08-03-2008, 07:33 PM | #1 (permalink) | |
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Should you recycle an ex?
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Would you set up your ex with one of your friends?
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08-03-2008, 08:44 PM | #3 (permalink) |
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I'd have to have some idea where they were. The only ex of mine that I see regularly is married with kids and lives about 3 blocks away, and we don't keep in contact other than random meetings in the street.
I've moved on from these people, why would I want to go to a party with them?
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08-03-2008, 10:00 PM | #4 (permalink) | |
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I sense better luck if everyone brings a close friend to a party. Heck, I have a childhood friend or two that I wouldn't mind setting up.
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08-03-2008, 10:30 PM | #5 (permalink) |
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I know people date for sport these days but I can't imagine being emotionally detached enough from someone I've been with to be comfortable with something like this. We all say we'd love to see our exes happy but I can't be the only one who's never truly meant it.
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08-03-2008, 10:41 PM | #6 (permalink) |
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I'd set my ex up with a date. Anyone in Alaska want a GF?
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08-03-2008, 10:50 PM | #7 (permalink) |
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I've never even said it, much less meant it. Okay, maybe there are a couple that I hope become mentally stable someday. But vouch for them? To one of my friends? Noooo can do. Besides, my girlfriends would laugh their asses off if I even tried.
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08-04-2008, 04:41 AM | #8 (permalink) |
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Why would I want to introduce my friend to a complete psychopath? I wouldn't be a very good friend. I think it would really depend, First I'd have to be on good terms and most likely even be able to maintain a friendship with the person before I'd even consider introducing them to anyone.
As far as ex-recycling parties, I'd assume you'd need a quite large social group to pull something like this off which just isn't likely to find in my small town in Kentucky
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08-04-2008, 05:55 AM | #11 (permalink) |
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I can honestly say I want my ex to be happy... as long as it's away from me.
Would I recommend her to friend? No. Make that hell no.
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08-04-2008, 08:13 AM | #12 (permalink) |
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That's...fucking weird. I don't think I could do it.
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08-04-2008, 08:55 AM | #13 (permalink) |
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That's...odd. As someone else said, I can't think of any of my friends' exes that I would want to date. And fixing them up with MY exes? Oy.
I've never understood the "I MUST be in a relationship" mentality,especially when it comes to the whole "setup" thing. Isn't it better to just... let it happen naturally?
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08-04-2008, 09:20 AM | #14 (permalink) |
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LOL.
funny responses. I agree. I am not comfortable with exes. They are exes for a reason. This kind of goes back to that discussion on being friends with exes...I know a few people who seem to be able to do it. To me, it's always a case of, why stay friends with exes? It's only potential trouble. I am able to be civil. I have tried to be friends...but I have come to the conclusion it's not something I am able to detach from so it's better to just move on.
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08-04-2008, 10:38 AM | #15 (permalink) |
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Has nobody here ever ended a relationship on a friendly basis? Geez. It sounds like you're all so emotionally delicate that you can't simply vouch for an ex. I could do this... you're not hanging out with your ex, you're bring them them to an event and setting them loose. Everyone's playing their cards close to their chest on this one - how boring.
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08-04-2008, 11:00 AM | #16 (permalink) |
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I can see a situation where two mature adults agree that they don't work as a couple, remain friends. Just because someone is your ex doesn't mean he/she's psycho. I don't see myself doing this, though(the party thing).
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08-04-2008, 12:27 PM | #18 (permalink) |
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I was thinking the same thing as Halx. But, all my exes are over 20 years into my past, so I have no way to recommend them.
At some point an ex was a person you loved; then something came up that determined that they weren't the person with whom you would spend the rest of your life. Don't they still have plenty of good qualities? I hope that most of my exes are in happy relationships, apart from one psycho.
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08-04-2008, 12:40 PM | #19 (permalink) |
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No, not all of my relationships ended on bad terms. But at the same time, the only people I'd be willing to "fix up" would be my closest friends...and they would (most likely) have the same issues with my exes that I did.
*shrug* The exes I got along with best are married now, though, so I guess it isn't relevant. And I'm glad they're happy-- they're pretty awesome guys. I think what I find most odd about the article is the fact that people are desperate, or maybe just bored, enough to say "hey... what about your ex? Could I date them?" or something to that effect. Much more so than "vouching" for someone.
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08-04-2008, 01:05 PM | #20 (permalink) | |
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08-05-2008, 01:59 AM | #21 (permalink) |
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Nope. By my nature, all of my relationships were pretty intense and I was emotionally invested in each one of them (and a long time ago, as well). I would not be participating in an event like this.
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08-05-2008, 02:42 AM | #22 (permalink) | |
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I'd have no problem at all doing this
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08-05-2008, 03:38 AM | #23 (permalink) | |
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And if she did find someone I'd be happy for her.
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