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Originally posted by Steffi
I don't really mind it when my SO looks at porn. At first it kind of upset me, but then I realized that I needed to "get over it." I realized that these girls are only there for him to look at, but with me he gets the whole deal. He can talk to me, look at me, and touch me. He can't do all that with the girls on his computer. I'm not saying that sometimes I don't feel insecure when I see those girls on his computer, but there has to be a reason as to why he chose me. So I guess what I'm saying is to basically "get over it", and look at the positive things instead of the negative things.
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I can "get over" the porn/celebrity/other woman watching and lusting for thing what I can't get over is the idea that I'm being used as some sort of cum rag when he gets turned on by these images,other people.The idea that I'm also supposed to be grateful for the fact that he gets his appetite elsewhere but only eats at home is also pretty upsetting.
In thinking about it the idea of an open,non-sexually exclusive relationship seems less upsetting than the thought that a guy has to really struggle to remain sexually faithful to me and that
I am so sexually undesirable that he needs a ton of outside stimulation in order to poke me in the dark.
If other women turn you on,pursue them if you'd like,if porn or 2D images float your boat, go ahead and enjoy them to full climax..just don't come trotting into our bedroom,turn off the lights and act like you're doing me some sort of favor by screwing me while in your head you're with somebody else.
I'd gladly settle for a lot less sex if the sex I do have actually involves some real lust,desire and love for me not just using me as a substitute that has to be settled for.