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wraith41 · 01-26-2004, 06:42 PM

Ok I have been a long time lurker on the boards here, but this thread finally got me to break out of my shell.

Firstly, I totally agree with Plan on everything he says, I do my best to live this stuff everyday. Some of you might describe it as "game playing" but, as pointed out before, dating is all a game of social thrusts and parries. To the girls who say guys play games, yea, well so do women. Guys are tested, whether they realize or not, by women all the time. How far they're willing to let them push their buttons, whether they know when to put their foot down, etc. To be fair, I don't think girls consciously do this sort of thing, like "Hmm, I think I'll see if he puts up with a weird spaz out tonight at dinner."
On the flip side, women can giggle and toss their way out of a problem, flirting is something most have mastered into an art form that they sometimes they use as a means to end. Is this not also game playing?
I believe this advice is about a guy having a gameplan (no pun intended) for himself. Something to show himself that he does actually have a backbone, he can actually have his own opinion, he does not have to follow status quo, and be a man.
Also, why does everyone think this advice is only about one night stands? Plan has repeated himself on the fact that you <i>can</i> pursue something meaningful if you so chose. Its simple, to borrow from his above story for a minute, don't kiss other girls if you want one.

Girls, if you don't like a confident guy who breaks out of the box instead of being the typical mold, fine. We'll move along to the next table. Guys, if you want to hope the sappy love story thing works, well, keep enough money in your wallet for dinner

01-26-2004, 06:42 PM	#334 (permalink)
wraith41 Upright	Ok I have been a long time lurker on the boards here, but this thread finally got me to break out of my shell. Firstly, I totally agree with Plan on everything he says, I do my best to live this stuff everyday. Some of you might describe it as "game playing" but, as pointed out before, dating is all a game of social thrusts and parries. To the girls who say guys play games, yea, well so do women. Guys are tested, whether they realize or not, by women all the time. How far they're willing to let them push their buttons, whether they know when to put their foot down, etc. To be fair, I don't think girls consciously do this sort of thing, like "Hmm, I think I'll see if he puts up with a weird spaz out tonight at dinner." On the flip side, women can giggle and toss their way out of a problem, flirting is something most have mastered into an art form that they sometimes they use as a means to end. Is this not also game playing? I believe this advice is about a guy having a gameplan (no pun intended) for himself. Something to show himself that he does actually have a backbone, he can actually have his own opinion, he does not have to follow status quo, and be a man. Also, why does everyone think this advice is only about one night stands? Plan has repeated himself on the fact that you <i>can</i> pursue something meaningful if you so chose. Its simple, to borrow from his above story for a minute, don't kiss other girls if you want one. Girls, if you don't like a confident guy who breaks out of the box instead of being the typical mold, fine. We'll move along to the next table. Guys, if you want to hope the sappy love story thing works, well, keep enough money in your wallet for dinner Last edited by wraith41; 01-26-2004 at 06:45 PM..