Regarding the age difference, I think you will find that the gap will narrow as you get older, not widen. It is maturity that matters most in that regard, and it seems like you have that covered.
As far as the kids. Well, if the fact that she has kids doesn't bother you, then you are way ahead of the game.
When it comes to financial support, you make do with what you have. I would not let money make your decision like this. Unless she is irresponsible, and her irresponsibility is getting her into deep debt. The main thing is that you can put food in your mouths and a roof over your head, and clothes on your back. It doesn't have to be Filet Mignon, in a palace, wearing designer clothes.
Evaluate what is most important to you (personally AND as a couple). If this is someone you love, trust, and can communicate with, then you can deal with the rest.
Enjoy life, don't dread it.
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