My wife and I have been happily married for 15 years (16 years Aug. 1). We haven't had any serious problems to speak of, and unlike a lot of married people we know we can actually stand the sight of each other.
One thing I would advise is to do some serious soul searching about the nature of your relationship. Is it mostly a sexual attraction, or is this someone you would enjoy being with even if there was no possibility of sex? Looks fade, sexual attraction fades, and the frequency of sex itself is likely to diminish as the years go by. I think a lot of marriages go bad when all that stuff starts to fade away and people realize that just because they had the hots for each other at one time didn't necessarily mean they were compatible for a lifetime of marriage. It sounds corny but it's really true -- the best marriages really are based primarily on friendship.
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