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It seems like every one of my ex's has wanted to "remain friends". It's such a cliche really. I think part of the "being friends" request is them making the breakup less abrasive. If they said "get the hell out of my life completely" you'd be hurt that much more. So women think that requesting that you remain friends shows that they still care. However... they also know that men (or women for that matter) cannot be friends right out of a relationship. So it's a win win situation. They can request it and know that it will never happen.
I've also notice that even 12 months later (with someone you really cared about) it's hard to be friends. If you dated (or in my case married) someone you obviously had some pretty strong chemistry in the beginning at one point. That chemistry is always there, it doesn't fade away. It's the end (after being together for a while) that doesn't work for the both of you. So anyway... it's hard to fight off that chemistry and be friends. And furthermore it rarely works. And for me I've been down that path 3 times. All starting out as friends... chemistry taking effect and have a great courtship... but all ending the same way. For now her and I are friends but I insist we stay apart. Meaning we talk over the internet.. sometime a phone call... but never hang out and actually do anything. That would be too dangerous in my mind.
Anyway... good luck with things. I know it's hard.
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