ok, firstly i've got to somewhat echo what Ladyhawke said - you need to be secure in yourself first, no matter what.
there's just something in your tone that makes me a bit nervous...
but that's for you to think about on your own
perhaps it's just that you're younger than i - not jaded or bitter or cautious yet
and in general, i want to add to the encouragement - such relationships *can* work, you just need a shitload of patience and determination.
example - me + bf -
met online April 2002. fell in 'love' online. met IRL in July 2002. hhe lost his virginity to me. we were together until sept 12, 2002. then he went back to germany, and i stayed in minnesota. until Dec 17, 2002 when i got on a one-way plane to move to germany to be with him.
over a year later, i still think that was one of the best thigs/decisions that ever happened to me.
so, it CAN work.
just, be mature, be smart, be careful with your expectations. but if things feel truly right in your heart and soul, be willing to make sacrifices so you can be together. be patient, but keep the fires burning.
i wish you the best of luck, and i/we are here for you if you need more advise/support.
