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Originally posted by ~springrain
words can hurt deeply...
i try to use care with my words... always being true to myself, but also keeping in mind the other person's feelings...
i would never want to injure another person with my words... not for any reason...
to hurt another person for the simple experience of expressing my words, or "living them to the fullest" does not make me feel good about myself... i have done it in the past... and i didn't like the person i saw in the mirror...
there is enough negativity and bullshit in the world... enough pain...
do i OWE it to anyone to take care with my words? perhaps not... but i still do take care... i want to live in joy and love... hard to do that when you're buried under words and rhetoric.
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On the other hand, how much should you censor yourself from your real feelings and thoughts to protect others?
I preface all of my relationships with the knowledge that I will be open, honest, and that I am not going to intentially try to hurt anyone... that helps, but sometimes the truth hurts. Sometimes there is no way to say something in a genuinely nice sounding way.
In the end, I can't handle living with weights on my chest, and that is why I've adopted this practice. People's feelings have been hurt, and I have been apologetic, but not feeling or thinking those things - but for wording them in a hurtful way. Beating around the bush, or hiding things all together encourages decadence, weakness, etc. I say - it's better to have everything in open so that you can work with it.