Sorry if somebody already said this, but man are there ever some long posts to read in this thread.
Anyhoo, clearly you have no problem getting acquainted with women, or they wouldn't even have the opportunity to give you the friends excuse. I noticed, however, that your original post is absolutely riddled with self-deprecation. No doubt you're more willing to be emo to people you've never spoken to in person, but this does show a great deal of self-underconfidence on your part. A lot of times (most times), this can lead to a guy opening up way too much to a girl he has feelings for, which can scare a girl off, usually resulting in the tried-and-true "friends" bail-out. I used to have this problem ALL the time.
If you're being good and not, in fact, opening up like this, then the problem is probably just the lack of self-confidence in and of itself. You may think you're covering it up, but women can sense these things.
I've found that a good solution for gaining self-confidence, is to just fake it until you believe it yourself. I know that sounds sketchy, but when you do something enough, it becomes natural, to the point where the problem disappears.
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