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As far as being the perfect parent I dont know if there is one. There will be second guessing specially for the first time parents. You wont always be wondering should I do this, have I done that right, should I have done this rather then that, but the questions will be there. As they get older they try to test your limits seeing how much they can get away with. You are going to hear I hate you or Just leave me alone. I m not saying all kids are going to do this but so far with everyone that I know that is a parent they have heard it. Doesnt mean that they dont love you they are just trying to see what they can get away with and upset when they get stoped.
When they are young they love you unconditionally, as they get older you have to insure them that you love them, they may not aways say it back you just have to know that they do, and by telling them constantly insures them you do.
Always know where your child is, the best thing you could ever do. Dont ever let them get out of reach. Tell them everytime they leave the house that you love them and becareful. Sure they are going to think its stupid, repetative or lame and any other "cool" term that comes up but atleast they know that you do love them and worry about them.
Set aside time to have a one on one with them even if its just watching cartoons, or going for a walk drawing, holding them in your arms if they are a baby, anything just spend time with them alone. You can do this at any age. Build that parent child bond between you so that they do feel comfortable to come and talk to you about anything and everything. Doesnt matter what time just pick an hour out of the day and talk to your child(ren). Get to know them even if they are only a few weeks or months old and sleeping they still know whats going on. They are individuals so spending time with each one on their own with you is equally important as spending together as a family.
Dont be afraid to let go. Just instill in them your trust and love and hope that they remember everything you taught them and will still teach them. They are always going to be your babies no matter how old they are. I m 27 years old and my mom still calls me her little girl.
I dont know if this helps, anyone but this is just what I have been taught I am a young mother I had my son when I was 19. I know some have had children when they were younger then me but this is everything that I have seen growing up. Everything that my mom taught me and what I hope to teach to my son.
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I couldnt think of anything to put here , but I guess anything would do
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