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Holo · 01-17-2004, 05:14 PM

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Originally posted by Plan9
See, I sort of disagree. I don't care if I am told that they are STD free, untill I personally know they went to the clinic.. got tested.. and came up negative, then I will not go condom free. Yes, there are always exceptions to what I said, for instance like you said, if your partner lied to you and cheated with somebody who had a disease thus giving it to you. Same thing with the rape situation you mentioned. However, in the grand scheme of things those cases account for an extremely small amount of the people who have STDs. The major cause of getting them is being ignorant to them and irresponsible. To think otherwise is to lump yourself into the ignorant category.

The reason why I say this is the girl I knew did get herpes from her SO about 1.5 years into a relationship. No problems or anything the first year and a half, then all the sudden a major breakout. She didn't cheat, and tho the guy said he didn't all of the sudden she spontaneously gets herpes. I knew her and I know she wouldn't be the cheating type, so it leads back to him. It does happen is all I'm saying. If they fucked up by being ignorant then ok...but not all made dumb choices to get STDs. Rapists dont' obviously give a shit about their victims so they'll give their victims anything they have, and it isn't like they have a choice. That's all I'm saying. Until you know the circumstances you can't judge them as being irresponsible. I can understand you not wanting to be involved, but if this situation ever happens to you, try to be as nice about it as possible since you don't really know what happened. If you fear getting an STD I don't fault you for that, just remember when you turn them down this person is a human and has feelings too.