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Originally posted by Charlatan
Don't try to be your kids best friend.
Also... what works when they are 5 is not necessarily what works when they are 16.
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Why not? There can, however be different definitons for "best friend". A best friend doesn't narrow options, a best friend listens, a best friend doesn't hold you back, a best friend doesn't ignore you, a best friend helps make aware of consequences, but doesn't say what to do, a best friend friend doesn't judge, a best friend gives privacy, a best friend doesn't lie, a best friend respects you, and a best friend- most importantly- lets you be who you are.
I may be rambling, sorry. But my point is that there can be a "teenage best friend" but there can be a "parent best friend". You don't have to act like them, try to get into their activities/hobbies, push to talk..........A "parent best friend" listens. And they give their child (5 or 16) the space to be who they are.
Too many limitations, lack of respect, honesty, or care lead the child to be withdrawn, rebellious, and even sometimes vengelful because the parents weren't there for them, didn't care, or didn't trust them.
Hey, I can stand to be "hated" when my son gets older, but I can lessen it by being a "parent best friend."