06-05-2008, 01:55 PM | #41 (permalink) |
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There are a lot of things where I can abide white lies, but the death of someone you care for is not one of those things. I'd cease communication with any 'friend' or acquaintance who thought they could fool me in such a way.
Unfortunately for these children, they have no way of ceasing communication with the faculty of their school. Though I don't think a "mental anguish" type of suit would hold any type of merit, this is a very unethical thing to do, if not illegal. Even if it does 'teach' children not to drink and drive, it also secondarily teaches them that it's OK to lie when you're trying to prove a point.
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06-05-2008, 02:17 PM | #42 (permalink) |
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Well, in the abstract this could be a case for intentional infliction of emotional distress if any of the kids could show some sort of actual trauma beyond merely "I was upset before they told me." The catch is that the jury would have to think that the conduct was outrageous and reckless with regards to the feelings of those involved. Given the link to trying to teach kids about drunk driving, I think you'd have a hard time seating a jury who would see it that way.
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06-05-2008, 03:29 PM | #43 (permalink) |
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I beleive (yes, with the school year over I can now be more than a lurker!) that MADD is one of the most corrupted organizations in existance... not evil, just completely different than what they started out as.
This is nothing more than a shock scheme determined to scare kids into not being retarded. I agree with this. There are way too many things and people in this world that tell people that if you make any kind of mistake 'It's okay.' and 'Don't do it again.' (I'm from Minnesota, one of the most liberal states in the nation - I saw this al the time while in school) This rhetoric leads people, especially children, into thinking that they can do anything and the consequences won't be all that dire. Unfortunately, this is not the case. After being exposed to small punishments, slaps on the wrist, and Don't-do-it-agains for their entire 7 years of Middle and High school-itude, 14 of my graduating class of 360 are dead from drug overdoses, drunk driving, and suicides... (frequency in that order with 2 suicides) I remember one person who just died a few months ago... I knew him since second grade and he was a loser the entire time. He was arrested for possesion about 5 times through high school and once for MIC. Turns out he died of a drug overdose. In his friends written eulogy, under their favorite activities together, was 'poking smot'. Maybe if someone bothered to shock him he wouldn't have been all that worthless. To further my digression, my future roommate was t-boned going through an intersection in Kansas City last week. She was hit by a 17 year old high schooler who was drunk and stoned, and didn't notice the light was red. Turns out that person had a sober passenger in the car. If they had been shocked by a school, maybe Sophia wouldn't need to pay her hospital bills or her extra insurance. So back to my main point. I approve this system. I'd rather have 100,000 high school kids get minorly scarred in one afternoon and learn it was a hoax than have one of them on the road threatening my, or my girlfriends, or my family's lives. Fuck their 'mental anguish', at least they're still alive to bitch about it. *edit, t-boned, not tboned Last edited by The Faba; 06-05-2008 at 04:37 PM.. |
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06-05-2008, 06:05 PM | #45 (permalink) | |
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A few people who were involved in "whit-out" day got the point; at that time we were mostly straight edge kids (yes, I was sXe before it was cool) who agreed with the anti-drinking message. The rest of the school just screamed "feaks!" at me (the reaper) and the "victims" who painted their faces white and ignored us. |
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06-06-2008, 05:30 AM | #46 (permalink) | |
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More generally, I'm interested in whether or not a school should spend a lot of time focusing on topics like this. Seems like our school systems have enough trouble teaching students, why reduce the amount of time devoted to classes? Should we include similar "fear appeal" programs for other social issues (e.g. obesity, safe sex, racism, sexism, homophobia...)? Last edited by sapiens; 06-06-2008 at 06:01 AM.. |
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06-13-2008, 11:23 AM | #48 (permalink) | |
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06-13-2008, 02:50 PM | #49 (permalink) |
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They did something similar to this back when I was in high school, except the 'dead' had their faces painted in white and we weren't allowed to acknowledge their presence. I guess the white face paint was to indicate they were ghosts, but it didn't have the same effect.
But having the cops come in and tell the kids their classmate was dead? Priceless. And more effective than the chick that had her face burned off a drunk driver slammed into her car on her prom night making it burst into flames and killing her boyfriend. All that did was give people nightmares and made them feel sorry for her. I give this one an A+. I'm pretty sure two or three years from now when they're binge drinking one of them will say, "dude, remember that time the cops came into the classroom and told us you were like, dead?"
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08-13-2008, 07:01 AM | #50 (permalink) |
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After loosing my 18 year old son to a repeat offender drunk driver and loosing two more of his classmates with six months of each other due to alcohol related accidents I don't think anything is too much to get the attention of our children. We all know as teens and even adults things like that don't happen to us they happen to other people but if it makes them realize it can happen to them then maybe they will think twice before being so careless with their lives and the lives of others. They will get over this hoax a lot quicker than their family could ever get over loosing them. Sometimes we have to use the SHOCK factor to get their attention. I strongly recommend this for all high schools! Thanks MADD for all you do!
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08-13-2008, 07:10 AM | #51 (permalink) | |
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08-13-2008, 07:15 AM | #52 (permalink) |
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Man, people LOVE to overreact. Everybody's safe and sound...jeez.
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08-13-2008, 07:16 AM | #53 (permalink) |
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I wish I could rent Red Pavement or Blood On The Highway, with MST3K treatment.
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08-13-2008, 07:27 AM | #54 (permalink) | |
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08-13-2008, 08:45 AM | #55 (permalink) | |
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As I said showing the damage explaining the damage, talking about kids killed I can understand, but to put that emotional (psychological) stress to a whole school like that is just wrong. |
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08-13-2008, 08:54 AM | #56 (permalink) |
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A parent can teach a child that the stove is hot until they're blue in the face. Only after the child burns himself does he understand that it is in fact hot.
Sure, older/adult persons have a better understand of warning, but actual experience really stays with you. Much more than anything you've been taught by parents or teachers.
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08-13-2008, 09:12 AM | #57 (permalink) |
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I think what MADD did was sick. I don't care what you're trying to educate kids about, you don't make them believe their friend is dead, and then go, "Psych! Just kidding! Don't drink and drive!" That is just cruel and abhorrent.
I teach high school, I know how resistant kids can be at that age. I agree that sometimes you have to go the extra mile to shock their complacency. Having an assembly where they get to meet kids paralyzed and otherwise crippled by drunk driving? A good idea. Displaying the wreck of a car driven drunk and crashed? A good idea. Showing them gory pictures or movies of drunk driving crashes? A good idea. Emotionally abusive psychological manipulation? Really unacceptable.
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08-13-2008, 09:36 AM | #58 (permalink) | |
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08-13-2008, 09:45 AM | #59 (permalink) | |
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I didn't have anyone in our school involved in drunk driving fatalities during my tenure there.
These real events were more shocking than anything else I had been told or read about. The other things, are much more "It won't happen to me."
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08-13-2008, 10:08 AM | #60 (permalink) |
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While you may think it may help 98% of the kids what about the other kids that it may psychologically harm. I feel there are other methods of educating children and some lines that are just wrong.
And Cynthetiq while you and I agree krav maga is the right way to learn how to defend yourself, where you actually go through being choked to learn how to defend yourself it may not be the right way for everyone to learn. Here there is perhaps real psychological damage not being choked in a controlled environment. |
08-13-2008, 10:16 AM | #61 (permalink) |
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Throughout my 4 year high school career, I have been through 4 annual Drinking and Driving awareness assemblies complete with lots of fake blood, pictures of smashed cars and speeches from people who knew people who got into an accident. Have they had any effect on me? None. In fact, I found them amusing. It just doesn't work for the most part.
Know what hit home? When my friend opened up the day with a speech over PA system saying goodbye to four of her close friends (my acquaintances) who have died over the weekend (it was Monday morning) in a car crash. Drunken car crash where the driver deemed it to be a good idea to take an off ramp at 120 miles per hour. No survivors.
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08-13-2008, 10:34 AM | #62 (permalink) | |
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I'd rather worry about the more than the one. I'm a believer in the needs of the many outweigh those of the few. If worrying about the emotional distress of 2% and you still lose more of the 98%, well, then IMO the thinking is flawed. Someone is allowed to die because of concern about someone's emotional state? Now there still has been no studies to show the effectiveness of this program, or even the emotional impact.
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08-13-2008, 10:53 AM | #64 (permalink) |
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duh of course she's going to agree, she needs the booking
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08-13-2008, 04:31 PM | #65 (permalink) | |
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What happens to the kid whose best friend, boyfriend, study buddy, or crush is declared dead in front of everyone? Are we really supposed to say, "Gee, I'm sorry you had the most traumatic morning of your young life, but we're kind of hoping that hearing about the death of some kid he used to steal lunch money from will maybe make the football halfback who likes to pound 40s of Mickey's on the weekends think twice before getting into his Mustang?" I don't care if maybe it works better for a couple of kids than hearing the same message from everyone they love and zillions of signs around them. It is cruel, it is manipulative, and it is emotionally abusive. I would never participate in such a thing as a teacher, and if my kid's school did that to them, I would sue them.
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08-13-2008, 04:39 PM | #66 (permalink) |
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I would imagine it being far better to make clear as a parent that regardless of the situation. You support them and do not wish for them to get in the car with a drunk or drive themselves. Whatever happened in the night happened, but at least I know you are coming home safe. I would far rather be woke in the night to bring my drunken teen home than to have an officer wake me up telling my child was killed.
When I was in high school, most of these attempts to shock us were laughable. The one instance that really did hit home was when a drunk driver hit a classmate just a little over a month before the end of school. He survived but it was definitely an eye-opener. Truth be told I think most teens fear angry parents more than death. After all, it could never happen to me... |
08-13-2008, 08:35 PM | #67 (permalink) |
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Spoken like a true American.
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08-13-2008, 10:44 PM | #68 (permalink) |
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Only because in America, we get tossed in the clink for smacking the principal upside the head.
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08-14-2008, 05:41 AM | #70 (permalink) | |
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And yes, levite, I don't agree with that either. It falls under the whole "suing for any stupid reason" category that I add new things to daily.
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08-14-2008, 07:53 AM | #71 (permalink) |
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We did something similar to this when I was in high school, but we knew about it beforehand. There was also a mock crash every year, complete with the life squad arriving "on the scene."
This however... well, I can't say I'm a fan. Whether or not it's effective, I think the end result for me would have been just be getting pissed off and no longer trusting my teachers.
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08-14-2008, 10:49 AM | #72 (permalink) | |
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And I wouldn't sue for money. I would sue to get an injunction to stop the school from ever doing that again, and to get an apology for the cruelty with which the students were treated.
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08-14-2008, 11:09 AM | #73 (permalink) |
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If it makes the dangers of drink driving more of a reality to anyone who gets behind a wheel then I am all for it.
Seems that any advertising campaigns, no matter how brutal are just not working here and people still take that chance. Lives should never be put at risk due to people's own stupidity. |
08-14-2008, 11:20 AM | #74 (permalink) |
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Wow, so scaring a few kids each year is worse than the possibility of losing the occasional kid. Glad everyone has their priorities straight. This is a good idea. My cousin was killed many years ago by a drunk driver. Hit from behind while walking down the road and apparently thrown 20 feet. He wasn't a good kid, and probably would have spent a fair amount of time in jail later in life, but he at least deserved a shot.
And I guess it's ok to show kids car wrecks and hospital and accident pictures of real accidents because it "did not happen to anyone you know". Maybe the old ways aren't working well and we need to try something new. |
08-14-2008, 12:00 PM | #75 (permalink) | |
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I refuse to believe that there is no better way we can come up with to impress upon kids the importance of the lesson "don't drink and drive" than this cruel and manipulative little exercise. This is not a question of trying to shield kids from personal experience. It's a question of being honest with them, especially in situations where the deception in question is particularly heartless. The argument that we should emotionally abuse a lot of kids in order to potentially save the lives of a few is a classic "the needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few" argument. And that argument is a fallacy: we can't always break situations down to "the many" and "the few." Quite often, we have to remember that "the many" and "the few" are abstractions. Individuals are not abstractions: they are actual personalities, actual beings, with feelings of their own.
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08-14-2008, 12:05 PM | #76 (permalink) |
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This is nothing more than an ethics question. I'm all for it. You're not. Agree to disagree.
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08-14-2008, 01:44 PM | #77 (permalink) |
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Why stop here, start showing everyone clips of people dying from aids, or heck pretend someone has it to teach safe sex. Have another student get lung cancer from smoking...
Again this is emotional psychological abuse, and the gain is not worth the cost. |
08-14-2008, 02:54 PM | #78 (permalink) |
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Again. "Won't happen to me".
In other words - useless.
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08-14-2008, 07:47 PM | #79 (permalink) |
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every time I hear of one of these staged trauma deals, I think of the boy who cried wolf.
bad idea in my book
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