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I have cheated a time or two during drunken evenings while involved in insignificant relationships, but am horribly ashamed to admit that on one occasion I cheated on someone I loved while I was totallly IN LOVE with them. I did not have an "excuse" that I wasn't happy with her or that I wasn't getting sufficient sex. Instead, I cheated b/c I thought it would be exciting and justified it by convincing myself that this was purely a "sex-thing," meant nothing to me and, therefore, really should mean nothing to her. Well, it was just a "sex-thing" and meant nothing to me. However, immediately after it was over I felt completely sick to my stomach and ovewrought with guilt. I realized that while it did not change my feelings for my girlfriend, it created a permanent stain in my mind on a previously pure relationship. This was true even though I refused to let the event have an overt impact on how I treated my girlfriend or our relationship. With time the feelings of guilt subsided, but I have never forgotten how the event of cheating can forever change a relationship and have proceeded accordingly.
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