Hmmm. I think we all realize that others see things differently, but that doesn't change the fact that we all think we're right
The way I see it is, if you make race an issue, then it's an issue. If you don't make race an issue, then it's not an issue. So why not make it a non issue? Quit worrying about what color someone is and start worrying about how they behave, who they are, etc.