This question really comes down to: is the fantasy of an act tanamount to commission of the act itself.
While I blanch at the comparison of homosexuality and pedophilia, the question really isn't which is more "okay", but whether even something as nasty as pedophelia--in the abstract, the thought or fantasy, absent any action on the part of the pedophile--is necessarily worse than the abstract notion of homosexuality.
I guess I'd say no. Get your (private) kicks wherever you find them. In that way, the mere notion or fantasy of pedopheila is no worse than the fanatasy of straigtforward missionary sex between consenting heterosexual adults. I don't think anybody's fantasy should be judged. My fantasy life is my own, thank you very much. I'm pretty picky who I share it with. *
Actually
acting on homosexual urges versus pedophiliac urges are vastly different things. One's basically a normal expression of (granted, alternative) sexuality that is typically between consenting adults. The other is a horrible abuse that only some of the most depraved individuals would commit.
* Who the hell am I kidding? Seen my journal lately?
