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There are some guys who just don't ever learn certain things. Since hubby and I got married almost 5 years ago I have recieved ONE bunch of flowers. He used to give me flowers for any and every occaision. I have dropped hints and outright ASKED for them but nothing has happened. I've just turned to buying the flowers for myself when we can afford them.
As far as the affection and saying loving things. I think that is very important. Hubby and I went through some hard bumps just after our girl was born. He refused to tell me he loved me because he didn't want to say it if he didn't feel it or have that gooshy feeling anyway. He's learned since then that the love a couple is talking about when they say "I love you" is more often the simple I know I care for you and not always the mushy feelings. Until we both learned that we had a lot of trouble sharing affection with the other when they needed it. Being married doesn't mean the puppy love goes away but it is the kind of love that isn't there EVERY day, day in and day out. The love you have in marriage is a quieter love. It takes time and effort to recognize it. I hope I didn't just ramble too much. I wish you the best.
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