Question for the Ladies
 

So, my gf is claiming, and I quote, "Every girl has had sex for money at one time or another"

Now, I don't think this is true. Ladies?

has she had sex for money?

She would be...incorrect.

But then again, I ain't no Lady!

ask her for her definition of the term "money" and i think you'll find that she's right...

Once upon a time, long long ago, I heard someone say that a woman who marries to be supported in life is just a different kind of prostitute.
But, in reality, I don't know of any woman who has ever 'had sex for money'.
Sounds to me like she's justifying an action of her own....

Not every girl. I didn't marry to be supported. I've worked, most of the time harder than he did. I can honestly say that I have never had sex for any kind of renumeration. I have sex because I want to. Period.

Money means just that, Money, cash, little peices of paper with pictures of dead presidents on them.


yes she has

She's wrong, totally wrong. I know many more ladies who would never, ever have sex for money. Me included.

That being said, I also know a few women who had it for a spoonful of coke. They seemed to think it was a different way of "trading" something for something ....i.e. commerce.

Literally then she is incorrect. Figuratively she would still be incorrect IMHO but closer to being accurate.

I'm speaking completely literal here.

I just looked in my pants and I ain't no lady either. I think people have sex for many reasons; when the attraction relates to power, often there is money or the material trappings of success involved. Can that be construed as sex for money?

If it's literally sex for money, then I would say that's prostitution. Did she claim that income on her tax return?

A man goes up to a woman in a bar and asks

"$50 to blow me in the men's room"

the woman is taken aback and promptly slaps the man across the face.

"that's a horrible thing to just come up and ask" she says.

"Fine he says, how about $1000!"

Taken aback even more, she things about it for a while, and notices that he is a handsome man, and it wouldn't really be more than a few minutes of actual work. She could really use the $1000..

"Okay, fine" she says, "but money up front"

The man hands her a $100 bill and says "how about this?"

"$100! I'm not going to blow you in the mens room of a seedy bar for $100! What kind of woman do you think I am?"

to which the man replies the moral of our story:

"Oh, I thought we had already figured that out, and were now haggling on the price..."


~fin

Some of us bitter individuals tend to describe the modern dating schema as legalized prostitution.

"$200, $200, $200! $250, do I hear $250? Going once-going-twice-SOLD... TO THE WOMAN WITH THE INVITING MOUTH-HOLE!"

Every girl? Well she's wrong, because I haven't, and never would.

What are we referring to here exactly? I don't get it. It seems plain to me that statement is wrong. I'd say that

"Most women would not have sex purely for money...though of course there are always some that would." Seems more balanced to me.

Why did she say that to you?

Because shes an idiot. She still stands by the comment tho :rolleyes:


Shes nuts, I really hate her at this point. Shes over 50 and I'm 25, met her when I was 14 if that gives you any indication as to the craziness we're dealing with :shakehead:

Like whoa.

Dude, marry her.

No wonder you're on illicit substances.

This.

But this is part of our basic natures, nothing to be ashamed of.

You need to get out more often.

So, was your girlfriend a hooker? Or just willing to fuck for money?

I don't know that I would have completely ruled it out at one time in my life.

It would have to have been the right guy and the right price.

Now however it would be out of the question.

[threadjack/sidenote/this reminds me...]

With one of my ex-girlfriends, we used to play a game where one of us would go and sit somewhere with lots of people nearby, and then the other would wander up and try to "pick up" the other one by being as crude and undesirable as possible.

One time, after saying hi and asking her if she lived nearby or just came for the atmosphere (something I considered to be nicely cheesy), I interrupted her answer in mid-sentence to say, "I have to be honest with you, you're talking and all I can think is how much I'd like to put my penis in your mouth-hole."

The conversation continued to devolve from there, and of course she acted like she loved it, despite everyone around us giving me the death stare.

[end threadjack/sidenote/this reminds me...]

Not illicit in Montana ;)


and shes not my gf.

Not anymore. I need to get out and find myself a nice slice of 'normal'

But was she a hooker?

Not it.

No, and no, and no.
Sheesh.

That would put me on permanent deferral for blood donation!
:lol:

I can honestly say I have never had sex for money - I have sex because I enjoy it.

But then again I can honestly say I have never had a guy buy me dinner that didn't come in a paper bag, I've never had a guy buy me movie tickets without me giving him the money first, I've never had 'spontaneous presents' from a guy I slept with and we usually go in turns to the bar for drinks when we're out. So even in the whole dating scene I've never had sex for money.

Then again most of the people I have slept with have been FWB so we're friends first and the sex is just a nifty bonus.

HAHA true or not, depending on how you want to get into the semantics of it.

Do you think they would actually admit it? We are talking about women here!

Well then i suggest that you tell her not to make statements like "all women bla bla bla"

I've never had sex for money and I don't intend to unless healer and i do a bit of role playing :D and even in that case I wouldn't accept actual money just embrace the idea of being fucked like i was a whore. lol.

But yeah, get out and find yourself someone your own age.

nah...let's rather not...it's too easy

No. Not every women has sex either.

Funny, how many "ladies" are responding to this thread...

Pfft... have you seen my tuck job? I'm pretty hot as a lady.

Oddly enough, I have no trouble believing this.

And with this, every man who reads this thread instantly falls in love.

I'm trying to find her rough location by tracing her IP# right now.

hahaha

I dunno take the corollary. Has every guy paid cash money for sex? I sure as hell haven't. But have I give things that were valuable to people with whom I have had sex? Absolutely. Just not, ya know, up front. That ain't classy.

I would balk at any outright trade of goods / favors for sex. Not least because I shouldn't get anything out of sex the other person isn't also.

She thinks EVERY girl has had sex for money?

What does she do...ask every woman she meets? "Yea, I 'd like a big mac, fries, and say, um...have you ever had sex for money?"

I never have for money, never will. I cannot remember any woman who has told me that they have. But then, I've never asked.

What she could mean is that most ladies have been with a guy they almost care nothing about, and a bit of cash was the "push-over-the-edge" factor that made the difference.

That's definitely believable.

Wait, wait! Does "dinner and a movie" = remuneration?

LOL, and to ponder that so many guys think that this shit actually works on women!

Not that I wouldn't like to try it just to check out the reactions.....

And my wife and I have made "exchanges". Sometimes when I was in the mood and she wasn't really feeling the part, I'd start bidding for the service I was interested in. We both had decent jobs, and money wasn't really the problem, it just made for some fun (read: GREAT!) sex. I wouldn't call it "role playing" in it's strictest sense, but it was fun, and we both still laugh about it today.

I just wish I had money to burn right now....:rolleyes:

Sex for money => nope. Just seems like a bad idea.

What kind of delusional life would someone have to live in order to honestly believe that every woman has?

After listening to stories from my ex-girlfriend regarding past relationships, I'd have to say this is true.

I tend to agree with this one. Not always the case but alot of the time it is. I know lots of girls who wouldn't sleep with a person until they took them out on a nice date. In fact my ex wouldn't put out unless I got her presents or food. I promptly dumped her ass.

Why don't people ever buy me stuff for my penis?

I wonder that myself. I once was in a casual sexual relationship with an ex of mine who lived in another city. When I would go to visit him, he would fill my car with gas and take me out for dinner.

Is that getting paid for sex?

In my mind, it was fair, because when we were dating I took him out and paid for things, but at that particular point I was fairly broke and he had a very well paying job. He was also unwilling to drive to where I was, given that I lived in the dorms and he had his own apartment. But I'm curious to hear what others think about such an arrangement.

Shoulda stuck with that guy! Gas is friggin' expensive! If the girl I'm seeing now would fill up my truck every time I saw her I wouldn't need student loans!

I wasn't to be taken literally. Materialistic women will always be materialistic women. Healthy relationships aren't a hush-hush barter system (in most cases).

I may not qualify for this thread since I've only been with my husband, but I think I can honestly say I never will in the future. In my opinion, the statement was an over-generalization.

I don't see how that could be interpreted as getting paid for sex.

Does being "old school" and wanting to be romanced mean he's buying it? I don't see it that way. It's not about how much money he's willing to spend. I want to know that I'll be respected and treated well. Besides, there's nothing like a man who adores you so much he wants to give to you. Even better when it's reciprocated. (For the record, we can spoil you guys back!)

Of course you do!! You're a woman. You count. There's one more woman to add to the list. How else would we prove to ziadel that his girlfriend is wrong?

Many people do not tie the idea of sex to love or other moral conventions, so money might be just as good a reason as any other. Perhaps those who do believe that every woman has thinks in those terms is unable to conceive of someone not thinking in those terms.

a perspective I hadn't considered.

Old school like paleolithic or like Cary Grant. Cause, ya know. There's a difference.

ziadel...

was she your teacher??

there seems to be a lot of those stories floating round lately

It all depends on how you look at things, as far as receiving cold hard cash, I would say no. As far as dinners, movies, drinks, jewellery and chocolates or even flowers, I suppose most women do get paid for sex.

Though, even in marriage, most men really get paid also, if you look at it that way.

If I'm too pay you for sex then it means that that's as far as my interest in you goes. I'm not going to want to talk to you, get to know you or any of that good stuff. I'd be paying for a service and wouldn't interested.

If I'm buying dinner or other date stuff, I'm trying to get to know you or facilitating hanging out with you

If I'm buying gifts and such, I'm not saying 'hey, this is how much I care for you' it's more like my way of sharing the warmth I feel toward you.

In fact, when dating, how much do you make/have questions are off putting

If things look like an exchange, I might go through, but things will stay at that level

Pimp Up Ho's Down

I've never had sex for money, for dinners, for flowers, or any other material item. When I've had sex, it was because of feelings and emotions, and not because someone bought me a nice dinner. If I have ever used sex as a reward, it was because of the way he treated me, not ever because of what he bought me. As they say, actions speak louder than words (and much louder than some pretty flowers or a meal).

Bottom line: You want sex? save your money, and just treat me right.

i've never had sex for money but i have used it in relationships as a sweetner to get what i want ie a dishwasher

To the post above me:
Okay... I met people like you. I guess I don't have much to say about that.

True that. I've met more of these type of girls in my region than the post on top of mine. Although it's pretty hard to convey actions that shows that you respect them. For all I know, a wave could be a something else to another person.

I think it's pretty easy to show respect through actions...in regards to sex, for example, don't treat it like a booty call. Don't run out the door; stay the night and cuddle. Call the next day. Take her out in public. (No need to spend money..walking through the park and holding her hand, show her that you aren't ashamed to be seen with her in the light of day) Holding doors open works, too (for me, that is). Don't criticize her opinions (it's okay to disagree with them, but do it in a way that won't make her feel stupid, inferior, or insignificant.) Listen to her, and actually pay attention..that will show her that you actually give a shit about what she's saying.

Of course, respect is a two way street, and I would hope that she would show her respect for you as well.

See? some of us girls are easy to please...and guys seem to think we're such complicated creatures! :D

Yes, because you're like a Rubik's cube with boobs.

lmfao...no we aren't! (at least not all of us) I think guys are harder to figure out than girls...go figure, right? ;)

Depends on how old you are, your relationship body count, etc.

But let's not confuse men and women here. I wake up in the morning with a hard-on and think deep thoughts like... "I wonder if I can unlock my door with this thing?"