.

Issues:

- Porn. Nobody wants to be recommended to a porn board regardless of the gnarliness of the other content. I've had the porn / exhibition poopoo deactivated on my account after sending $50 worth of beef jerky to the The_Jazz. Porn may generate a boatload of hits or whatever (not a web guru), but you're not getting any board content out of the fap horde. Exhibition is okay given my knowledge of the safeguards, but still a little leery because it features bewbs and wangz. Goes like this, "Hey, Bandersnatch... you should join this mondo site that I'm at called TeeEffPee. Hot convo and... uh... um... porn." Yeah, it's like citing Wikipedia in a college paper... you just flushed your credibility down the crapper.

- Personal post paranoia. I'm relatively anonymous here, but it wouldn't take a genius to find me if you read a few of my posts. This is a big deal considering the job field I'm entering where one's Facebook profile and a basic Google search are the first things that The Man does to ensure you're a good little robot.

- Not many of my friends are "readers." They prefer things like alcohol poisoning or chasing skirts. TFP is full of uber-brainiacs. And me, for some reason.

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I don't want to be linked to him for eternity.
Is that a URL joke?
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Old 02-18-2009, 12:23 PM   #27 (permalink)
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I've made some very personal posts in the sexuality forum, & I'm not yet comfortable with sharing that information with my real world friends.

To a much lessor degree, I would be concerned about their reaction to the porn section.
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Old 02-18-2009, 12:24 PM   #28 (permalink)
 
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Old 02-18-2009, 12:43 PM   #29 (permalink)
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give visitors greater access than the 3-4 posts they can presently read before being locked out.
This is a good point. If this restriction had been in place when I found TFP, I never would have joined.
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Old 02-18-2009, 12:56 PM   #30 (permalink)
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This is a good point. If this restriction had been in place when I found TFP, I never would have joined.
I concur. I lurked for several days before I posted my hot-hot n00b drivel.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:06 PM   #31 (permalink)
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- Porn. Nobody wants to be recommended to a porn board regardless of the gnarliness of the other content.
On the contrary, I showed it to a few friends and several of them, including one couple, appreciated the porn.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:16 PM   #32 (permalink)
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I choose other, because I have recommended this site to others. They just aren't into message boards.
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Old 02-18-2009, 02:16 PM   #33 (permalink)
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On the contrary, I showed it to a few friends and several of them, including one couple, appreciated the porn.
Well, most my intellectual friends are female and it's been my experience that most women don't like porn a whole lot due to body image issues or... whatever.

...

The point: You can get porn anywhere on the Web. Hell, it finds you. I did a Google search for a specific gun part yesterday and got boob pictures in the first page. I didn't know that giant fake breasts were somehow directly related to AR-15 uppers.

And: Seeing that porn is everywhere and you practically trip over it to get to G-Mail, why does TFP have to have it?

Not that I've looked at it, but the exhibition stuff on TFP is cool by me. It's real people, right? Hell, I was even thinking about posting in there after I get my Brazilian done.

Generic pr0n? Lame. It's like opening a store that sells junk mail.
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Old 02-18-2009, 03:37 PM   #34 (permalink)
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Maybe it should be setup where you have to request access to the porn section? There are a larg number of people that look at porn that you wouldn't expect to. Yet, if it and the exhiition boars were off-limits until they were here long enough to know about it, and wantd to ask for admission, it might make things a litle better.
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Old 02-18-2009, 03:39 PM   #35 (permalink)
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It's been like that from time to time, we'd lock down access, we'd force participation on the community that exists within there.

forgot .... people had to EARN the access at one point in time, just like they have to earn access to some of the other forums here.
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Old 02-18-2009, 03:53 PM   #36 (permalink)
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people still have to earn access to exhibition..
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Old 02-18-2009, 04:07 PM   #37 (permalink)
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But do they automatically earn it after posting for a while, or do they actually have to request it?
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Old 02-18-2009, 04:10 PM   #38 (permalink)
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It's all about the porn. Pretty much the only reason I don't actively "recruit." That, and how 90% of the Internet would get banned here in 2 days because we have mods that do their job.
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Old 02-18-2009, 04:18 PM   #39 (permalink)
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This is 'my' board, i can be absoloutly myself without any preconceptions or knowledge. I don't mind internet friends coming to take a looksee, but someone who knows me in person will see more about myself that i would want them to see.
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Old 02-18-2009, 04:19 PM   #40 (permalink)
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That, and how 90% of the Internet would get banned here in 2 days because we have mods that do their job.
TFP: Your brain must have _X_ wrinkles to enter.

...

Honestly, this is the most mature multi-topic board I've ever seen. It's like an exclusive martini lounge where everybody wears fedoras.
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