Different people celebrate the life of a lost friend or relative in different ways. Some people need things like memorial services. These can be good when the person involved in the service is very close to the person lost. If not they tend to get overly religious and preachy without focusing on why they are there.
I prefer to skip all memorial services. Instead I like to do something like start a campfire and sit down with one or maybe two other people. (Not too many - this is not a party). These folks can know her, or only just you, or maybe both of you. Either way, sit around the fire with maybe a LITTLE booze (this should not be a time to get faced) and tell some stories about that person. Remember some good things and cleanse yourself (hope you are comfy crying in front of the person you have at the fire). Celebrate what was good and maybe even see if there is anything that that person taught you in either life or death that you can use to make things just a little better.
Sorry about the loss. The wife beater deadbeat will get his. Don't you worry about making sure. Forget about him and he will get his on his own in his very own personal hell.
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All truth passes through three stages:
First it is ridiculed
Second, it is violently opposed and
Third, it is accepted as self-evident.
ARTHUR SCHOPENHAUER (1788-1860)
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