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Jizzosh · 02-04-2004, 02:39 AM

I'm still considered young by most at 24.

That being said, I'm finally going to college after taking a few years off to work, and being around 18-22 year olds all the time, I'll say this:

I started dating my girlfriend over 4 years ago, I was 20, she was 17. She was mature for her age, smart, all around awesome. However, our relationship has taken lots and lots of work in order to stay as healthy as it's been over the past 4 years. The age difference was fairly minor in the early stages of our relationship, in fact, she was more experienced than I was in most ways, so while there was an age difference of 3 years, there was a general maturity difference of very little. That was how our relationship was able to work.

That being said, there was a discrepancy of life experience that made our relationship very difficult at times. I had done the drinking and partying thing when I was her age, and so when she was starting to get into that, I was already done. Source of conflict

Overall, I'd say that there are always special cases. 999/1000 times, I would say that someone 25 should never even think to date someone 16-17, but there's always some relationship that could prove that wrong.

Because I'm back in college, I'm working a part time disposable retail job. Most of my co-workers are 16-20, so I get hit on a lot by my younger co-workers. They know I'll laugh it off because I'm in a committed relationship, but attraction between men and women is natural, so they like to toy with me and tell me how they feel to make me crazy.

Now the hormonal responses make my body go, "hey, she's hot... if you were single, you should hook that up." but my brain retorts, "Are you crazy?? As hot as a mature, smart, intelligent, legal (16 is the age of consent in NV) gorgeous girl is, I have absolutely no desire to deal with the differences and difficulties that would be involved in such a relationship."

In the simplest terms, I've met and known 16 year olds that could handle relationships with older people, and I've met older people who have younger maturity levels and who would therefore be better matched with younger mates. But its usually only matched within a small number of years. 16 dating 19 maybe, 18 dating 22 maybe, but I highly doubt I'll ever meet the couple with an age diffence of 10 years, where one party is still in High school, that seems to make sense.

My 2 cents...

02-04-2004, 02:39 AM	#113 (permalink)
Jizzosh Insane Location: Beijing, China	I'm still considered young by most at 24. That being said, I'm finally going to college after taking a few years off to work, and being around 18-22 year olds all the time, I'll say this: I started dating my girlfriend over 4 years ago, I was 20, she was 17. She was mature for her age, smart, all around awesome. However, our relationship has taken lots and lots of work in order to stay as healthy as it's been over the past 4 years. The age difference was fairly minor in the early stages of our relationship, in fact, she was more experienced than I was in most ways, so while there was an age difference of 3 years, there was a general maturity difference of very little. That was how our relationship was able to work. That being said, there was a discrepancy of life experience that made our relationship very difficult at times. I had done the drinking and partying thing when I was her age, and so when she was starting to get into that, I was already done. Source of conflict Overall, I'd say that there are always special cases. 999/1000 times, I would say that someone 25 should never even think to date someone 16-17, but there's always some relationship that could prove that wrong. Because I'm back in college, I'm working a part time disposable retail job. Most of my co-workers are 16-20, so I get hit on a lot by my younger co-workers. They know I'll laugh it off because I'm in a committed relationship, but attraction between men and women is natural, so they like to toy with me and tell me how they feel to make me crazy. Now the hormonal responses make my body go, "hey, she's hot... if you were single, you should hook that up." but my brain retorts, "Are you crazy?? As hot as a mature, smart, intelligent, legal (16 is the age of consent in NV) gorgeous girl is, I have absolutely no desire to deal with the differences and difficulties that would be involved in such a relationship." In the simplest terms, I've met and known 16 year olds that could handle relationships with older people, and I've met older people who have younger maturity levels and who would therefore be better matched with younger mates. But its usually only matched within a small number of years. 16 dating 19 maybe, 18 dating 22 maybe, but I highly doubt I'll ever meet the couple with an age diffence of 10 years, where one party is still in High school, that seems to make sense. My 2 cents... __________________ I'm never gonna know you now... but I'm gonna love you anyhow -Elliott Smith