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Originally posted by wry1
I think it's probably easier to be in a long-distance relationship if that's how you meet. I'm in one right now, and while I'm terribly anxious to finally get out there and spend time with her, I also don't have the sense of something "missing" that usually comes when a "normal" relationship turns long-distance.
If you love your SO, give it everything you've got. That way, no matter what happens, you'll be able to know that you did everything in your power to make this work. And if it works out for you, then so much the better!
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I think it depends on a lot of factors. Mainly commitment, and reciprocity, honesty, maintaining independence, and trust.
I'm in one for a while, and while I miss her when I don't get to see her, I feel ok because there isn't any doubt in my mind or her's that this is what we want and that eventually it won't be a long-distance relationship.
On the other hand, I had a couple friends that fell for girls that lived really far away and ended up having butchered relationships that didn't last long. One found himself completely committed to someone that wasn't committed to him at all, she cheated on him. The other fell for her on the phone and internet, when she met him... dear god, one of the worst debacles I've ever witnessed. She decided to be lesbian for a few years after that one, and I don't blame her. In the case of the last situation, everything was "normal" until they finally met.
I guess the point is that these situations can work out, but you need to keep your head on your shoulders and really pay attention to what the other person is saying. Be honest, and if you feel it is worth it, put all you can into making it work.