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liquidlight · 07-16-2007, 02:06 PM

http://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releas...-gwc071307.php

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Girls who complain about their problems at greater risk of developing anxiety and depression

A researcher at the University of Missouri-Columbia has found that girls who talk very extensively about their problems with friends are likely to become more anxious and depressed.

The research was conducted by Amanda Rose, associate professor of psychological sciences in the College of Arts and Science. The six-month study, which included boys and girls, examined the effects of co-rumination – excessively talking with friends about problems and concerns. Rose discovered that girls co-ruminate more than boys, especially in adolescence, and that girls who co-ruminated the most in the fall of the school year were most likely to be more depressed and anxious by the spring.

“When girls co-ruminate, they’re spending such a high percentage of their time dwelling on problems and concerns that it probably makes them feel sad and more hopeless about the problems because those problems are in the forefront of their minds. Those are symptoms of depression,” Rose said. “In terms of anxiety, co-ruminating likely makes them feel more worried about the problems, including about their consequences. Co-rumination also may lead to depression and anxiety because it takes so much time – time that could be used to engage in other, more positive activities that could help distract youth from their problems. This is especially true for problems that girls can’t control, such as whether a particular boy likes them, or whether they get invited to a party that all of the popular kids are attending.”

The study involved 813 third, fifth, seventh and ninth grade students. The participants answered questionnaires that assessed co-rumination, depression, anxiety and the quality of their best friendship in the fall and spring of the school year.

Ironically, although co-rumination was related to increased depression and anxiety, Rose also found that co-rumination was associated with positive friendship quality, including feelings of closeness between friends. Boys who co-ruminated also developed closer friendships across the school year but did not develop greater depressive and anxiety symptoms over time.

“For years, we have encouraged kids to find friends who they can talk to about their problems, and with whom they can give and receive social support,” Rose said. “In general, talking about problems and getting social support is linked with being healthy. What’s intriguing about theses findings is that co-rumination likely represents too much of a good thing. Some kids, especially girls, are taking talking about problems to an extreme. When that happens, the balance tips, and talking about problems with friends can become emotionally unhealthy.”

Rose said adolescents should be encouraged to talk about their problems, but only in moderation and without co-ruminating.

“They also should engage in other activities, like sports, which can help them take their minds off their problems, especially problems that they can’t control,” she said.

The study, “Prospective Associations of Co-Rumination With Friendship and Emotional Adjustment: Considering the Socioemotional Trade-Offs of Co-rumination,” will be published in the July issue of Development Psychology.

I'm sticking it here because I'm sure that there are plenty of studies to refute this, but I got a kick out of it so I thought I'd share!

Fire · 07-22-2007, 11:54 PM

yay- a study from my home town, and my wife's alma mater- my tax dollars have a use......

Jinn · 07-23-2007, 08:51 AM

I like the study, but not the thread title. What does men wanting their women to shut up have to do with this?

ratbastid · 07-23-2007, 10:47 AM

It's neat to see this verified by a study, but I could have told them this. And it's not just girls.

Literally what comes out of your mouth IS who you are. When what you say (and what you communicate through action) is negative and full of complaint, the whole rest of life follows. People think it's the other way around, but it's not.

Bear Cub · 07-23-2007, 02:23 PM

I'd forward this to my ex, but somehow I don't think the outcome would be favorable on my behalf

07-22-2007, 11:54 PM	#2 (permalink)
Fire Warrior Smith Location: missouri	yay- a study from my home town, and my wife's alma mater- my tax dollars have a use...... __________________ Thought the harder, Heart the bolder, Mood the more as our might lessens

07-23-2007, 08:51 AM	#3 (permalink)
Jinn Lover - Protector - Teacher Location: Seattle, WA	I like the study, but not the thread title. What does men wanting their women to shut up have to do with this? __________________ "I'm typing on a computer of science, which is being sent by science wires to a little science server where you can access it. I'm not typing on a computer of philosophy or religion or whatever other thing you think can be used to understand the universe because they're a poor substitute in the role of understanding the universe which exists independent from ourselves." - Willravel

07-23-2007, 10:47 AM	#4 (permalink)
ratbastid Darth Papa Location: Yonder	It's neat to see this verified by a study, but I could have told them this. And it's not just girls. Literally what comes out of your mouth IS who you are. When what you say (and what you communicate through action) is negative and full of complaint, the whole rest of life follows. People think it's the other way around, but it's not.

07-23-2007, 02:23 PM	#5 (permalink)
Bear Cub The Reverend Side Boob Location: Nofe Curolina	I'd forward this to my ex, but somehow I don't think the outcome would be favorable on my behalf