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Rodney · 12-30-2003, 08:38 AM

You're going to have to either separate the friendship love from the romantic love, or you're going to have to break it off. If you don't, it'll probably leave both of you in painful limbo for a very long time and eventually end badly. Like, when she develops a boyfriend....

And I hate to say it, but she's part of the problem, too. She knows you're in lust and in conflict, but isn't doing anything about it. Possibly she likes the emotional support she gets from your relationship, and maybe likes the fact that she doesn't have to pay anything (ie, commit) for it. Might even like the idea that you're smitten with her, be good for her self-confidence.

All I'm saying is, if she's not not interested in anything past friendship but knows you go to bed every night and make fantasy love to her, _and she's not trying to resolve that with you,_ then this relationship -- be it sexual or strictly friendship -- is in trouble. Resolve it, split, or both.

12-30-2003, 08:38 AM	#19 (permalink)
Rodney Observant Ruminant Location: Rich Wannabe Hippie Town	You're going to have to either separate the friendship love from the romantic love, or you're going to have to break it off. If you don't, it'll probably leave both of you in painful limbo for a very long time and eventually end badly. Like, when she develops a boyfriend.... And I hate to say it, but she's part of the problem, too. She knows you're in lust and in conflict, but isn't doing anything about it. Possibly she likes the emotional support she gets from your relationship, and maybe likes the fact that she doesn't have to pay anything (ie, commit) for it. Might even like the idea that you're smitten with her, be good for her self-confidence. All I'm saying is, if she's not not interested in anything past friendship but knows you go to bed every night and make fantasy love to her, _and she's not trying to resolve that with you,_ then this relationship -- be it sexual or strictly friendship -- is in trouble. Resolve it, split, or both. Last edited by Rodney; 12-30-2003 at 09:21 AM..