I've had only person, male or female, that I would consider re-starting a relationship with, a good portion of which has to do with our daughter (
http://www.tfproject.org/tfp/showthr...threadid=42662 ).
Anyone who gives you that kind of kiss-off is too immature for a real relationship. Count yourself lucky that you got to find out before the wedding and any children, when undoing a relationship gets truly expensive physically, mentally, emotionally, and monetarily.
FOR YOUR OWN SAKE, NEVER LET THAT BITCH BACK INTO YOUR LIFE.
Hope this helps.