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X_789_X · 02-12-2004, 02:25 AM

A while ago I met a woman who, for lack of a better word, takes my breath away. Everything about her is perfect. We talk for hours on time, we laugh together, share each others pains together, encourage each other etc. I mean, I can honestly say that I love her and mean it. We have talked about marriage but I have yet to propose to her because there is a problem. Well, a couple of problems.

The first is that she's close to 6 years older than I am (me 20, her 26). Usually that would pose no problem but my family feels that 6 years is too big of an age difference. I'm also scared that our agendas, as we get older, might not be the same due to the age difference.

The second problem is that she has two kids from a previous relationship. Now, I mean I love her kids don't get me wrong, but she is already struggling to support them (since their biological father wants nothing to do with them) and I know that, right now, I could do no better either. I mean, as it is now, I do little things to help her out, but I don't think that I could afford to fully support her. I know that might sound odd, but I have no better way to explain it.

So, what I'm wondering is, should I go ahead and ask her to marry me. I love her so much, but I also want to provide for her. I don't care what anyone else thinks, it's just that I don't think I could support a family right now. In some ways, I think I just answered my question but I know that if I let her get away, I'll never be able to forgive myself...

Any suggestions?

02-12-2004, 02:25 AM	#1 (permalink)
X_789_X Upright Location: In The Deep, Deep South...	Should I Pursue? A while ago I met a woman who, for lack of a better word, takes my breath away. Everything about her is perfect. We talk for hours on time, we laugh together, share each others pains together, encourage each other etc. I mean, I can honestly say that I love her and mean it. We have talked about marriage but I have yet to propose to her because there is a problem. Well, a couple of problems. The first is that she's close to 6 years older than I am (me 20, her 26). Usually that would pose no problem but my family feels that 6 years is too big of an age difference. I'm also scared that our agendas, as we get older, might not be the same due to the age difference. The second problem is that she has two kids from a previous relationship. Now, I mean I love her kids don't get me wrong, but she is already struggling to support them (since their biological father wants nothing to do with them) and I know that, right now, I could do no better either. I mean, as it is now, I do little things to help her out, but I don't think that I could afford to fully support her. I know that might sound odd, but I have no better way to explain it. So, what I'm wondering is, should I go ahead and ask her to marry me. I love her so much, but I also want to provide for her. I don't care what anyone else thinks, it's just that I don't think I could support a family right now. In some ways, I think I just answered my question but I know that if I let her get away, I'll never be able to forgive myself... Any suggestions? Last edited by X_789_X; 03-06-2004 at 02:27 PM..