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Go to the funeral. Ignore the dickhead husband. Pay your respects to her, and to her family as long as you're good with them still. THAT will mean the world to them. As far as personal closure, I'm sorry for your loss... but let me put this into perspective a moment.
Two people who loved each other so much decide to go their seperate ways. Perhaps there was no closure because there's no possible way to select a "closure option" for such a strong bond. You couldn't very well have just said "well fuck this", nor could you continue to dwell on it. Do you really want to think of her, in your memories of her, as something you had to categorize or "finalize"?
If love is truly everlasting, as I belive it is, then there will often not be such closure. As others have said- just because she's now gone from this world, does not mean she cannot live on in spirit through your love for her. You can "what if" anything in life, don't bother with it for soemthing as important as a memory of a lost love, it'll chew you up.
Best luck and wishes...
-analog.
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