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People have all different kinds of stressors... work, home, sexual, relationship...

How do you cope with it? Do you internalize it, do you yell and scream, do you drink or do drugs (illegal or otherwise), do you work out, do you go hit something (hopefully inanimate)?

For me, I tend to vent things by thinking them out... but there are some things that are so bothersome or frustrating that I cannot force them out by mentally tossing them...

I go into my car and yell out for a few seconds. Just... let loose. Not like in the movies where people throw their head back all dramatic and screech to the heavens... I just grab onto the steering wheel and grip it tight and let out a loud holler. It's generally not even any words, just a loud noise. That's pretty much always more than enough to reset the system back to "good".

So how about you?

(the poll is coming)

Cynthetiq

I bottle it up like nice spring water.

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Halx

My coworker and I frequently take our anger out on eachother. We have this mutual understanding that none of what we say to eachother is meant to be personal. We call eachother names and make fun of eachother all day.

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abaya

You forgot to include sex...

Generally, my process is as follows: think to myself, talk with ktspktsp/family/friends, chat with friends online, write it down in my paper journal, post about it on TFP, think to myself some more... repeat. After several cycles of this, it usually gets out of my system. If not, then I'll have come up with a plan of action to address the issue. Internalizing is not my thing, obviously.

If I wasn't living in friggin' expensive Iceland, I would have a lot more methods at my disposal. Driving far (not always fast) with loud music, by myself, has been a known stress reliever over the years. Also, going shopping (or at least browsing) has helped me decompress. Working out has helped occasionally, but sometimes it only increases the intensity of my feelings. And, last but not least, having a bottle of wine or a beer with my husband on a Friday night does wonders for my stress (usually followed by hot sex).

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Kadath

Um, all of the above except drugs, working out (a walk doesn't count as working out) and shopping. It all depends on the situation. Immediate rage can be dispensed with just as quickly by something like driving, punching, yelling, etc. Slow burn anger needs to be melted away with lots and lots of alcohol. And then there's the stuff you can't get rid of, so you push it into a tight little ball and release it at an appropriate time. Like when Daddy hit the referee with a whiskey bottle. Do you remember that, sweetie? When Daddy hit the referee with the whiskey bottle? Yeah...

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QuasiMondo

Grand Theft Auto...

...with the cheat code for all the weapons.

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fresnelly

When I become overwelmed, most of all I just want to be alone.

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la petite moi

Well, a couple days ago I got really pissed at my sister and nwlinkvxd, so I yelled at them, then yelled at myself, then barricaded myself in our office to fuck around on the computer.

kurty[B]

Ditto. Depending on just how frusterated and stressed I may just go home and read, cooking also helps. If it's not too bad, and I just need a little relaxer I'll take the motorcycle out on a windy road, that gets my mind off of things and focusing on the road ahead of me. If it's extremely bad I'll hike along a creek and find a tall rock to sit on for a few hours.

Jinn

Video games always do the trick. Especially ones I own at.

I'm relatively laid back, though.

There's a notable once or twice that I've yelled, but typically it's just video games.

The other day I went for a drive for the first time, and that seemed to work too.

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Scooter. Beer. Porn.

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snowy

Video games wherein I kill things are always satisfying when I am stressed/my temper is flaring. If I'm REALLY in a mood, I take out my 29 twink BE mage to Arathi Basin in WoW and let her loose, and just kill, kill, kill.

I also do wind sprints on my bike when I'm stressed out/angry.

My antidepressants are helpful for anxiety, but somehow it's different...I think the wind sprints are a touch more effective when I'm angry.

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Willravel

I work out, drive fast, and watch movies or listen to music. It's really just about redirecting your energy. The last thing in the world I want to do is accidentally explode at someone that doesn't deserve it.

BTW, I don't drive that fast around other people.

Plan9

I destroy third world countries.

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bigflames

friends...beer....beer...drunken rant...beer...bed and all is well in the morning except the splitting headache haha or music, music is always a pleasurable escape

frogza

I put work-out, but that's misleading, I go hiking in the mountains. It is a workout but that is not the intention. THe mountains clear my mind, things up there make sense. It's like taking life back to formula.

warrrreagl

Say sarcastic, ugly things that I don't mean at all to the person who loves me most.

Working on it, though.

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hagatha

Take a long walk, even if the weather is bad. Come back exhausted and in a better frame of mind.

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newtx

Workout and try not to drive or I will drive way too fast. Smashing tennis balls or table tennis balls works the best.

Elitegibson

Would anyone believe me if I said I don't have stress? I do like punching walls though and driving fast, but all the time, not just in stressful situations.

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analog

Probably not, no.

The_Jazz

I have a stressful lifestyle. Every time I'm in a competitive situation, I just make sure I kick the shit out of my competitors. A big win will make me feel almost stress-free.

Otherwise playing with my kid is about as stress-relieving as I could ever hope for and a great reminder of why I work so hard.

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noodle

bottle it.
work out.
drink on occasion, but socially, not alone.
watch movies or listen to music.

i used to drive. not fast, not slow, but on the interstate on the loop around Jax when i was stressed. window and sunroof open, foot propped in the window, music on. it was easier to do in the jetta. now i mostly bottle it up or vent to a friend.

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Pragma

I used to bottle it up and I still do a pretty good amount of that, but I'm slowly working on changing it. Now, whenever I'm pissed off I go work out until I'm dead, then run as far as I can, then (now that it's summer) go swimming in my apartment's pool. By the time I'm done with all of that, I'm so exhausted that whatever had me angry isn't such a big deal anymore. Given how frustrating my work can be at times, I'm getting in pretty decent shape

I've also got a punching bag that I will occasionally pound the crap out of - just depends on the mood at the time.

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tenniels

Oooh good question. I do a little of everything to be honest, so I couldn't tick a box. I am the type of person that internalizes a lot of things, I think of every possible outcome, ever scenario, every detail etc. It can make a person crazy sometimes. I talk a lot with my mum (she's my best friend) and get things out that way. Lately I've been going on bike rides so let out some energy and try and clear my mind. I've also been known to do drugs to avoid dealing with things or to numb myself to stress, which obviously isn't good but I with how much thinking I force myself into, I sometimes need a break. I am working on finding more acceptable ways of doing so. I include shopping in the drug category as I use it in the same way I would say, Oxycontin. The behaviour that triggers the activity is the same one that would fuel my drug use. For awhile I was also using food in the same way, as this is again, a socially acceptable and necessary thing to do, but when used as a distraction or in place of drugs or alcohol, it's the same goddamn thing. Anyways, that went a little off topic, my apologies. I think one of the healthiest ways to let off steam is definitely exercise or doing something physical (I used to punch things, but that isn't very good either, you just end up with busted knuckles and dented walls or whatever) so I definitely want to focus more on doing things like biking when I get stressed. I also think it's a good way to prevent or manage stress when done regularily.

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Ishamael

Drive fast and play video games. But, ironically, I don't like racing games. Go figure.

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abaya

Interesting differences between the genders here. In addition to leaving out sex, the poll doesn't include "talking it out with your friends," which is what a lot of women do. Also, what about meditation? Going to counseling? Cooking? In fact, the poll centers around a lot of traditionally "masculine" reactions to stress... interesting, that's all.

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zkara

All of the below used to help.
Main thing I would do is to talk to friends, or rather, vent to my friends.
Shopping and going out for a relaxing happy hour with friends help a lot.
Cuddling and talking it out with my SO. And then sex.

Now, nothing helps. I don't like being alone, yet I am not much of a good company these days.
I keep a lot in. Everyday, I keep more to myself.
And I guess this is how it's going to be from now on.
I vent about work. I keep everything else to myself.

SecretMethod70

Mostly I talk to onodrim/other friends, relax with some TV or something, or take a nap. Sometimes I'll practice anapanasati.

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Glory's Sun

with two turntables and a microphone..

Walking Shadow

Put on a pair of spiked boots and go about stomping cats and kittens.

Good times, good times.

Willravel

Oh, I love a good cat-walk.

snowy

Yeah, I forgot that I also a) call my mom, and b) practice yoga meditation poses when I'm stressed out.

Savasana, or corpse pose, is amongst the most relaxing yoga poses. Lying on your back with your hands at your sides palm up, focus on your breathing...and voila, relaxation.

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LoganSnake

I bottle it up for about a month or so. Then, if the problem persists beyond that point, I reach my limit and explode. I am going through one right now. It's been going on for about a year now. The process has been as follows: get upset, don't say much. Repeat, repeat, repeat. Have a long, calm talk with gf about it explaining my frustration. Problem repeats itself....repeat previous steps for a year. Right now I am past my breaking point and if things don't change I'll either go crazy or go into depression. That's for ongoing frustrations, however.

If something is a one time thing I curse, yell, do hand gestures and rape my stress ball. That doesn't do much though so I use calming drops to do what they're made to do.

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abaya

So, does it really help to do that whole bottling-it-up thing?...

All I know is that when I bottle up, it starts to kill me after a couple of hours. Any longer than that, and I start to enter a mental/physical danger zone. It's definitely not good for me.

How do you manage to function like that, in all honesty?

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snowy

Seriously, I want to know...when I bottle it up, and feel like I have no outlet, my body literally starts to rebel against me. I get acid reflux that feels like my stomach and chest has turned into a burning inferno, and then my IBS flares up...oh, and I usually get a migraine, just for kicks.

I think it's much healthier to bike it out.

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JustJess

zkara - You are about to get a phone call, missy.

As for stress... I am an internalizer. I keep it in until it's too much and start acting out shit that isn't helpful, or get snippy for no reason. I'm usually pretty good at comparmentalizing things and living in a state of denial. For minor things, you'll probably have heard me vent a little - I do like to talk, and I can talk about minor aggravations without hesitation. That helps the day-to-day stuff. But if I'm living in an overall state of stress, I tend to procrastinate, deny myself into ignorant bliss, and read/watch TV/go on TFP more.

You forgot reading and procrastination.

Oh, this isn't handling stress, is it?
Abaya - (and I'm working on it, don't worry!) You don't go about intending to internalize it. It just IS. Our saying that this is what happens isn't because we planned it (or at least, *I* didn't!), this is just observation of past occurrences.

OH! Try this site, maybe it'll help give ideas!

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ziadel

I shoot stuff. And smoke pot.

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Adri

Excellent point... I do all of those things, except counseling. I think I answered three or four different things on the poll the other day, but none of them were completely true answers. My #1 way to de-stress is to talk out my problems with my mom, friends, husband, or even just my cat if there are no humans around.

I figured out as a child that animals never tell my secrets. But they do look at least slightly sympathetic/interested, especially if you hold a treat near your face.

Since the internet came around, I also tend to vent on a message board and then laugh over the witty responses I receive, which usually makes me feel better, too.

ngdawg

I explode at whoever happens to be in my way.

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