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This entire thread has a huge problem, like many philisophical discussions, of semantics...
What is "cheating"? What is "in love" and what is "in a relationship"
For the simple sake of continuing the discussion, can we all agree that cheating is breaking the bond of trust (contract) formed in a relationship?
Love, well, that is an entirely new thread for the philosophy board, but for the moment lets define that simply as a commited sexually active relationship with an individual (other than ones-self you narcissists out there) and...
Relationship means something like a spoken or unspoken understanding that the two individuals are committed to continuing to associate for emotional and other enjoyment....?
If we can...
Nope, never cheated.
It's all about the contract and how sex is associated with love in a given pair, group, whatever. As Mot put it, there is such a thing as polyamory (we love you ALL!). There are also swingers, who do not typically fall "in love" with their additional sex partners (it's all physical), and then there's cheaters (SHHHHHHH).
The fundamental difference involves nothing more than the breaking of a contract. If your contract forbids extra-curricular sexual relations, then you're cheating if you do. Most modern couples have accepted and expect that to be part of the unspoken agreement. One who understands that is OBLIGATED to clarify the issue should they intend or wish to deviate. It's sort of the standard contract when you commit to exclusivity, but so long as the agreement is voluntary by all parties, any way you choose to do it is valid.
An individual of integrity would NEVER "cheat"
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