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analog · 12-21-2003, 01:27 AM

I really hope Art or i8one2 respond to this.

Either she's bi, or very bi-curious and just likes to kiss other girls. Some girls like making out/groping other girls, but wouldn't have sex or a relationship with one.

The thing is, you're looking at this in BLACK and WHITE. You see it as either bad & abnormal or just paranoia.

The fact is, you're not considering her point of view. To her, this "behavior" is her normal way of doing things, her modus operandi, her "thing". It's who she is and what she does. You seem to think that the type of person that she is depends on what you find acceptable or are willing to accept.

I'm not saying this is all your fault, in fact I think you have a great thing going and I applaud you for being as open-minded as you already are. Either her ways are something you're going to be into, or they're not. Don't try to change her, it's not your job to restrain another's "wild" ways. You're either along for the ride or it's not your cup of tea.

Talk to her about the kissing thing. Tell her how you feel about it and that you wonder if it's something you should worry about. Being as she seems to really enjoy the Dom/sub thing, she MAY be into a whole lot of things you know nothing about, and may not be cool with.

Does she like to bite, or be bitten, especially during sex? How about deep scratching? Has she ever mentioned being tied up? If you said yes to any of these questions, you MAY have a different type of girl on your hands than you know. _I_ am a different type of guy than you'd think, and my private life is very much different from my more public life.

Good and bad don't exist. It's either what you are or are not comfortable with that will dictate the future of your relationship.

Best of luck to you! It sounds like you can both learn from each other, and I always like a good love story!

12-21-2003, 01:27 AM	#28 (permalink)
analog Banned	I really hope Art or i8one2 respond to this. Either she's bi, or very bi-curious and just likes to kiss other girls. Some girls like making out/groping other girls, but wouldn't have sex or a relationship with one. The thing is, you're looking at this in BLACK and WHITE. You see it as either bad & abnormal or just paranoia. The fact is, you're not considering her point of view. To her, this "behavior" is her normal way of doing things, her modus operandi, her "thing". It's who she is and what she does. You seem to think that the type of person that she is depends on what you find acceptable or are willing to accept. I'm not saying this is all your fault, in fact I think you have a great thing going and I applaud you for being as open-minded as you already are. Either her ways are something you're going to be into, or they're not. Don't try to change her, it's not your job to restrain another's "wild" ways. You're either along for the ride or it's not your cup of tea. Talk to her about the kissing thing. Tell her how you feel about it and that you wonder if it's something you should worry about. Being as she seems to really enjoy the Dom/sub thing, she MAY be into a whole lot of things you know nothing about, and may not be cool with. Does she like to bite, or be bitten, especially during sex? How about deep scratching? Has she ever mentioned being tied up? If you said yes to any of these questions, you MAY have a different type of girl on your hands than you know. _I_ am a different type of guy than you'd think, and my private life is very much different from my more public life. Good and bad don't exist. It's either what you are or are not comfortable with that will dictate the future of your relationship. Best of luck to you! It sounds like you can both learn from each other, and I always like a good love story! Last edited by analog; 12-21-2003 at 02:30 AM..