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Undercover_Man · 05-05-2007, 05:07 AM

Hello. My girlfriend has decided that she wants to play 20 questions with me. We will come up with some questions and we gotta answer them honestly. We have been going out for a little over 6 months now. I was wondering if anyone else has played this with his/her boy/girlfriend. Any suggestions for some good questions to ask? We know almost everything about each other as it is. It can be about any topic. Person or not. All questions are fair game. Anyone got any suggestions?

Thanks
~ Michael

Hektore · 05-05-2007, 06:19 AM

Do they have to be yes or no questions? And how sexually active are you two (not just with each other)? I think I'm going to need to know the answer to those two questions before I can come up with anything entertaining.

Manic_Skafe · 05-05-2007, 10:17 AM

I can't help with the questions but I've gotta suggest that you guys keep this light-hearted. I counseled way too many broken hearts over games like this and while you may be really comfortable with each other - you've only been dating for six months and some things are better off unsaid.

HAVE FUN!!

Ourcrazymodern? · 05-05-2007, 03:35 PM

If she's smarter than you are, there are no safe questions.

Doesn't 20 questions lead to a predetermined answer?

analog · 05-05-2007, 04:16 PM

Yeah you're not playing "20 questions"... you're playing "ask 20 nosy questions that I have to answer".

It's a bad idea. If she has even half a brain in her head, and she's anything less than incredibly cool and laid-back, you're in for some pain. I don't think you realize what a tremendous trap this is, especially since it was her idea.

She just wants to be able to ask you anything she wants under the pretense that you get to do the same...

skier · 05-05-2007, 04:23 PM

Do you have anything to hide?

She may find that this plan is a double edged sword...

Jetée · 05-05-2007, 04:47 PM

I find your supposedly-serious girlfriend suggesting 20 questions to be an incredibly immature way to lure you into a false sense of commitment. I'd like to ask if your are perhaps in middle-school, because this is a very sophomoric play if you envision yourself in a serious relationship with a loved one. 20 questions is a method for those unaquainted with another, not for a committed couple. But if you would like to go through with your girlfriend's request, take a clue from Playboy's 20 Qs and keep it real. Good Luck.

dlish · 05-05-2007, 08:18 PM

ok, if she cant lie and all questions are fair game, then the first question is "what is the purpose of this game?"

if she says anything other than "cos ive got reservations about you and ive got sinister motives to pry into your history and dig the dirt on you" then try and back out. if you have already committed to it, then it would look more sus if you pull out cos it would loo like you have something to hide. in that case, id recommend making this a light hearted game where you having sex by the time you get to question #3

Dilbert1234567 · 05-05-2007, 08:31 PM

why only 20? shouldn't all questions be answered honestly? will you lie on my 21st question?

ItWasMe · 05-05-2007, 09:15 PM

[QUOTE=analog]... you're playing "ask 20 nosy questions that I have to answer".
I don't think you realize what a tremendous trap this is, especially since it was her idea.
QUOTE]

Any topic? All questions fair game? Her idea? I have to go along with Analog's opinion here. Not necessarily the best idea. Think very hard about what she might ask.

I've played it with someone I was getting to know, with the option of saying 'this is too personal at this stage in the game.' They went more along the lines of 'your favorite ice cream', 'how many siblings do you have?' and 'what's your real hair color' (what was he thinking? That I'd really tell him that one?).

If you do want to play, agree that you each have a couple of 'pass' cards or six or ten.

Visit askmen.com and view their questions, and ones to avoid from her. Good luck.

Menoman · 05-06-2007, 08:35 PM

I've kinda done it, didn't relaly play a 'game' or whatever but a conversation evolved once into the same basic thing.

you'll know at a certain point what the motives are. Probably halfway through the game and it won't be hard to tell.

I'd have a bunch of questions, if she starts out with easy silly shit, you keep it on the low end too.

Don't be too pessimistic about this though. Me and my g/f's have always found silly little games that we play to keep ourselves busy and such. It very well could be innocent.

Not everyone is so coniving

shesus · 05-07-2007, 03:47 AM

What about just talking? This asking 20 questions doesn't sound good and believe me.

My name is Shesus and I am a snoop. I used to want to do things like this when I was in the dating scene. It never turned out good. I always got pissed and the poor guy was always confused. Of course, I was a teenager at the time and learned quickly that playing games like 'tell me the truth I swear I won't get mad' games were not healthy for anyone.

My suggestion depending on how old you are...

1. Get a couple bottles of wine
2. Make some pasta for dinner
3. Light some candles and put on some music in the background
4. Drink, eat, and talk without a specific number of questions

The results will be bonding and the alcohol will lower inhibitions and hopefully the anger levels since it will be a relaxing environment. PLUS, you can have some great bonding sex afterwards. These are by far my favorite evenings. Good luck!

Hektore · 05-07-2007, 04:13 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by skier

Do you have anything to hide? *snip*...

This is the way I feel about it if she is really playing games. You ever lied to her? cheated on her? cheated on anyone? Does she make a habit out of being dishonest to you?

It never occured to me that this could be some stupid ploy by her to pry information...maybe because I'm a guy too...but even if that's what it is who cares? Be you. If she wants to be pissed off at you, for being you, kick her to the curb.

Lady Sage · 05-07-2007, 04:55 PM

I have played this game before. I used some silly questions like crunchy or regular peanutbutter to wild and crazy questions. Our deal was this. In the 20 questions you get one free question... in other words, you get one you can opt not to answer.

Of course after we did 20, we did another 20 and so on.

cyklone · 05-07-2007, 05:53 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Jetstream

I find your supposedly-serious girlfriend suggesting 20 questions to be an incredibly immature way to lure you into a false sense of commitment. I'd like to ask if your are perhaps in middle-school, because this is a very sophomoric play if you envision yourself in a serious relationship with a loved one. 20 questions is a method for those unaquainted with another, not for a committed couple. But if you would like to go through with your girlfriend's request, take a clue from Playboy's 20 Qs and keep it real. Good Luck.

I'd have to agree, a kid's game. If you are adults you can ask the important questions any time without having to set up a framework around it or make it into a game, and you do ask those questions if they are important to your relationship.

vermin · 05-11-2007, 11:34 AM

Since Undercover Man asked for examples of questions and not advice on his love life (I think you guys are taking this way too seriously), here are some question suggestions:

1. What's the fastest land animal?

2. Are you of the opinion that voting is for "suckers"?

3. Have you ever used the "N" word in a wedding toast?

4. Ice-pick lobotomies for illegal aliens before deportation, yes or no?

5. When making cat-soup do you prefer feet-on or feet-less?

absorbentishe · 05-15-2007, 06:34 AM

Why don't you play a rousing game of truth or dare, and see how far you can dare each other, while still getting information out of each other?

05-05-2007, 05:07 AM	#1 (permalink)
Undercover_Man Insane	Playing 20 questions with my girlfriend. Help with come up with some good questions. Hello. My girlfriend has decided that she wants to play 20 questions with me. We will come up with some questions and we gotta answer them honestly. We have been going out for a little over 6 months now. I was wondering if anyone else has played this with his/her boy/girlfriend. Any suggestions for some good questions to ask? We know almost everything about each other as it is. It can be about any topic. Person or not. All questions are fair game. Anyone got any suggestions? Thanks ~ Michael

05-05-2007, 06:19 AM	#2 (permalink)
Hektore Junkie Location: Greater Harrisburg Area	Do they have to be yes or no questions? And how sexually active are you two (not just with each other)? I think I'm going to need to know the answer to those two questions before I can come up with anything entertaining. __________________ The advantage law is the best law in rugby, because it lets you ignore all the others for the good of the game.

05-05-2007, 10:17 AM	#3 (permalink)
Manic_Skafe More Than You Expect Location: Queens	I can't help with the questions but I've gotta suggest that you guys keep this light-hearted. I counseled way too many broken hearts over games like this and while you may be really comfortable with each other - you've only been dating for six months and some things are better off unsaid. HAVE FUN!! __________________ "Porn is a zoo of exotic animals that becomes boring upon ownership." -Nersesian

05-05-2007, 03:35 PM	#4 (permalink)
Ourcrazymodern? still, wondering. Location: South Minneapolis, somewhere near the gorgeous gorge	If she's smarter than you are, there are no safe questions. Doesn't 20 questions lead to a predetermined answer? __________________ BE JUST AND FEAR NOT

05-05-2007, 04:23 PM	#6 (permalink)
skier Rawr! Location: Edmontania	Do you have anything to hide? She may find that this plan is a double edged sword... __________________ "Asking a bomb squad if an old bomb is still "real" is not the best thing to do if you want to save it." - denim

05-05-2007, 04:47 PM	#7 (permalink)
Jetée The Reforms Location: Rarely, if ever, here or there, but always in transition	I find your supposedly-serious girlfriend suggesting 20 questions to be an incredibly immature way to lure you into a false sense of commitment. I'd like to ask if your are perhaps in middle-school, because this is a very sophomoric play if you envision yourself in a serious relationship with a loved one. 20 questions is a method for those unaquainted with another, not for a committed couple. But if you would like to go through with your girlfriend's request, take a clue from Playboy's 20 Qs and keep it real. Good Luck. __________________ As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world (that is the myth of the Atomic Age) as in being able to remake ourselves. —Mohandas K. Gandhi

05-05-2007, 08:18 PM	#8 (permalink)
dlish Currently sour but formerly Dlishs Super Moderator Location: Australia/UAE	ok, if she cant lie and all questions are fair game, then the first question is "what is the purpose of this game?" if she says anything other than "cos ive got reservations about you and ive got sinister motives to pry into your history and dig the dirt on you" then try and back out. if you have already committed to it, then it would look more sus if you pull out cos it would loo like you have something to hide. in that case, id recommend making this a light hearted game where you having sex by the time you get to question #3 __________________ An injustice anywhere, is an injustice everywhere I always sign my facebook comments with ()()===========(}. Does that make me gay? - Filthy

05-05-2007, 08:31 PM	#9 (permalink)
Dilbert1234567 Devils Cabana Boy Location: Central Coast CA	why only 20? shouldn't all questions be answered honestly? will you lie on my 21st question? __________________ Donate Blood! "Love is not finding the perfect person, but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly." -Sam Keen

05-05-2007, 09:15 PM	#10 (permalink)
ItWasMe But You'll Never Prove It. Location: under your bed	[QUOTE=analog]... you're playing "ask 20 nosy questions that I have to answer". I don't think you realize what a tremendous trap this is, especially since it was her idea. QUOTE] Any topic? All questions fair game? Her idea? I have to go along with Analog's opinion here. Not necessarily the best idea. Think very hard about what she might ask. I've played it with someone I was getting to know, with the option of saying 'this is too personal at this stage in the game.' They went more along the lines of 'your favorite ice cream', 'how many siblings do you have?' and 'what's your real hair color' (what was he thinking? That I'd really tell him that one?). If you do want to play, agree that you each have a couple of 'pass' cards or six or ten. Visit askmen.com and view their questions, and ones to avoid from her. Good luck. __________________ . . . . . . . . . . . . . . "Ok, no more truth-or-dare until somebody returns my underwear" ~ George Lopez I bake cookies just so I can lick the bowl. ~ ItWasMe

05-07-2007, 03:47 AM	#12 (permalink)
shesus Fancy Location: Chicago	What about just talking? This asking 20 questions doesn't sound good and believe me. My name is Shesus and I am a snoop. I used to want to do things like this when I was in the dating scene. It never turned out good. I always got pissed and the poor guy was always confused. Of course, I was a teenager at the time and learned quickly that playing games like 'tell me the truth I swear I won't get mad' games were not healthy for anyone. My suggestion depending on how old you are... 1. Get a couple bottles of wine 2. Make some pasta for dinner 3. Light some candles and put on some music in the background 4. Drink, eat, and talk without a specific number of questions The results will be bonding and the alcohol will lower inhibitions and hopefully the anger levels since it will be a relaxing environment. PLUS, you can have some great bonding sex afterwards. These are by far my favorite evenings. Good luck! __________________ Whatever did happen to your soul? I heard you sold it Choose Heaven for the weather and Hell for the company

05-07-2007, 04:55 PM	#14 (permalink)
Lady Sage Mistress of Mayhem Location: Canton, Ohio	I have played this game before. I used some silly questions like crunchy or regular peanutbutter to wild and crazy questions. Our deal was this. In the 20 questions you get one free question... in other words, you get one you can opt not to answer. Of course after we did 20, we did another 20 and so on. __________________ If only closed minds came with closed mouths. Minds are like parachutes, they function best when open. It`s Easier to Change a Condom Than a Diaper Yes, the rumors are true... I actually AM a Witch.

05-11-2007, 11:34 AM	#16 (permalink)
vermin Indifferent to anti-matter Location: Tucson, AZ	Since Undercover Man asked for examples of questions and not advice on his love life (I think you guys are taking this way too seriously), here are some question suggestions: 1. What's the fastest land animal? 2. Are you of the opinion that voting is for "suckers"? 3. Have you ever used the "N" word in a wedding toast? 4. Ice-pick lobotomies for illegal aliens before deportation, yes or no? 5. When making cat-soup do you prefer feet-on or feet-less? __________________ If puns were sausages, this would be the wurst.

05-15-2007, 06:34 AM	#17 (permalink)
absorbentishe Boy am I horny today Location: T O L E D O, Toledo!!	Why don't you play a rousing game of truth or dare, and see how far you can dare each other, while still getting information out of each other?