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Originally posted by onionmon
BTW, women, I would appreciate it if you also comment about how you would feel if your good male buddy asked you.
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Off course, I'm only speaking about my own opinion, not on behalf of the whole female population... But my advise, is not to ask her.
A relationship based upon sex -where no "love" is involved- can exist, this requires good agreements, but it is off course possible. But when you had a previous relationship with each other, I think this could be a tricky thing. The sex can remind one of the 'parties' (or both) of the better times and can trigger past emotions. I don't think I could have sex with a "previous lover" without again feeling what I once felt for him (this means the good, loving-feelings and/or the hurt or anger felt during the break-up).
Anyway, this off course is just my own opinion.
I think that she might feel offended in a way, or if you do "get lucky" this might cause future problems... In this way, you risk a seemable good friendship.
But if you do want to ask her, one tip: don't be too direct about it! You'd better camouflage it into a sort of 'joking-question' like, if she never misses the sex you both had, or something similar. See how she responds to that one first before actually suggesting it!