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Originally posted by illesturban
Holo,
I read your reply and have to disagree slightly with what you said about him "not respecting his decisions." What is that!? I mean come on, obviously Parker is friends with this guy AND his wife, and probably greatly respects BOTH of them and doesn't want to see his friend make a decision that he is not only making for himself, but also for his wife and his two children...and that's the end of a marriage. If he is unhappy with his marital situation he should end it without cheating. As a child of divorce based partially on a cheating situation, I know it tears a family apart.
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That's why I said advice "as a man", like Man to Man. There are things men (especially friends) don't do to each other. One is not snitching on him to his wife. Men have rules among them and male relationships depend on these rules due to the lack of intimacy between males. He can try talking to his friend about it, tell him he thinks he's fucking up, but then he's gotta back off and let his friend handle his business. Male friendships are a very tenous thing, and no guy likes his friend snitching on him, even if he's wrong. That's what I meant.
I'm a divorce kid too, and my dad cheated as well, but it didn't destroy the home on it's own. Cheating is just a symptom of a diseased relationship. It alone doesn't hurt the kids. Everything that leads up to cheating does: the fighting , the silences, the little digs at the dinner table right in front of you, one parent telling you private shit about the other, and putting you in the middle when they won't speak to one another. That's what destroys children. Not your dad going and fucking someone that you have no idea about since most kids don't keep up on their parent's sex lives. His friend obviously isn't happy in his marriage and should prolly try and work it out, but he isn't. It's up to him, you make the choice for him he'll resent you.