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Wow, lots has been said since I last read this thread.
I understand totally the "other side" of the coin. I use to hate having my SO look at porn. Lebell helped (still helps) me with that. He probably doesn't even realize it; but he'll say things like "I saw a post in Off the Wayside today and kept seeing you in the outfits." Wow, sweet, sexy, fun!
I think the key here, as has been mentioned over and over, is open communication. Porn can be a problem if/when it replaces sex in a relationship and/or is viewed by a sexually deviant person who uses it as a starting point for crime.
At the same time it can be lots of fun when used in a healthy manner: to encourage sexuality and open communication in a relationship for example.
I think what I'm trying to say is "don't get over it." Rather, discuss it with your man. Be open to hearing his views. Explore for yourself. Talk about what works for you and what doesn't as far as his "porn habits." Please, don't let it be a barrior to an otherwise good relationship.
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It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection.
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