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sexymama · 01-10-2004, 09:10 AM

Communication is definitely the key!

I know that I'm much more excited about sex when he "makes love to me all day long." I know that is a cliche -- but it is true. When Lebell touches me, nibbles my neck, gazes at me with love, calls to say hi, . . . I know he loves me for more than just sex and I am much more "ready" when the time presents itself.

It isn't always easy with children around. But the sad fact is they grow up and move on. It is very important to take time for yourself and your mate. You want a lifetime with him (I hope) and that lifetime starts now. My counselor always says: one date a week, one weekend a month, and one week a year away from the children. I never hit that with my ex; and he is an ex. Lebell and I plan to hit that target! Our relationship comes first. And I don't feel guilty about that as I believe we are being positive models of how to take care of ourselves, for the children.

Enough on my philosophy -- maybe it is time for counseling for you. It could be other "things" are getting in the way or are needed. Best of luck!

01-10-2004, 09:10 AM	#3 (permalink)
sexymama My own person -- his by choice Location: Lebell's arms	Communication is definitely the key! I know that I'm much more excited about sex when he "makes love to me all day long." I know that is a cliche -- but it is true. When Lebell touches me, nibbles my neck, gazes at me with love, calls to say hi, . . . I know he loves me for more than just sex and I am much more "ready" when the time presents itself. It isn't always easy with children around. But the sad fact is they grow up and move on. It is very important to take time for yourself and your mate. You want a lifetime with him (I hope) and that lifetime starts now. My counselor always says: one date a week, one weekend a month, and one week a year away from the children. I never hit that with my ex; and he is an ex. Lebell and I plan to hit that target! Our relationship comes first. And I don't feel guilty about that as I believe we are being positive models of how to take care of ourselves, for the children. Enough on my philosophy -- maybe it is time for counseling for you. It could be other "things" are getting in the way or are needed. Best of luck! __________________ If you can go deeply into lovemaking, the ego disappears. That is the beauty of lovemaking, that it is another source of a glimpse of god It's not about being perfect; it's about developing some skill at managing imperfection. Last edited by sexymama; 01-10-2004 at 09:12 AM..