12-23-2003, 06:12 PM
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Originally posted by Jesus Pimp
Maybe I'm doing something wrong with my attitude. Can you guys describe the kind of attitude that will help people perceive more as an adult?
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those who act "more mature" in my mind tend to do the following: - appropriate language. despite the media perception, very few folks cuss a blue streak. the more mature people that i know can eloquently express themselves without having to resort to profanity. it also has the added benefit of giving that occasional oath that much more force.
- educated language. in other words, "sup homeeeeeey" would be replaced with "hi, how are you?" nothing in my mind speaks maturity than someone with a firm command of the english language and grammar. in addition, eloquence and clear speech does wonders.
- self confidance. this is a toughie, cause you can only really get it through the experience of living. however, if you want to start to appear poised, you'll have to concentrate on finding and eliminating nervous habits like clenched teeth, shoulders, nail biting, fidgeting, and so on. act relaxed, be relaxed, and (when appropriate) smile easily.
- dress. it has been mentioned, but a button-down shirt over a sweatshirt will help. clean-cut hair (short if you're a guy) helps immensely.
- not self-centered. subtle, but i consider a more mature person one who asks questions about me instead of prattling on about themselves in a conversation. while talking about themselves is okay, they don't go on and on and on - a short story is about it before giving the floor up to someone else. and while we're at it....
- good conversation skills. look people in the eye, don't stare (alternate which eye you look at several times), speak as clearly as you can. allow your voice to have some emotion, but don't go nuts. self-control is key here.
it takes practice - i honestly don't think i started being mature until well out of college.
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