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wry1 · 12-19-2003, 05:15 AM

Is there really any difference between "Breaking Up" and "Taking a Break"?

I don't think so.

What you really need to be asking yourself is: do I really love this girl? Because if you do, then stay with her. Even if she's abroad, keep the relationship alive. Oh sure, it's definitely hard work, but it's the only way you'll have a hope in Hell of hanging on to "the one"....if she is that for you.

If you two go your separate ways in the relationship - even if it's just "temporary" - then I can assure you that things won't even be remotely the same when she returns. Life will have intruded too far into each of your worlds, and the people who fell for each other will no longer be the same. That's not to say that Life won't be effecting you both anyway, but if you're working at keeping together, then it's something you're both having happen together....get it?

As for the whole "what if" issue...what if you get shipped out of the UK, what if...etc. Don't worry about it. Deal with it if it happens...but don't make it the basis for any decisions you need to make.

That's the best advice I can give you. Hope it helps.

12-19-2003, 05:15 AM	#14 (permalink)
wry1 Loser Location: Far too far from my Angel....	Is there really any difference between "Breaking Up" and "Taking a Break"? I don't think so. What you really need to be asking yourself is: do I really love this girl? Because if you do, then stay with her. Even if she's abroad, keep the relationship alive. Oh sure, it's definitely hard work, but it's the only way you'll have a hope in Hell of hanging on to "the one"....if she is that for you. If you two go your separate ways in the relationship - even if it's just "temporary" - then I can assure you that things won't even be remotely the same when she returns. Life will have intruded too far into each of your worlds, and the people who fell for each other will no longer be the same. That's not to say that Life won't be effecting you both anyway, but if you're working at keeping together, then it's something you're both having happen together....get it? As for the whole "what if" issue...what if you get shipped out of the UK, what if...etc. Don't worry about it. Deal with it if it happens...but don't make it the basis for any decisions you need to make. That's the best advice I can give you. Hope it helps.