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albania 08-25-2007 10:59 AM

'Honor Killing' in Italy Spurs Quest for Justice
 
What a sad state of affairs that some people still can justify murder to themselves in this way. I personally can't even begin to comprehend how someone can kill a family member. I'm not a father, but supposing I had a daughter it seems impossible to even think of a hypothetical situation where I would want to harm her. What in the world makes one believe they have the right to dictate how someone else should live their life? It's things such as these that make me, an ardent optimist when it comes to human nature, doubt sometimes.

I found this article on another board; it's is about a month old, specifically it focuses on an "honor" killing of a Pakistani woman in Italy, but it has plenty of other information.

http://www.womensenews.org/article.c...ontext/archive there's a picture of the girl in the link.


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Lady Sage 08-25-2007 12:47 PM

There is so much I could say, but I fear it would bee too emotional and get me into trouble. I shall just say... Rest her soul.

Strange Famous 08-25-2007 01:34 PM

I think they reckon that there is about 1 of these a week in the UK - a lot of them never even really get reported cos its just portrayed like the girl ran away. Hard to see how you can come to understand your God in a way that finds honour in slaughtering your own children... but people have a lot of funny ideas. I guess it does seem to be that these idea's are concentrated in certain faiths and certain ethnic communities right now... but above and beyond being an ethnic or a religious issue, I think we do need to say it is a "a person being a degenerate fucking piece of shit issue" first of all.

Fire 08-25-2007 07:31 PM

to me the idea of having honor, and family honor is a good thing- what these people are doing, however, goes against what I think honor is about, and dishonors their families- especially the killing of rape victims- WTF sure, I am ok with killing the rapist, and more power to em if they do- but killing a victim to redeem family honor- that is like blaming someone for messing up the family car cause they were hit by a drunk driver..... and I can understand shunning a family member that does not follow the rules of or ascribe to the values that the rest of the family does, but killing them does not make sense to me unless this is one fucked up family - hell, my family has black sheep, and we disowned them like civilized people- this just shows the cultural gap between some of the east and some of the west- we are only getting closer, and its gonna be a bumpy ride ahead indeed........

Lady Sage 08-25-2007 07:48 PM

Fire, you fairly well expressed most of my views. On the contrary, I am the family black sheep because of my religious beliefs. They tried the disowning thing but found that they missed my company and it wasnt nearly as bad as they thought it was. :D

Fire 08-25-2007 09:49 PM

we have never disowned someone for religious beliefs- our black sheep are multi state drug traffickers who allowed relatives to support them while claiming to be on hard times... while running a drug running network for boco dinero.... and then getting caught and expecting the family to pay for legal defense - still pisses me off.........

Infinite_Loser 08-25-2007 10:04 PM

Here's the thing, though. You're 100% "Westerners". Therefore you can't relate to the family. You might think it's wrong but, then again, you weren't raised in that culture.

Strange Famous 08-25-2007 10:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Infinite_Loser
Here's the thing, though. You're 100% "Westerners". Therefore you can't relate to the family. You might think it's wrong but, then again, you weren't raised in that culture.

sorry, thats crap. There are basic human standards that apply to everyone - and not killing your children is one of them - which are trangressed here. saying "our culture is that we abuse women and kill them if they disobey the men" cuts absolutely no ice at all. Furthermore, if you want to live in Italy, or England, then you are bound to obey the laws and live within the key moral standards of that country.

Cynthetiq 08-26-2007 07:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
I think they reckon that there is about 1 of these a week in the UK - a lot of them never even really get reported cos its just portrayed like the girl ran away. Hard to see how you can come to understand your God in a way that finds honour in slaughtering your own children... but people have a lot of funny ideas. I guess it does seem to be that these idea's are concentrated in certain faiths and certain ethnic communities right now... but above and beyond being an ethnic or a religious issue, I think we do need to say it is a "a person being a degenerate fucking piece of shit issue" first of all.

I don't think it's too far a stretch from the fact that you accept someone robbing someone to someone else accepting that their death is honorable reclaiming them from their dishonor.

I think that crimes on their face are deplorable but if this is how the community polices itself within their own belief systems and structures, sucks, but it is what it is. People hiding their stuff behind religious beliefs doesn't make it any more right.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 07:23 AM

under some circumstances killing a man may be acceptable (morally), but killing a woman or a child never is.

Cynthetiq 08-26-2007 07:45 AM

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
under some circumstances killing a man may be acceptable (morally), but killing a woman or a child never is.

so if they are harming you in some fashion, it's okay to let them either kick the shit outta you, kill or maim you since you state that it is NEVER acceptable.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 07:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
so if they are harming you in some fashion, it's okay to let them either kick the shit outta you, kill or maim you since you state that it is NEVER acceptable.

how many cases have you ever heard of a women attacking a man physically and kicking the shit out of him or maiming him? Im not talking about getting your face slapped, but straight beaten.

Yeah, Im sure it does happen, but it is exceptionally rare - like a ratio of 1/1000 prolly compared to male violence against women.

If a woman was attacking me in some fashion, I would do the least possible to stop her and get away - I dont think its likely to be killing her. I also don't think its very likely that Im ever gonna get attacked in that way by a woman - not because Im some kind of tough guy, but it just isnt in female nature to be violent. If that sounds sexist, thats my view of the world based on my experiences and knowledge. Yes - some women can be stronger than an average man or stronger than me - and there might be rare cases of women being violent (in the same way as some men feel like they want to dress as women or have a sex change because the feel they are the wrong gender) - but the essential female character is nuturing and caring, not destructivve and violent.

And I'm also not saying its open game - that killing a guy is somehow an acceptable thing. Just that in some rare cases I think that you can argue that the guy deserved it & that doesnt apply to children (because they are not responsible fully for their actions) and it doesnt apply to women - because women are mostly not capable of the kind of things that would make some deserve to be killed.

Cynthetiq 08-26-2007 08:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
how many cases have you ever heard of a women attacking a man physically and kicking the shit out of him or maiming him? Im not talking about getting your face slapped, but straight beaten.

Yeah, Im sure it does happen, but it is exceptionally rare - like a ratio of 1/1000 prolly compared to male violence against women.

happens plenty enough. and if it's me, it isn't pleasant. you on the other hand, of course, you may find that it's acceptable or permissable, but I however do not find any kind of assault acceptable.

i guess that's why women prisons are so empty. :shakehead:
so because it's rarer that makes it okay in your book?

mixedmedia 08-26-2007 08:40 AM

Well, to take it back a little closer to OP-ville, I will agree with IL in that, even though this is a horrible, deplorable thing that is not acceptable under any circumstances, it is an act that is so far removed from Western cultural mores that we cannot relate to it on our terms. This is a practice that has been prevalent not only in Muslim society, but Hindu, as well.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
Well, to take it back a little closer to OP-ville, I will agree with IL in that, even though this is a horrible, deplorable thing that is not acceptable under any circumstances, it is an act that is so far removed from Western cultural mores that we cannot relate to it on our terms. This is a practice that has been prevalent not only in Muslim society, but Hindu, as well.

it is a practice which contradicts HUMAN standards of decency... I dont see it as having anything to do with society. We DO have a right to intervene.

Should we stand by and watch genocide - in the 1940's should the Allies have said "well, in Nazi society, however wrong it is to us, it is ok to kill people for being Jewish or Romany or homosexual...we really have no right to enforce our morality on them"???

mixedmedia 08-26-2007 08:50 AM

Have I said we don't have a right to intervene?

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 08:52 AM

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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
Have I said we don't have a right to intervene?


you are saying we cannot relate to it on our terms, and I would assume the extension of that is we cannot properly judge it. I am saying that we relate to it on human terms, and judge it thusly.

Cynthetiq 08-26-2007 08:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
you are saying we cannot relate to it on our terms, and I would assume the extension of that is we cannot properly judge it. I am saying that we relate to it on human terms, and judge it thusly.

ah the assume bit... you know the drill, make ass, you... me...

LoganSnake 08-26-2007 08:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
it is a practice which contradicts HUMAN standards of decency... I dont see it as having anything to do with society. We DO have a right to intervene.

Should we stand by and watch genocide - in the 1940's should the Allies have said "well, in Nazi society, however wrong it is to us, it is ok to kill people for being Jewish or Romany or homosexual...we really have no right to enforce our morality on them"???

No, you don't have any right to intervene because you'll be pushing your own morals and standards shaped by your society and culture. Hence, you have no idea what it's like to be a part of theirs. It's an ancient practice, so it isn't anything new or overly shocking. Comparing Nazis to this case is completely off base. One was done because of the insanity of one man and this, as I've said before is an ancient tradition practiced by more than one culture. Notice how both the mother and the father as well as other members of the family deemed it right. Are they insane? Not human? No, they were simply brought up under a different value system than you. Their government will take care of it.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by LoganSnake
No, you don't have any right to intervene because you'll be pushing your own morals and standards shaped by your society and culture. Hence, you have no idea what it's like to be a part of theirs. It's an ancient practice, so it isn't anything new or overly shocking. Comparing Nazis to this case is completely off base. One was done because of the insanity of one man and this, as I've said before is an ancient tradition practiced by more than one culture. Notice how both the mother and the father as well as other members of the family deemed it right. Are they insane? Not human? No, they were simply brought up under a different value system than you. Their government will take care of it.

one man? Hitler hardly could have killed 8 million people on his own, could he? I dont believe he ever killed 1 person by his own hand.

And the practice of murdering a child is inhuman, and is insane. All kinds of murder are an ancient as human society and all of them are prohibited. Islam does not encourage or condone parents killing their children... it is a gross perversion of Islam that is practised by these people. It is not the standard of their society. The majority of Muslims condemn these actions as do the majority of non-Muslims.

The appropriate treatment for this killer is not to be excused with some kind of absolute relativism... it is to that he should be hanged by the neck until death.

mixedmedia 08-26-2007 09:01 AM

I am saying that we cannot approach it on our terms. As if this were something occurring in the suburbs of Cleveland, Ohio. We are looking at cultures where, although it is not as widespread as it was a few centuries ago, it is still somewhat understood because of cultural standards that we cannot relate to. So to sit here and say that it is wrong as if we were talking about it within our own cultural conceptions and standards isn't taking the entire picture into consideration.

Personally, I would love more than anything to see people stop killing each other and treating each other with brutality, period. But sitting here wagging my finger saying 'they shouldn't do that, it's just wrong' would be oblivious to the complexities involved that make people act the way they do.

That's all I'm saying.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Cynthetiq
ah the assume bit... you know the drill, make ass, you... me...

how can one judge what one cannot understand?

it is not a baseless assumption, it is a logical extension of the argument.

mixedmedia 08-26-2007 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
how can one judge what one cannot understand?

it is not a baseless assumption, it is a logical extension of the argument.

a logical extension of your argument...not mine

LoganSnake 08-26-2007 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
one man? Hitler hardly could have killed 8 million people on his own, could he? I dont believe he ever killed 1 person by his own hand.

No, but he was good at convincing people. I'm fascinated by his oratory abilities which were almost hypnotic. They killed at his wish. Hence, one man.

Willravel 08-26-2007 09:05 AM

As someone who not only is friends with many devout Muslims, but has read the Qu'ran a great deal, I can tell you with great confidence that this barbaric behavior is not Islam anymore than burning a woman at the stake for witchcraft is Christianity.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
I am saying that we cannot approach it on our terms. As if this were something occurring in the suburbs of Cleveland, Ohio. We are looking at cultures where, although it is not as widespread as it was a few centuries ago, it is still somewhat understood because of cultural standards that we cannot relate to. So to sit here and say that it is wrong as if we were talking about it within our own cultural conceptions and standards isn't taking the entire picture into consideration.

Personally, I would love more than anything to see people stop killing each other and treating each other with brutality, period. But sitting here wagging my finger saying 'they shouldn't do that, it's just wrong' would be oblivious to the complexities involved that make people act the way they do.

That's all I'm saying.

The one part I agree with is that our condemnation means little to someone who has the mindset to do something like this... they are already operating in a place that is outside of human decency or true religion.

I though am arguing that we should not just condemn them, we should stop them - through physical force if other methods do not work. Since you feel that I am putting words into your mouth, I wont try to say whether I think thats whay you call for as well.

mixedmedia 08-26-2007 09:21 AM

Well, why can't we stop child abuse with physical force?

You can't stop it with physical force unless you can see what is going inside people's homes.

In most, if not all, countries where this is practiced it is illegal. From what I understand, enforcement is a problem. Because of the reasons I stated above. What needs to change is people's attitudes and just like we haven't been able to stop people with force from beating and killing their children in this country, for much less banal reasons than 'honor,' you will not be able to stop this by force.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by mixedmedia
Well, why can't we stop child abuse with physical force?

I agree it isnt easy, and I agree that especially in immigrant communities which can be insular and feel threatened by the outsiders - the battle for hearts and minds is absolutely key... but we should try.

FoolThemAll 08-26-2007 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by LoganSnake
No, you don't have any right to intervene because you'll be pushing your own morals and standards shaped by your society and culture.

It's a part of our culture to intervene when another culture condones or encourages unchecked atrocities (well, sometimes it is). I like that part of our culture and I'd rather not have a more isolationist culture pushing its morals and standards on us.

(But yeah, Italy should be able to handle this one on their own.)

LoganSnake 08-26-2007 09:47 AM

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Originally Posted by FoolThemAll
It's a part of our culture to intervene when another culture condones or encourages unchecked atrocities (well, sometimes it is). I like that part of our culture and I'd rather not have a more isolationist culture pushing its morals and standards on us.

(But yeah, Italy should be able to handle this one on their own.)

I don't think they're pushing anything on us. In fact, I didn't see it mentioned anywhere where the family said anything about it being the right thing to do everywhere. They were acting within their value system, nothing more.

FoolThemAll 08-26-2007 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by LoganSnake
I don't think they're pushing anything on us. In fact, I didn't see it mentioned anywhere where the family said anything about it being the right thing to do everywhere. They were acting within their value system, nothing more.

By "a more isolationist culture", I meant the hypothetical in which another country sought to prevent us from intervening in the matters of a country with gross, culturally-accepted human rights violations. But you weren't necessarily arguing for taking action against an interventionist culture and my comment was already kind of a tangent from the OP - Italy can handle this on its own - so to tie it back to the OP: it's not only morally permissible for the Italian government to interfere in their value system, it's morally essential.

I don't *think* you were disagreeing with that. I'd just add that I wouldn't limit such intervention to internal atrocities.

LoganSnake 08-26-2007 11:18 AM

The only thing I'm not disagreeing with is that Italy should interfere with their law system since the laws were broken in Italy.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 11:54 AM

the key point I think you are missing Logan is that this is NOT anyone's culture.

Killing your kids is only the accepted culture or murderers. As Will correctly said, Islam does NOT make this acceptable, it condemns it. Any true believer would condemn the murder of a child in this fashion. I dont know a lot about the Hindi religion, but I would be shocked it it condones killing your kids. Yes, there are snatches you can take out of the bible that can support murder and so on if you view them out of context & and prollt the Qu'ran too (although I accept that the Qu'ran can only be read in Arabic truly which I cannot do) - but the whole "Thou shalt not kill" thing is pretty universal among people of the book at least.

There is not a whole coherent culture of people who support murdering children who fall in love with someone the parents dont like... it is the action of animals, of sub humans.

Lady Sage 08-26-2007 11:59 AM

I would like for just one person to tell me how killing a woman because she was raped OR wanting to better her life by getting a college degree is an acceptable behavior.

Perhaps we should kill the men in her family instead for failing to protect her from rape or provide for her in a manner so that she didnt feel the need to go out and earn her own way.

Ourcrazymodern? 08-26-2007 12:14 PM

I killed my daughter in June and her body hasn't been found-primarily because she's still walking around.

People have always been stupid, at least since we came up with the concept. When we'll gain the will to be less so is still up in the air.

LoganSnake 08-26-2007 12:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Strange Famous
the key point I think you are missing Logan is that this is NOT anyone's culture.

Killing your kids is only the accepted culture or murderers. As Will correctly said, Islam does NOT make this acceptable, it condemns it. Any true believer would condemn the murder of a child in this fashion. I dont know a lot about the Hindi religion, but I would be shocked it it condones killing your kids. Yes, there are snatches you can take out of the bible that can support murder and so on if you view them out of context & and prollt the Qu'ran too (although I accept that the Qu'ran can only be read in Arabic truly which I cannot do) - but the whole "Thou shalt not kill" thing is pretty universal among people of the book at least.

There is not a whole coherent culture of people who support murdering children who fall in love with someone the parents dont like... it is the action of animals, of sub humans.

I know two Hindu girls who had to hide their non-Hindu boyfriends in fear of being sent back to India for an arranged marriage, or worse - disowned by their parents. It doesn't unnecessarily have to be a religious issue, but one of preserving tradition or honor in the family. The honor system is ancient and I partly agree with it. Not to the point of murder, but it has its values.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 12:27 PM

well... I dont deny that there are maniac Hindu's... but I am saying I am unsure if the Hindu religion endorses this - or if it it is just pure PERSONAL sexism of certain louts which is unchecked by a decentralised society. There are maniac Christians and maniac Muslims and maniac atheists too... but their religion isnt the key factor in making them mad.

LoganSnake 08-26-2007 01:59 PM

While I don't deny that sexism does exist in those societies, men face the same fate if they stray from the family value system. It is just how they live and what they believe in. You're not seeing it from their point of you, but trying to reason it with what you believe in, which makes it sound barbaric.

Strange Famous 08-26-2007 02:42 PM

again... I am not claiming that Western values should dominate Eastern ones. I am claiming to represent - on certain things - human values which apply to all people. I dont even buy the claim that there is no LAW above or below 60 degrees.

Fast Forward 08-27-2007 01:33 AM

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Originally Posted by albania
'Honor Killing' in Italy Spurs Quest for Justice

"Quest for justice"? That's almost funny because "justice" is exactly what the Arabs think they've achieved by "killing their own".

We've got such maniacs all over Europe - they're all muslim Arabs and Somalis of course. When our police step in and send them to prison they claim that we are racist because we are not "respecting their culture"!

To think that we spend so much of our tax money to bring those primitve baboons to our country because our Christian hearts don't want them to perish in the very same situation they're taking with them to our country!

Baaa! Our prisons are much too good for them. Send them back home into a cross-fire of their own making!!! :mad:


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