It sounds like you're defeating yourself by thinking too much about what's going on and what kind of prospect you are. We've all been there, and it's a nasty rut to get out of. I think what you have isn't a lack of confidence so much as insecurity. And you know, the best cure for that is diet and exercise. By exercise, I mean running and lifting weights, not a regular evening stroll. You want results? You gotta earn 'em. But it'll be worth it. By diet, I don't mean just cutting out a bunch of calories and/or fat. You have to look at a different, structured way of eating, whether it's Atkins or something prescribed by your doctor. You get out of it only what you put in. But diet and exercise will make you feel a lot better about yourself. So will buying some new clothes to fit your new body
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